Habits - ‘I Live’
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast where we forget about yesterday. We don't worry about tomorrow. It's what are we going to do today? This all matters because you've only ever had or will ever have the fantastic twenty four hours a day you're about to embark on. So hopefully this episode is going to give you some daily dose of wisdom that you can take action on today to improve your life.
Speaker 1:And remember, all it takes is one day at a time. Good morning everyone, I hope you're having a good day and you haven't bought into any cabs for Covid conspiracy theories. This conspiracy is not true, please don't believe it but I had a really really really good chat yesterday Q and A with Donald and Leila, the knowledge they both got combined is nuts just asking anything about ancient times and you learn whatever, you ask any question about it they can answer. One thing that Leila did say that I absolutely loved is, habit, so habit means I think she said in Latin is I live so you know talk about habitat is where you live. So a habit is something you live it's not something you just do it's not like, oh, I'll add this habit to me and then hopefully it changes my life.
Speaker 1:It doesn't work like I really, if you think about it and the meaning itself is like to ingrain a habit is to live it, is to become it in a sense that you're not doing it for a laugh and you're not going to revert back to your true self. So you need to start looking at the habits you're building as you like is the habits you are trying to build you becoming more the person you want to become. For example, like is the habit of waking up earlier, something you want to live like you want to live the early morning life and it is amazing when you wake up early because you have that quietness and stuff is good. Like the habit of always going to eat junk food when feeling a slight bit of stress like you're living a life of reliance on junk food and stuff, answering all kind of like taking over from a bit of stress like do you want to is that something you want to live become and you like you have to look at the negatives as well obviously so it is important and I think it's time you should map out what habits you want to build and look at them as something you need to live and become not something you do, do know I mean?
Speaker 1:Do you understand? I hope so, I think that's good I think I loved that what she said. Another thing Donla mentioned like I didn't even know like he was working Harley Street and he'd go out to shops and like saying stories about you know going out to the shop with people who suffered from like social anxiety and stuff and I think he said he had a client who you know was had anxiety about cracking their pants because that was something happened and they sometimes didn't have control over it so he would go to the shop and go up to the you know the shop assistant and stuff and say I'm really sorry but you I've cracked my pants here like you know is there a toilet and he did it in front of the person. Had that anxiety thing and he's like he's basically saying you if you expose yourself to these things over and over they eventually lose their power over you. You're saying you know about going into a shop and saying I think I left my book here earlier and they go what's the title of the book and he was like how to deal with social anxiety and you say it out loud so everybody knows that you've got social anxiety and eventually like does it really matter?
Speaker 1:What are the stories that you have? Oh god, just stuff like in the going up and asking someone on a date or whatever it may be And he said even Albert Ellis, the father of cognitive behavioral therapy, he struggled to get dates and ask people on a date. So he asked 100 women on a date and one of them said yes. But in the end, it didn't even matter that it was the one that said yes, he was so used to going up and asking someone on the date that eventually that fear didn't paralyze him. So it is about repetition, it's about exposing yourself to these things that you do fear or you get anxious about And like, you know, I said another thing to Donald, sometimes when we're with our best friends, we can do these things because we've got our confidence that if we look silly, our friend is there and we can do stuff that we wouldn't do alone.
Speaker 1:We can't be reliant on our friends, like my friend Phil. So Donald said, know, do stuff when he go out for drink, and he'll knock a drink over on purpose. So you know, be like, I'm just like silly. And then if he knocked it over on purpose, you're not going to worry about doing that later on. I mean, my friend Phil, I remember him when I was in uni, there was this thing called drink a bar dry and you know, you had to go up and get your drinks.
Speaker 1:And you had to go up queue for ages ago, you know, like eight pints and someone and he was walking with eight pints past everybody sitting down drinking and he tripped himself up for all the drinkers that go on the floor. Right? And people thought it was like, you know, you genuinely tripped but he did it on purpose. He did this everywhere we went every night out he'd be walking and he tripped himself up and people would be laughing at him and he would love it and I'd be like thinking why are you doing this? Like what is the purpose of this?
Speaker 1:But when you think about it, he was literally just like working up his, you know, I don't give a fuck muscle in a way and he doesn't like, he'll do anything, he's confident and he'll do it and I think like being exposed to scenarios where people are laughing at you and you just get over it is probably an important thing to do, obviously COVID and stuff now so you don't have the chance of doing it but it's the same on zoom calls like when you go and book club you know speak up and you know after a few times you're not going to be worried about it anymore but there's loads of instances right so that's the lesson I have asked Donald, Donald has given us a surprise well not surprised if you're on the call. He has said a small voice note for you tomorrow to listen to about living in the present moment so I'll save that for tomorrow. But today really all I think about is think of your habits, make a list of the ones you want to live, you want to become and you know, working in like, know, is not something I do, want to become, I want to live this and expose yourself to a few small anxiety things you get, I'm not saying do something extreme and you feel worse but whatever it is, do that and try and get more exposure to it because you will get over it and running away from stuff isn't the answer.
Speaker 1:And that's it. What's your one big thing today? I hope the one big thing strategy is working for many of you, works for me all the time. So your one big thing, key steps in, martial arts tonight, you don't do martial arts no problem, track your macros again, if you can be on you if you were honest yesterday, you can be honest today. You see what I mean?
Speaker 1:You did it yesterday, you were 100% honest, can you be 100% honest today? All it takes, one day at a time. That's it. So off you go. Enjoy your day, make the most of it, only twenty four hours you'll ever get.
Speaker 1:And, yeah, enjoy the day and I'll speak to you soon. And that's it. Thank you for listening to the one day at a time podcast with your host, Scott Fleer. Hopefully, you understood something I said. I hope that some wisdom kind of distilled into your mind.
Speaker 1:And I want you to now action it today. I don't want you to think about tomorrow. I don't want you to think about yesterday. I don't want you to think about leaving a review on this podcast. I don't want you to think about going to another website.
Speaker 1:What I want you to do is as soon as this podcast ends, you will take action and make the most of today. Ground yourself today. Follow the one day at a time philosophy, and your life will change.
