Find Your Tranquility and Maintain It
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast with your host and the future leader of The Republic Of Wales, Sveldfjer. Now this might be the only podcast in the world where you actually have to reduce the speed instead of increasing it. However, what I wanna get over to you is that the past is gone. The future doesn't exist. So if you wanna make the most of your life, you've gotta make the most of these moments every single day.
Speaker 1:And this podcast is gonna help you live a healthier, more fulfilled life, hopefully, giving you some wisdom to take away every single day. So I'm gonna shut up now so you can get on with listening to the next episode good morning everyone it is now Thursday which means I am off on holiday today to Ibiza for four days, four nights. Don't know what to expect, never been Ibiza to be honest. So I'm looking forward to it, looking forward to some sun. First time I've had like a proper time off in years probably, so my emails will bounce and you will have to contact.
Speaker 1:There's a message in Mighty Networks and in Facebook group if there's anything urgent. But after I come back with hiking Snowdon with the turtle crew, so I'll be off until October. So this is gonna be a challenge for me guys. Literally wouldn't say let me think now. Is my life, my work?
Speaker 1:I say like a lot of my time is spent in my work but I think it's more play to me which I'm very fortunate to have that because I think if you don't see a work as play it can be really depressing and I think I've lucked out. And it's definitely lucked out because I've been able to build this focus into health, fitness, rugby, all that stuff over the years. But it's important to be able to is to unplug. Bill Gates and all these people do, like, think weeks and take these weeks off. And I think I wanna do some I wanna unplug for a bit.
Speaker 1:I don't know what I'm gonna think. I don't know what I'm gonna I'm not I think I'm gonna try and come to some realization away. But, you know, what I'm not looking forward to is, you know, to drinking and stuff. Like what I've realised this summer is I really really really like myself when I'm feeling tranquil. I like how I'm very moderate and level headed and not too I'm not like in the sad zone, I'm not like ecstatic, I just feel clear and still and happy and joy with joy, right?
Speaker 1:When I feel in a storm, I'm not drinking, I'm doing the work I love, I'm exercising, I'm chatting to people, in contact with my friends, I'm going for my walks, I'm listening to podcasts, reading a lot of books and I just love it. I feel that's my space. And when I feel unbalanced, mainly that comes from either relationship problems can unbalance you like really bad. And then you got the drinking, which it really does imbalance me because the food days after it is a depressant and it does bring me down. So when I'm trying to stick in the zone and I know for a fact that when you go to places like Ibiza or whatever, it's hard to be moderate.
Speaker 1:Should you be moderate on these things? It's big question. It's something I speak about to my friends recently because we're all getting old, we're getting late 20, 20 nine, some are turning 30. And really questioning is the socially going out drinking worth it? Because we prefer the days the next day without a hangover, but we also love the social part.
Speaker 1:Like why do we have to drink in the social parts? You know what I mean? Like we're questioning that now. And we speak about these things and my friend, Kieran, you listening, Kieran, we're gonna speak about it like we big these events up so much, they get them. We've big them up so much in our minds.
Speaker 1:They never can reach that ceiling of perfection that we've built in our mind about this night out and holiday. And we wanna experience it in the way we've thought about it. And then when it doesn't happen that way and you actually have the depression side after the next day, it really hits you twice. One, it wasn't as good as you made it out to be in your head, which is stupid to do that because you should never try and force an experience to be something. You should simply experience it.
Speaker 1:Something again, I've learned this summer is like going to vessels being like, oh, I wish it was like few years ago. It's like, Why are you wishing it was a few years ago? You're a different person, it's a different vessel. Some different friends are in, different experience. Experience what is in front and you're not gonna be disappointed because you're not comparing it to something.
Speaker 1:Right? And when it comes to the alcohol side, honestly, the amount of for me, it really comes down to do you need alcohol on a social event? And some people do for the social lubrication it gives. I don't think that anyone needs alcohol in a sense, I get why people want to drink it. But really questioning, it serve us or benefit me especially and the answer is going to be definitely not anymore, doesn't benefit me at all, makes me feel worse and I'm starting to realize why people love tranquility and the Stoics main goal was tranquility.
Speaker 1:It wasn't tranquility like a monk because that's easy well it's not easy but it's easier to be away from all humans because reality is other people knock our tranquility more than we do ourselves so if we get into humans we're gonna be more tranquil potentially. But we're gonna be tranquil in the chaos okay and this is the battle like I wanna be able to go out and not drink too much but try and keep my tranquility and enjoy myself and be the person I wanna be. The next day wake up fresh and maintain that tranquility of ticking the boxes of the social events, ticking the boxes of you know meeting the friends and up and all that, but also being able to maintain in that tranquility zone amid amidst the chaos that is social events and stuff like that. So I want you all to start thinking about this because what knocks you off your balance? Really think about this thing.
Speaker 1:Some of you might be okay drinking and you wake up next day fine. I know some people are gone happy days. Some of you are gonna be the same as me now, you've a few drinks, it really knocks you and it does bring you down. Some of you, other things might knock you off your balance is overworking. Speaking to certain people that suck the energy out of you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like, apparently, according to some research, 60% of our happiness comes from old relationships. And I think that means both your partner and your family and friends. So I think like what relationships are knocking you out of your balance and what relationships are making you feel more like you? Who are you vibing with, as they say, and who are not vibing with? And don't be scared to cut the people out to make you feel like shit.
Speaker 1:Because if people are making you feel like shit all the time, you have to cut them out. I know you can't control what people say, but what we can control is who we could spend time with. And the Stoics did have the this kind of, like, what's up to us and what's not up to us. You know, what do we control? What can't we control?
Speaker 1:The only thing we can really fully control is the goals we set, and we should be setting internal goals such as, did I do my best today versus did I lose one pound today? Because you're control the total weight you lose because water retention is crazy, but you can control if you did your best. Right? You can control your opinions. Now you might have a bad opinion automatically, but you can control what your rational opinion is.
Speaker 1:Yeah. You can control the attitude you bring to things. But what you can't control is what people say to you all the time. You can't control, online social media stuff. You can't control people posting Instagram.
Speaker 1:You can't control the news. You can't control the weather. You can't control the world. You can't control really what happens in the economy. You can't control any of that stuff.
Speaker 1:So when you start thinking you can control those things, it really wrecks your mind. So we need to start thinking about these things. In terms of health and fitness, it's important because if you get knocked off your tranquil zone and you're trying to do your best, you're trying to improve your health and then your relationships are going to shit, that emotional roller coaster is gonna cause havoc and it's gonna be hard for you to stick to macros, it's gonna be hard for you go on your walks and do your workouts and think of yourself because all you're thinking about is how to repair that relationship. And if you're always going out drinking and you're feeling shit and you're getting depressed and the next Monday, Tuesday, feel down, then you're gonna turn to comfort eating. You're gonna turn to that.
Speaker 1:You're gonna feel sorry for yourself. You're gonna feel like you're not good enough. You're gonna feel terrible. You're gonna think you're not ever gonna be the person that can do it. And when you do feel a bit better on a Thursday, Friday, you get back on it again.
Speaker 1:And we have to think like the more we can be in our tranquility zone, the more chance we are gonna be the person we wanna be. And I think it's gonna be different for all of us, what knocks us out to this zone, but I want you all to start thinking about it today. The people, the job, the social events, you know, the gossiping, or whatever it is. Write things down that really suck energy and push you out of your zone and the people that really make you wanna be the person you wanna be. And we need to do this more now and make life easier for ourselves and we can be who we wanna be.
Speaker 1:And I'm gonna be doing it, but it's gonna start with me being an Ibiza, guys. So I'm gonna join my head off, but I'm gonna test my theories on the alcohol stuff, not gonna overly drink. I'm gonna enjoy the amazing island of Ibiza, the food, the music, everything like that, and see what happens and see if we don't have to get absolutely wrecked to enjoy. I think it's a British thing that you have to get wrecked to enjoy. And I really do wanna be a person that lives by that philosophy because it doesn't serve me and most people in Britain, but for some reason, it's social stigma to go against it.
Speaker 1:But enjoy yourselves. I still got voice notes coming for you because I'm gonna pre prerecord them. But anything you need help with macro wise email macros@turtle.com. Anything you need admin wise charlesturtle dot com and anything you need order wise, orders and stuff like that or annual members it's danturtle.com. And I'm off to Ibiza and I'll be in Eurobes tomorrow.
Speaker 1:In that is it for today's episode. So hopefully, you took something away from it. If you didn't, here's what you need to take away. Stop wasting time on social media. Stop wasting time gossiping.
Speaker 1:You've only got a day to live. Today's the only day you ever have. So if there's anything to take away from this podcast, podcast, even if you can't understand the word I say, even if you didn't resonate with the wisdom I try to deliver, this is a reminder of you daily to live one day at a time. Give your moments meaning today and don't be fooled by thinking you've got unlimited amount of days. But if you can make the most of today I'm telling you you'll have a fulfilled life so enjoy your day and hopefully I'll see you back tomorrow.
Speaker 1:Do daily to live one day at a time. Give your moments meaning today and don't be fooled by thinking you've got unlimited amount of days. But if you can make the most of today, I'm telling you, you'll have a fulfilled life. So enjoy your day and hopefully I'll see you back tomorrow.
