Getting Floored and Building Momentum Again
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast with your host and the future leader of The Republic Of Wales, Sveldfjer. Now this might be the only podcast in the world where you actually have to reduce the speed instead of increasing it. However, what I wanna get over to you is that the past is gone. The future doesn't exist. So if you wanna make the most of your life, you've gotta make the most of these moments every single day.
Speaker 1:And this podcast is gonna help you live a healthier, more fulfilled life, hopefully, giving you some wisdom to take away every single day. So I'm gonna shut up now so you can get on with listening to the next episode. Good morning, everyone. I'm back. Sorry.
Speaker 1:I've had a week off because I went to hell and back, basically. Went on a big weekend. Two days in a row, music festivals, 40,000 steps plus per day. Just yeah. I'm getting too old.
Speaker 1:I don't know I don't know what's going on, but it just felt horrific and thought, you know what? I haven't got anything to say this week. I wanna analyze myself this week. I'm gonna give you some advice this week about last week. And I think actually it's perfect timing because spoke to Ryan for the weekly review and stuff.
Speaker 1:People are saying they've lost all the weight, they put it back on. They can't get back into their mojo. They've done so well for so long and now they feel like they're failing and all this stuff. And let me tell you what this is. I came across this concept in a book called The War of Art and it's called resistance.
Speaker 1:The closer you get to the finish line, the resistance mounts an all out counter attack to stop you. Okay? This happens all the time. This happened to me last weekend. Before last weekend, I was in my peak peak shape physically.
Speaker 1:I've been in years. I felt healthy. I felt fit. You know, we were launching the app, launching rugby warfare stuff. We were launching turtle clothing.
Speaker 1:Like, everything is going amazingly well. The weekend comes, right, you go to enjoy, right, but you go too far. Right? Resistance hits big. Yeah.
Speaker 1:You've done that. You've done that. You've completed it. Amazing. You're at where you you are where you wanna be.
Speaker 1:And as soon as we realize we are we are where we wanna be, we tend to drop off. We put the foot off the pedal. Resistance comes, hits us, hits us on a counter, which is the worst form of of attack. It comes without us really seeing it come in. We go from our peak right down to nothing.
Speaker 1:All happens very fast. And that momentum that you had, and this is the law of law of thermodynamics, the energy. Energy doesn't get destroyed. It can only get converted into one form or another. That moment positive momentum you have, and I felt this, doesn't get destroyed.
Speaker 1:It just gets converted all the way around, boom, into the downward spiral. And that's what I was for the week. Felt terrible. I had no momentum. Couldn't no energy.
Speaker 1:Couldn't train. Had my second vaccine shot as well. Probably played him up in my head than it was, but still kind of fatigues you. And it's hard. It's hard to get back into it.
Speaker 1:I understand where a lot of you are coming from. We get these weekends or times where we work so hard. We get to this really healthy state of mind where we love our daily habits. We are happy in the day to day. And then we go big on the weekends or we do something huge and then we get derailed.
Speaker 1:And then we wish we were back to where we were, where we just loved each day. Waking up every day, feeling healthy, energized, plan of attack for the day, you know, your mindset's in the right place. It's that form I was in is so far away from where I was last week. Like, I couldn't believe the difference in everything. My mindset, how I felt, my strength, my motivation.
Speaker 1:It was it was like a different person. Right? And all we wanna be is back to our, like, healthy, happy selves. Right? But we've all gone through this over the summer.
Speaker 1:There's no doubt. We've all put the foot off the pedal a bit and that's fine. What these moments do is they teach us, they definitely teach us. They teach you that anything you go overboard with is going to have some bad consequences basically And you learn the next time that you know the vision in your mind of this huge weekend is gonna be amazing and then there's no repercussions and this and that and then in reality it plays out you know it always happens you drink too much, you stay out too long, all that stuff happens. It's fine.
Speaker 1:Like I'm not saying don't go on not to do those things because that's part of the social life in it, but it just makes you realize. So for any of you, is a week now to get back in. This is a this is the week to realize that resistance will hit you hard when you start peaking, right? When you start feeling in the groove, we start thinking I've done it, but it's never finished, the job is never finished, we keep going. We keep these healthy habits going and we just got to limit the damage we do when we do go out.
Speaker 1:Think that is really the only solution. Not to go too far out stray too far away from what we've built. And this is the week I want you to all start thinking, right, look, I might not be back to all the habits I used to have. The world is open up. All this stuff are absolutely fine.
Speaker 1:But let's take it as a reset. And I wanna go through seven principles back from ancient wisdom that I'll go back to all the time. That should help you this week. It's gonna help me focus on today, obviously. So what we're do today?
Speaker 1:Let's get that done. Let's make sure we can finalize today, get it ticked off, good start of the week, and we build from there. And don't worry, everybody is going through the same thing. This part of the year is weird. Kids are going back to school.
Speaker 1:The summer's over. We haven't really had a summer. Maybe some people got away, holiday is fine, we haven't really had that reset, we haven't had that recharge, it's kind of like we're just on a hamster wheel. Do you know mean? It's kind of like we're in this limbo phase, we've never really been here where it's kind of like there hasn't really been a break, but we need a break in our own minds regardless.
Speaker 1:Okay and here's seven things that's gonna help you if you feel like you've had a setbacks. The first thing is about perception. Okay so here's a quote from Epictetus. Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties and and about real problems. Again, we always think about things are much worse than they are.
Speaker 1:That's where we're most of our frustration anxiety is not in the actual fact. We often worry about what might happen or what we perceive to be the problem far outweighs the reality. Right? So we need to take a measured approach, facts over assumptions, and don't catastrophize. Okay?
Speaker 1:Have you really ruined your day, right, by having a chocolate bar at 10AM? No. Because it fits in your macros. It's fine. Have you really ruined your life because you've had a few weeks off track?
Speaker 1:No. You haven't. These are lessons to be learned. Well, these are reminders for how we much rather, we much prefer to be in the healthy state where we got momentum working for us, healthy habits. Just a realisation how much better we do feel when we're on top of things.
Speaker 1:We need these reminders just like you need sadness to remind yourself of what happiness feels like. Right? Just how you need chaos to remind you how nice stillness is. We do need these moments to realize. Okay?
Speaker 1:And that's what I want you to be thinking now. Like, okay, I've realized what it's like now to be back into that kind of storm whirlwind world of going out and having no control. I'd rather be on top of things. Okay? Next next point, control what you can control.
Speaker 1:Many times in life our emotions are driven by trying to control what we can't control right frustration anger all creeps in clouds our judgment. We take a bad situation make it worse right narrow your focus down to what you can control it's far more effective okay And sometimes we just have those days that just everything's going wrong. Those unlucky days, right. That's fine. Accept this.
Speaker 1:One of those days. Scott, it's one of those days. Get on with it. Just do what you can today. Can you control getting your steps in?
Speaker 1:Can you just track your macros at least? Can you go and get a workout? You know, I sort of post by Billy Joe Davis in the in the membership the other day. You know, you're one workout away from a good mood. And it's so true.
Speaker 1:You know, that's stuck with me. It's like, yeah, right, every time you do a workout, you feel better. Right? So what can you control? Focus on that.
Speaker 1:And if you're if you're having one of those unlucky days, fine. Tomorrow is a new day. Trust me. You're gonna feel a lot better. Next one, response.
Speaker 1:Victor Frankl said, between stimulus and response, there is space. In that space is our power to choose our response. Right? When we're faced with difficult situations, only one person chooses how you respond, and that is you, believe it or not. No one else, you.
Speaker 1:So take your time, weigh out the potential outcomes, choose wisely. That is just what being wise is. Don't make decisions on peak emotion, even peak happiness. Don't make decisions on peak happiness and peak sadness, peak anger. It never works.
Speaker 1:Right? Let that flow of intense emotion just flow through you. Watch it. Be the watcher of it. Okay.
Speaker 1:This is happening. Okay. I get it. Take a step back and respond. Don't react.
Speaker 1:Okay. Because if you're constantly reacting, you are not in control of your life. People who are who people who can manipulate your emotions are in control. Next step, temperance. The Stoics defined temperance as our ability to moderate our behaviour so basically self control right the ability to make decisions based not on what we would like to do but rather on what we should do is a forcing function for addressing difficult situations more effectively.
Speaker 1:Right, so moderation in everything we do. Moderation in everything we do, that's the goal. Enjoy the wine. Enjoy the chocolate. Enjoy the meal out.
Speaker 1:Do it all. Enjoy everything. Let's just let's just try not to overindulge. It's always it's always that last 10%. It's always the case.
Speaker 1:Guess at 10PM, it's always that decision to have another drink at 10:30 which turns into 4AM. Right? It's always that decision to also have that bag of bag of chocolate chips or whatever as opposed to a food which turns into a pizza which turns into a fuck it mentality. It's always the small decision that tips us from the moderation to the overindulgence because it leads us down a slippery path. As soon as you take that extra step at the end, we're done.
Speaker 1:Okay, so when you understand that we need to learn eat to 80% fullness, enjoy until a reasonable time, have a reasonable amount of drinks and say no, have an amazing meal and say look you know I don't need that dessert I don't need the extra drink. Right? These are these are simple things in theory but in real life they're tough. But I've been working on it, I've definitely improved my eating at the moment, I eat 80% fullness now. What I found is I used to be able to eat an incredible amount of food.
Speaker 1:Like ask Ryan, I ate 12 Krispy Kreme doughnuts before three minutes just testing myself could I do it? Did it three minutes. Ryan's got video. That was cool, it's not cool, right? My stomach was massive because it could put so much food in.
Speaker 1:As I've been restricting my meals to 80% I found out that I'm fuller from meals and I don't even I can't even eat as much as used to. My stomach must have adapted, it must have been shrinking, right, to my new kind of moderate eating style and I way prefer it, I'm way, I don't leave places to eat now like crawling out like a frog about to explode, I'm gonna die, that's not what I'm doing. I'm walking out feeling decent, feeling chuffed. Yes, win, temperance. Scott, temperance, fear.
Speaker 1:That's I'm gonna name my kid, the temperance fear. Okay, accountability partners is another one. So a trusted advisor, spouse, a close friend any of these will work. The criteria you respect them, you trust their judgment and you know they'll hold you accountable. Okay this is important this is like the you know the turtle community of course is this.
Speaker 1:A friend and, you know, have a pact with someone. Look. If I come to you and I need to speak to you for thirty minutes, can you please listen? You know, pull me out on things and don't make sense, but I just want you to listen. Can you do that for me and I'll do it for you.
Speaker 1:And how that kind of relationship with someone is very helpful when you go through shit. Next one slow down to speed up. Fistina lenti, make haste slowly, said Augustus. When faced with adversity, our response is often to right the ship as fast as possible. Instead, we should take it slow.
Speaker 1:Okay? Take it slow in regards and then go for a hard decision. So we shouldn't rush for the sake of rushing. Okay? We need to pace ourselves, understand.
Speaker 1:Okay? Maybe those decisions, those rash decisions, those extreme diets to lose two you know six pounds in two weeks and this and that aren't the best things. Let's take a step back. What does that look like over time? Looks like chaos to me.
Speaker 1:Okay. Don't rush from diet to diet, trainer to trainer, plan to plan. You might have done the turtle membership, lost loads of weight, it's creeping back up. You might be thinking, oh, maybe it's time for another plan. No.
Speaker 1:No. That's not the answer. The answer is you need to get back into the good habits and and learn from how you got derailed by resistance most likely. That's all it's all about you don't need to keep jumping from plan to plan. You know the basics do them well every day happy days you're back on track.
Speaker 1:Okay we know know what to do. We need to make hay slowly and make the most of every day you know live each day with kind of vigor obviously okay but understand it's a long term process. So we bring that daily boom, we bring the daily boom but we we take a step back and think, it's not gonna happen today. I understand I'm gonna do my best, but it's not gonna change in one day. And that's the exact way we should live.
Speaker 1:Next one, understanding things won't always go your way. Wow, imagine this, imagine understanding this, no shit things don't go our way, happens every day. Misfortune weighs most heavily on those who expect nothing but good fortune said Seneca. Live with your eyes open live with your eyes wide open. You're gonna meet people every day is gonna annoy you.
Speaker 1:They're gonna piss you off. And this happens every day. You're gonna get shit emails, shit messages. Shit's not gonna go to plan. And we throw we throw it with the throw toys out of the pram.
Speaker 1:Go my god. How this has happened? Of course, you can't believe it happens. It happens all the time, every day. Marcus really used to wake up and say, today, I'm gonna meet in short, I'm gonna meet Wankers today, boy.
Speaker 1:Yep. Marcus, I am gonna meet the Wankers today, and they're gonna really piss me off. Okay? Just get ready for it. You know, that eat the frog in the morning moment.
Speaker 1:You know, just get luck. Just just accept it because when it happens, you know what's coming. Don't be shocked by it. Okay? Things won't go away.
Speaker 1:But remember this too shall pass. I remind myself that last week every day. Things will get better, Scott. Things will get better if you look shit, right? It's fine.
Speaker 1:You're gonna get back on there. I can't believe I've lost this momentum. I can't believe it. I feel terrible. How did I feel so good four days ago now I feel terrible?
Speaker 1:Right? But they were it will get better. You just gotta take things one day at a time and not catastrophize. And the last one, you're not gonna die. Well, you know, you will someday obviously, but unlikely not gonna die with a single failure like fucking your macros up or, you know, this and that.
Speaker 1:Okay? Understanding that you can fail a 10,000 times more before you actually die and all those failures don't result in you dying. Right? Life moves on, things move on, people forget, you get over stuff. What you think is the worst thing that ever happened to you right now in six months time, you look back and laugh your head off at it.
Speaker 1:That's how it's always been and that's how it always will be. This should then give you more of an incentive to do bold action because shit people forget about shit. Look at Volkswagen. Right? Do you remember Volkswagen scandal where they faked the tests for their diesel emissions?
Speaker 1:Do remember that? And at the time, people like, oh, they're dead. There's no way people are gonna trust Volkswagen again. Fucking hell. They were the biggest auto car company in the world.
Speaker 1:People are still buying their cars. No one cares anymore. If they can get over the worst thing that can happen to a car company, like this over history, this happens all the time. So if you are thinking of stuff, ah, this and that, trust me, time will heal it. It's just so the fact.
Speaker 1:And if we know that, why don't we go big? And if our failures are big, who cares? They'll all be gone into the past. So I think we should live boldly. Fortune favors the bold as they've been saying for thousands of years.
Speaker 1:And I think it's so true. So that's it for today, guys. Bit of a longer voice note, think, you know, catch up miss last week. I'm still not a %. I think I got ill or something, but didn't have COVID because I did that lateral flow every day.
Speaker 1:But yeah, back to it now, feeling optimistic. We build one day at a time. Remember, we're gonna build every day this week. This week's about momentum. This is momentum week.
Speaker 1:Last week of the dance challenge, let's get our activity in. Let's not even hesitate. Get up and go, walk, do the training session now. Do the task you need to get done now. Build momentum right now.
Speaker 1:Stop messing about. Stop sloping about. If you can do it, do it. Right? We're lucky to be able to do that.
Speaker 1:We can do things. We got two two arms, two legs. We're healthy. We're moving. We're functional.
Speaker 1:We're living in a really good country considering other countries in the world right now. So let's take the most of that and, be optimistic today and have a smile right now. Smile away, feel better. All right Hugh Gilmore tonight communication q and a for the dance challenge and for the turtle members we're gonna do a communication zoom actually on how to communicate better so that'll be good as well. But guys thank you for listening.
Speaker 1:It's good to be back. Hopefully, that helped. And just if you if you need if you wanna read a short book on resistance, the wall of art, you'll read it in one day. That'll give you a better idea of what's been happening to you guys if you started to get reverse momentum where life's hit you and you've gone backwards. That's fine.
Speaker 1:If you learn about it, next time you can look out for it and make better decisions. But adios, everyone. Enjoy your day. Focus on today. What's your one big thing?
Speaker 1:Let me know. Enjoy yourself. Farrah for now. And that is it for today's episode. So hopefully you took something away from it.
Speaker 1:If you didn't, here's what you need to take away. Stop wasting time on social media. Stop wasting time gossiping. You've only got a day to live. Today's the only day you ever have.
Speaker 1:So if there's anything to take away from this podcast, even if you can't understand the word I say, even if you didn't resonate with the wisdom I try to deliver, this is a reminder of you daily to live one day at a time. Give your moments meaning today and don't be fooled by thinking you've got unlimited amount of days but if you can make the most of today I'm telling you you'll have a fulfilled life so enjoy your day and hopefully I'll see you back tomorrow. Do daily to live one day at a time. Give your moments meaning today and don't be fooled by thinking you've got unlimited amount of days But if you can make the most of today, I'm telling you, you'll have a fulfilled life. So enjoy your day and hopefully I'll see you back tomorrow.
