Hard Hitting Perspective on Life
Hello. Good morning, meth heads. How are we doing? Back with a voice note, of course, and I am right now in I think I'm gonna butcher the name all day, or or do the Glen, which is the new part of the village is here, but they've kept the old part of the village untouched since World War two because what happened here is the SS, the Nazis took over and exterminated, murdered all the community. So mostly kids, just no soldiers, civilians, just put all the kids and the mothers in the church, put the men into six groups around the village, and on the same day, killed all of them.
Speaker 1:So you'd have heard gunshots going off in one group. You'd have been horrified and they they threw smoke grenades in the church. So they blinded everyone in the church and then machine gunned everybody in there, so all the kids and all the women just killed them all on the same day in 1944. I think June 1944 happened, which is just shocking and some of you might be like, oh it's uncomfortable, don't want to listen to this. No, no, don't run away from this stuff.
Speaker 1:This is reality. This is what happened. This is the world. The world has got all justice in it. We're just very lucky to live in a place and a time where we can walk around for most most of the time and we're sound.
Speaker 1:They were safe. There's no military. There's no army invading us. There's no there's no daily scares of dying or guns everywhere or all this stuff. We live in very peaceful times, and I'm speaking to us listening to this podcast, of course.
Speaker 1:The luxury to go on a walk, listen to a podcast, all this stuff. We The reason we take it all for granted, the reason we really just we focus on the silly little stuff that doesn't matter, like, oh, someone said something bad to me or I don't want that, I'm offended with that and this and that, right? The reason all that gets us is because we don't have perspective anymore. There's none perspective left because we run away from death. We don't want to talk about death.
Speaker 1:The ancients spoke about death all the time. Philosophy was to learn to die and this life we have, we are gonna die. Like, I don't know what to say here without just we're all gonna die and you're like, I don't wanna hear about it, it's making me feel bad. It shouldn't make you feel bad at all because we're lucky to live and have a peaceful life for most of it, hopefully anyway. And there's a lot of stuff happening in the world right now.
Speaker 1:People are dying, homes, you know, refugees all across the world, different countries. And this happened in France, you know, it was a village, small little village. A lot of us listening come from a village. I come from a village. I think they would have come into the village, blown it all up, put it on fire, separated us from our families, all we do, the gunshot died.
Speaker 1:And every single day, we throw away the peace that was that is given to us on a daily basis. We throw away that peace because we wanna moan, we wanna complain, we want some drama, we want some gossip, and in that, we really miss out on the fragility of life because we think life is, you know, is Do we think it's serious? I think, like, we because it's all a lot of the stuff we worry about is so trivial, so non serious, so opposite of life threatening that we don't really see the fragility of it, how lucky we are to be alive and how we should make the most of every day. This is filled with nonsense. We don't truly believe we're gonna die.
Speaker 1:I think a lot of us don't think we're gonna die. I think we think we're gonna die, but we don't think we don't wanna think about it until the very end. And then when it gets to the end, I know for a fact that lot of us are gonna look back at these times we're worried about gaining one pounds of water weight or one missed a workout or I I had a bit too much to eat or someone said something nasty to me online. You know, we look back at these moments and we go, why did we let our tea go that day away? All I want is one day of peace.
Speaker 1:We were desperate for it. All we will want, All these people in our village would have wanted is a a day of peace. Just just wanted to go back to the days of peace, walking around, no worries. All a haircut, all doing a coffee, sit down, nothing happening, just chilling out, doing absolutely nothing. They could have been bored of their brain sometimes, but we run away from boredom as well.
Speaker 1:We don't want to be bored. I don't want to be bored, so I'll do random stuff to not be bored. I'll just get involved in online gossip or I'll watch this Amber Heard and Johnny Depp trial for hours because I love gossip. I love I love conflict. I love seeing people argue online, I love this and that's why all these social media beef stories and all this stuff about people fighting each other, people get sucked in, they love it, they love gossip, they fill their brains with gossip, fill it completely and that's where we're at really.
Speaker 1:That's where we really are. We don't really seriously consider these things because if we did, because if we did, we wouldn't we just wouldn't let these trivial stuff get to us. We really wouldn't. We you know, it might creep in, but then we go, you know what, like, stop being like that. Like, that's nothing.
Speaker 1:Let's crack on. Let's crack on with the day. Don't wanna go on with that. We'd fill our days with more peaceful moments as opposed to just constantly filling our minds with gossip and drama. So really, where does that leave us today?
Speaker 1:Like, I'm the same as you. I'm not saying this because I'm perfect, I'm far from perfect, nowhere near perfect. What I'm saying is, all of us, human nature today, in where we live, is like this. It's just how it's developed, how the world has gone. And these things didn't happen too far away, too far too long ago and happening now, right now in other countries.
Speaker 1:So what do we really take from this? Like, how would you are you like, okay, great. You told me I'm gonna die. Great. There's a murder.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Well, what do I know? I happened there. People got murdered. But we we think we're different from it.
Speaker 1:This is the thing. There's a division happening where we think that's happened to them, but it for me, like, wouldn't have happened. We something in our mind thinks it just wouldn't have happened to us. But then you go into this village and you walk around, you look at, like, small stuff. I was looking at the curbs.
Speaker 1:I was like, these curbs are exactly the same as back home in the village I'm from. These, like, streets, these these houses would have looked exactly the same. There's, you know, this oh, this, like, coffee shop, this the church here, like, I mean, I'm here and I would have seen tanks coming at me and shooting on me, blowing up and it would have taken me away from all my family and here it would have happened to me if I lived here this time. Luckily I was born in a different country at a different time but I could have been born right there, I could have been born, I could have been one of those people, we could have been those people. We don't think we could have but we literally we're just so lucky to be born when we were at war time to be in a position where you're listening to me, it's all going to podcast, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:So all I want to, the message I want to give to you today is really this can happen at any time to anyone, that we shouldn't squander our peace and even being bored, we should be thankful we can actually be bored. We should look at our days and we should, if we see gossip creeping or drama or we feel a bit, we know when something happened, don't turn the drama to fully brain up, don't turn the gossip to fully brain up, don't turn the complaining to fully brain up nonsense, sit with it for a second, have some perspective that life doesn't have to be full of big huge moments, comparison, you've got to be super famous, loaded, all that stuff. Life is the simple day to day things that we're gonna miss when we're on our deathbed. Just those quiet days with a walk with a dog or just a walk, speaking to our friends, you know, there's a lot of studies on it that actually friendship is the most important thing in our lives, not even our relationships, not even our partners or husbands or wives, that's not as important as the friendships we have, know.
Speaker 1:Just having normal shitty time in regards to like just just with our friends talking absolute nonsense, having a laugh. Just there's nothing much going on. We're just talking, sitting down somewhere. Things like that, like, think about that's what it's all about. Right?
Speaker 1:So if you haven't got plans or something coming up with your friends, try and book something in now. Get it done. Like, if you've got things that are really trivial, like, you know, you gained one point of water weight, know, that would melt away in the face of an invasion from the Nazis in 1944 Vietnamese village, right? In the face of any actual real danger, those trivial matters melt away, so use it as a test. What are you worried about right now and if there was a real chance of an enemy invasion into your village I think now, would they all melt away?
Speaker 1:Yes, they would. Of course they would, and afterwards you think right afterward it's gone, what would I focus on? What would I really, really cherish? And what would I really let go? And you have to let go of things.
Speaker 1:We have to let go of these small terrible shitty stuff. We can't let we can't hold on to them. We will regret it. Regret is terrible. Regret's the worst feeling probably, isn't it?
Speaker 1:Regret's gonna be terrible for us if we feel if we lower our days run away with this stuff. So whilst health and fitness is of course important and it's important like, know, it's easy to say like, you know, you're gonna die, you're making muscle every day, you know, and it's like, yeah, what does that even What does that mean to us? And I think for me it's important, I live one day at a time, like just sitting in the car now doing this voice note in this village, you know. I'm not doing work right now, I technically am with this voice or not, but, you know, I'm not being productive right now. I'm not, like, in some fancy place or trying to be someone or whatever.
Speaker 1:I'm just here in the moment and it's okay. That's good. It's in the moment. That's what life is. And I think, yes, I wanna improve my health, and day to day the decisions come, and I'll make the decision that's best for my health, like, will I overeat and binge?
Speaker 1:Do I need to do that? No, don't need to do that. Like, do I need to sit with this for a second? You know, if I can train, I'll train, right? I'm obviously gonna do things that benefit my health and fitness in the long run, but I'll give the results for that time.
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna try and force. I want to lose 20 pounds now, I will do the behavior that's best for me today, one day at a time, and over time that will show in my physique, in my health, in my mindset. It will just happen, right? That's how I live. A lot of us want things right now.
Speaker 1:I want to be lean right now, I want loads of money right now, I want to go on loads of holidays right now, I don't want to work right now, I want this and this and this, we demand, demand, demand what we don't have as opposed to looking at what we do have, taking things slowly, one day at a time, be it, you know, having this perspective. I wish we could bottle up the perspective I've just had walking on a village or you've had sometimes when you face danger, real danger, some of you have faced absolute danger, some of you have had cancer, some of have experienced one to one with death and as the human mind, we can forget about it, we it become let that feeling doesn't last forever, right? And if we could bottle our feeling up, it would be a superpower because it would give us instant perspective and we would be so happy just to do the small stuff. But that's not how the human mind has evolved, unfortunately, in a sense that we've been able to let things go fast, we move on, and it's obviously important that we can do that.
Speaker 1:But I think it's up to us to bring the perspective. It's not gonna happen automatically. You're not gonna just wake up and go, fucking hell. Those poor people in Ordander Glen will happen in World War two. Fuck.
Speaker 1:I need you know, that could have that could have happened to me. Family was lucky to be alive. I need like, come on. Let's get up now. Let's not mess about.
Speaker 1:Come on. Don't complain now. Let's get up. Let's have a smile on my face. Come on.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna see people in work. I'm I like them. Alyssa, you know, that doesn't happen automatically, that perspective. I think we have to bring it, and reminders like this might do it for the day, but how do we bring it daily? You know, it can't be a habit because then habits become automatic and we don't really think about it.
Speaker 1:We need these reminders and maybe, you know, the Stoics would talk about death daily, that's what they did, they would speak about Memento Mori, never chat about it daily, you know, have that perspective speaking to others. So maybe that's what you do it daily, let's remember now, we can life right now is at its pinnacle, It's at its absolute pinnacle. How can I bring this perspective daily? I don't know the answer to it, but hopefully this podcast will bring you that for today and make the most of the small moments. Enjoy.
Speaker 1:Text someone. Text your friends. Text your family. You know, go for a walk, put a smile on your face, don't let gossip consume you, all that basic stuff, you know, do stuff for your health, of course, you know, go to the gym and release endorphins, but lucky to be able to go to the gym, lucky to be able to track all macros, use technology, all this stuff, and see how your day changes and hopefully it brings you a nice, calm, chilled, nice day on the back of what happens in history. So, that's my little rant guys, I don't know if it lands, I don't know if it's nice to hear, I don't know if it works, I'm not trying to be those like preachy people because this is a message to me as much as it is to you guys.
Speaker 1:Me speaking about it is gonna it brings me perspective instantly as well, so I'm gonna go and write some postcards, you know, enjoy my coffee, sipping, do some work later, smile on my face, go to the gym, enjoy this little village. I'm gonna be in France. You know, text a few boys, and I can't wait to see them, and when I get back to London and plan some stuff and all this, you know, the the little things. And that's what matters. And not worrying about me look at how I look, not worrying about what other people are doing, success wise, all that nonsense.
Speaker 1:Not worrying about how hard life is for me. My God, life is so hard. You know, could easily be saying life is so hard right now, you know, with business and stuff like that. Put a lot of money into the app and rugby warfare, gotta be make sure it's all making money and being profitable and the stresses and supply chains issues and all that stuff. I could easily be, my life is so terrible for me.
Speaker 1:Oh, my God. You know, that's not how I want to live. I just don't wanna live our way. I refuse to be that person, and that's a choice. It's a choice.
Speaker 1:It's a choice. Choice. Choice. Choice. Choice.
Speaker 1:And we've all got a choice. Like Edith Eager says, who survived a concentration camp in World War two. She says, we've got a choice actually. Either be a victim, there's victimhood and there's a victim. Right?
Speaker 1:Victimhood, oh, poor me. I'm like, oh, what happened to me? Victim, something's happened to you. It's bad. It's shit.
Speaker 1:It sucks. But you have a choice to move on from it and make the most of your life as opposed to using it being a victim. Going, oh my god. Life's so terrible to me. Oh my god.
Speaker 1:Wasting. Wasting precious time and mental energy on that nonsense. What choice are you gonna have today? Let me know.
