How To Deal With Setbacks
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Speaker 1:Remember, all it takes is one day at a time. Good morning, everyone. I am recording this on a Sunday morning. So good luck, England today. Like I said, Lee, I'll leave it at that.
Speaker 1:I've had a base basically, I had a pizza last night. I'll leave that up to you if that's a conspiracy or not. But I've been really ill, guys. Been really ill. I'm still feeling it.
Speaker 1:I've tested for COVID. It's not that. Because one of the symptoms of COVID is you can't taste or smell, and I I smelled that pizza coming from eight miles away yesterday. So and I've got it's more like ulcers in the throat and stuff like that, and then it's bringing me bringing me down. So I've been look I've I've still been tracking because I really wanted to to track my behavior and learn a bit more about what happens when I'm ill.
Speaker 1:And in the app as well, it does ask you on a check-in if you've been ill that week because it does play a factor into the the algorithm. But, you know, I'm trying to lose, I'm trying to drop a few pounds. So, like, you know, a few months ago, I was, like, near two hundred, and I was trying to run, and it was putting pain on my it it just wasn't good. When I went to see a chiropractor, I was like, it's too much weight going through on your feet. I got insoles done.
Speaker 1:I need to go down to about one hundred seventy five ish to be at a weight that's good for my height, basically. So I got down to like one hundred eighty five and I was feeling good. And, you know in the last week it's been creeping up creeping up and the average weight's gone up to about one eight nine. So luckily about four pounds gain right that's what it says on the averages. But you know I'm being very rational about this.
Speaker 1:I've looked at my macros and so far so from Monday to Sunday, I've gone over my macros, well my calories by 3,800 for the week right and we know that we are always gonna try and hit the 500 calorie deficit a day. So I've kind of wiped out my entire deficit for the week. I won't be losing any fat this week and I certainly won't really be gaining much fat because I'm only 300 calories over 3,500. So rationally I'm saying right, Sunday, if I did go big on a Sunday, I could get go over my maintenance by 3,500, and I would put a pound on the week, put a fat on for the week. And really, when you look at it as a week, you're like, right, really ill, you know, your appetite kind of goes up for like foods, just comfort foods, to put a pound of fat on in a week, that's really, really bad in terms of like, you know, I wasn't able to read 10 pages a day.
Speaker 1:I wasn't able to train, I wasn't able to do much work, I wasn't able to do anything that I've that I love doing. And the difference in productivity is mental is actually nuts. And I just, you know, really can't wait to get to being fully full health because I love being, like, full steam ahead. But when you think of these things, right, it's not really a setback for me. Like, I was bound to get ill at one point.
Speaker 1:Like, who do I think I am? Well, I think I'm never gonna get ill again. Yeah. Right. Nice one, Scott.
Speaker 1:Cheers. I'm obviously gonna get ill tonight. I'm obviously gonna have a setback. It could have been an injury. It could have been even it could have been COVID, which would have been worse really because I don't have to self isolate for god knows how long.
Speaker 1:It could have been a broken bone. It could have been, you know another lockdown like some something was gonna come up and disrupt my progress I was making because I was on a roll right I went from near two hundred pounds down to one hundred eighty five pounds I was feeling good. I was able to run without pain for the first time in ages like a week or so ago. You know, I did my mother's garden out like I finished the market course. Did.
Speaker 1:We we know been working on this and it's ready. There's a lot of good shit been going on. I was like, yes, something's bound to come undisrupt it as for this Odd's Law. It comes in. What?
Speaker 1:It's gonna happen. So instead of me looking at this like, oh god, if you pity myself, I don't. I feel right. This could have been way worse. I've maybe put a pound of fat on.
Speaker 1:You know I mean? Like, come on, I get that back on track in a week. But you know, I've gone up eight pounds, four pounds on average, not four pounds of fat because I'm looking at my macros and calories. Like you look at the law of thermodynamics, if any of did physics, energy cannot be created nor destroyed when you transferred, right. So if I've not eaten enough energy to be transferred into fat, then it can't be fat.
Speaker 1:Like it just can't be fat cannot just be created or nothing. It has to be converted from another energy source which is coming from our food, right? The calories. So it can't be fat. But what is the variable in our bodies that can go up and down without calories?
Speaker 1:Water, like literally water. Water can go up down doesn't contain calories and we're body 60% water. So I know I've touched upon this last week, but it's something we really need to get grip on because it can ruin you. Like I could have easily gone off, gone back, I've gone four weeks off. I'm four weeks away from where I was, I've gone to four pounds and no, no.
Speaker 1:This is bound to happen at some point, bound to happen. And there we go. We're back after today now. Sunday, I'm feeling better. I'm gonna try and get some stuff done.
Speaker 1:I go for a walk. I'm not gonna try and push. I'm not gonna try and force a workout, you know, the worker's gonna suck. And I'd rather just go for a long walk and try and catch up on Jay Sheddy's audiobook, and I think that'll be a nice day. That's really it for my piece of advice today is if any of you have been you know thinking you're going backwards you know yes you will go backwards at some point certainly, so you react to going backwards and I have been listening, re listening to one of my favorite authors.
Speaker 1:So a guy called Robert Greene. He's written loads of books on human nature and stuff like that. He was actually Ryan Holiday's mentor. Right? And he he's got a new book coming out called the law of the sublime, and it's coming out soon.
Speaker 1:It's gonna be unbelievable book. He had a stroke, right, like a year ago, and he's lost the ability to use his left hand and left leg, I think. And he's actually seen that as a blessing to him. Right? So he talks about how our failures, setbacks are actually the best things that can happen.
Speaker 1:You never learn from wins. You don't. You get cocky. You're really cocky. You think things are gonna go against all the time.
Speaker 1:You think the world is full of daisies and rainbows. And you see this all the time in sports. The worst thing that can happen to someone in sport is that they go on an unbeaten run early on and think they're unstoppable, then they get hit and lose, and then everything goes. Like, if you follow boxing, there's a guy called Wilder who Fury beat, and he was on a on a charge. And then, you know, Wilder lost to Fury, and now he's just been that's taken the wind out of him.
Speaker 1:But he can't he can't he didn't have a setback early on. Right? And it's the same so Robert Greene talks about the same like he now appreciates his life way more since he's had a stroke now he like all these things he said is we it's like crazy he's been writing about it for decades but it's happened to him right that is a set of a big setback health one has made him realise that he loves more the small moments in his life now. He did have a setback with one of his books. He wrote the book with 50¢, he said.
Speaker 1:And 50¢ he was writing a book about 50¢ called the fiftieth law, and the book publisher dropped him after all the success he's had. And like, this is not a this is not good. And that knocked Robert Green's confidence massively because he had always had one huge success after huge success after huge success. Then he went to another publisher, they were like, Robert, this is not a Robert Green book. Make it about you, like, write it like you.
Speaker 1:And he took on that failure of him writing a book that wasn't a typical Robert Green book, more of a 50¢ thing. And he made it a Robert Green book with a bit of 50¢ in it, and then it became a success. Right? So he was talking about this, and this is you know, his next book is all about this. How many failures?
Speaker 1:He talks about Napoleon. Right? Someone I've read about a lot. Napoleon went on a huge winning streak. Like, won, like, 80 something percent of his battles, which is unheard of in in warfare.
Speaker 1:But he went on a huge winning streak early, and then he lost one. Oh, then he lost one. And then he started doing things that he didn't used to do. He lost his composure sometimes. He got it back.
Speaker 1:But then, you know, he learned more from those than he did from his wins. He learned a lot more from his losses and his wins because that's when you start thinking of changing stuff. That's when you start thinking, oh, okay. I can't have this daisy mindset all the time that I'm gonna always walk into anything that's gonna work. So I don't know if any of that resonates with any of you.
Speaker 1:If you've come up, any of you have been hit with some sort of failure or setback recently. Use this voice mail today as a day to, you know, you can only do your best today. That's it. Like, I'm gonna try and do my best today. I'm gonna try and do my best.
Speaker 1:I'm it's not gonna be my, my top, top best because I'm not feeling %. Like, of course not. Like but you all you can do is do your best, and momentum is the key. If you can build your momentum up and starts today, you can turn things around. Right?
Speaker 1:You don't have to be, you know, world changing. You'd have to be, like you don't have to be completely on top of a new way of going. Do know I mean? You don't have to have everything going right. You just need to start pushing that ball up the hill a bit, building a momentum.
Speaker 1:Boom. Boom. Boom. And you you realize, like, that's what it's all about. It's all it's all a momentum game all the time.
Speaker 1:Like, I've had a negative momentum, and I could have I could have easily let it that negative momentum keep pushing me down and down, but I pushed it back. I said, no. I'm not gonna keep eating shit. Like, I've already I've already just given myself an allowance, and I've tracked it. Right?
Speaker 1:Eating Mars ice creams every day and, you know, Oreo ice cream because I need it for my throat and I enjoy them. Right? Because I can't keep doing this all the time. Like, it's gonna this is a waste of my it's not, like, new nutrient dense and and I'm ill. I need to make sure I get because I get a of soups in and a lot of veg and stuff in.
Speaker 1:I was like, I need to stop pushing the other way, and I need to stop reducing this momentum because, like, this momentum could keep going. And once negative momentum builds, it's hard to stop the same as good momentum. Once you've got the good momentum building, it's really hard to stop. And then when it does stop, it sucks. But there we go.
Speaker 1:You we learn something. We learn something big when it stops, and then we keep going again. So push it. You wanna start your momentum today. And, I hope I don't sound too much like death, but it's all good, guys.
Speaker 1:I've missed making these voice notes for you in the last week or two. It's been it's been sporadic. But, yeah, enjoy yourself. And that again, I'll finish on like, the macros app is gonna be launching. Obviously, I've been ill, so I've got a lot of stuff to catch up on.
Speaker 1:But like, testing and all that. But the macros app, a feature that's gonna have to come in soon is I need to know my weekly average immediately because I've had to work it out, manually now to tell you how much I'm over. I'd like to know immediately right now how much I'm over my macros or what's my average so far so I can see how kind of bad or good my week's going. Do know I mean? So that'll be in the launch before we do a big launch as you all as you some of you have requested.
Speaker 1:But have a good day. Starts with today, build your momentum up, go for a walkie's gym session in, track your macros, get nutrient dense food in, put all this good stuff in you, and then happy days. And we'll see you tomorrow when we've built that tiny tiny bit of momentum, and we'll do the same thing again tomorrow. But enjoy your day, and, good luck England. Hope you actually win, and I'll speak to you soon.
Speaker 1:And that's it. Thank you for listening to the one day at a time podcast with your host, Gottfleer. Hopefully, you understood something I said. I hope that some wisdom kind of distilled through into your mind, and I want you to now action it today. I don't want you to think about tomorrow.
Speaker 1:I don't want you to think about yesterday. I don't want you to think about leaving a review on this podcast. I don't want you to think about going to another website. What I want you to do is as soon as this podcast ends, you will take action and make the most of today. Ground yourself today.
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