How To Deal With Stressful Moments ft. Lesson From Ibiza
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast with your host and the future leader of The Republic Of Wales, Sveldfjer. Now this might be the only podcast in the world where you actually have to reduce the speed instead of increasing it. However, what I wanna get over to you is that the past is gone. The future doesn't exist. So if you wanna make the most of your life, you've gotta make the most of these moments every single day.
Speaker 1:And this podcast is gonna help you live a healthier, more fulfilled life, hopefully, giving you some wisdom to take away every single day. So I'm gonna shut up now so you can get on with listening to the next episode. Hello. Hello. Hello, everyone.
Speaker 1:You know, bunch of mad heads mind have been going on in the group and there's people catastrophizing left, right, and center. First message to all, don't panic when it comes to macros, the app, nutrition, your journey. The worst thing you can do is panic because what you do when you panic is you see red and you are doing precisely the opposite of what you need to do in a situation where you need a cool head. So when you see that your weight for example doesn't come down one week, as many factors are going to why your macros don't drop. Were your macros accurate?
Speaker 1:Did you guess track too many macros? Were you ill? What part of the mental cycle were you on? Did you cause fit differently measurements? How stressed were you?
Speaker 1:How was your emotion emotional feelings of the week? There's a lot of things that go into the app, right? There's lot of things in the background. So please just let the app do its work. It is refined.
Speaker 1:It works. People again results. And it's just about patience. So when I see comments people catastrophizing and panicking, you're doing harm. You're doing it's it's kind of like a self harm.
Speaker 1:It's something we need to stop doing. We can't stop the initial onset of panic or worry. That's very natural for a human. But what we can do is we can nip it in the bud quickly. We can do it quite fast.
Speaker 1:So for example, in on holiday in Ibiza, I lost my phone on the second day. Obviously that's terrible, my life is on my phone. All the photos, new iPhone, to go and buy another one costs a lot of money. And one of the boys is like, God, if that happened to me, I'd have been going off my head, I'd be going crazy. And I was like, Look, I lost my phone and I was devastated.
Speaker 1:Of course, for that moment I was devastated. I was slightly panicking. But after a few minutes I was like, I've done what I can, it's definitely been stolen. Went on to find my iPhone, it's been turned off someone stole it. Absolutely nothing I can do about it now.
Speaker 1:And that was it. And I was like, what do I do next? What are the next steps for me? So this was at the end of the second night. Got the next day, used one of the boys' phones.
Speaker 1:Went on find my iPhone, canceled all the cards on there. I phoned up the EE, sent me a new SIM by the time I go home, and just use an old phone. I will get I had to go and get another one. Right? So, obviously, I panicked and I I worried, but I didn't let it get to me, didn't let it destroy me, didn't let ruin the holiday, didn't let it ruin me.
Speaker 1:Because if I panicked for the rest of the days, that one bad thing that happened would have turned into days and days of bad stuff and it ruined everything. Okay, my stress would have been high and I wouldn't have enjoyed and wasted a lot of precious time and memories and moments. So we're all gonna panic as times but I need you catastrophizing is called okay. In terms of stoicism is one of the main techniques. It's about understanding that we do get automatic reactions such as worry, stress response, but it's a response to that that actually matters.
Speaker 1:And I want you all to start now, just breathe slowly, don't panic, right. You're in this journey for life. This health and fitness journey is something you should be doing for the rest of your life, right. It doesn't mean you've got to be on a weight loss for the rest of your life but these are habits you're gonna build for the rest of your life. So the habit of de catastrophizing needs to be you need to work on it now because when you do have that one day where you eat loads of stuff, takeaways and all that.
Speaker 1:When I came back from my visa, I ordered loads of takeaways. All loads of food. You know, I didn't track. I just ate everything because I needed I needed food and needed it in. And I want I came back and it's when the loads of food went to go to sleep.
Speaker 1:And I woke up, it's like, you know, fine, let's get back to it. Let's get back to work today. So it's an essential skill in this journey and these are habits to be formed. The weight loss will come as a byproduct of these habits you're gonna do, the de stressing, the de catastrophization, employing patients, one day at a time mentality, tracking, being accountable to yourself, being honest. You can do these things.
Speaker 1:You can do these things. Your your body will, over time you will lose fat, you will gain muscle. So don't be too don't be too like don't narrow in too much on just the weight. Think of all the other good work you're doing. You're better food probably, You're tracking, you're learning, you're understanding yourself more.
Speaker 1:You don't have any, you know, these moments of adversity, of course, but you can overcome them slowly and over time, you will start ripping away at all of these bad habits you've built over your lifetime, all these bad kind of techniques that other businesses have taught you slimming world weight watchers and sins and all this stuff. They're gonna be breaking away, but it takes time guys. It does. But what is one year? Is one year?
Speaker 1:Ask people who were on the Octagon Challenge a year ago. How much can happen in a year is absolutely crazy. Right? It's crazy. It's not a long time you can you can completely change things around in a year.
Speaker 1:But just enjoy the process till then you look back you go wow that went fast. Right, that did went that went fast. I want to share a story. So I in Ibiza guys, so this is just before I lost my phone. I was in this beach club thing, Ocean Beach, and I know a thing, there was two women in front of us.
Speaker 1:One was a dancer, father, a dancer married, other one was a French, I think she's 35. And she was there with both married and we chatting to them. And when I chatted this lady, she was saying she was there because she was kind of celebrating, celebrating that she had stage four terminal cancer. And she was saying that she showed me a video of her celebrating, her last bit of treatment, her boyfriend video, I think it went viral, boyfriend has video in her and she was jumping off the car and she was dancing and she was like, you know, just explaining the, you know, she got given that diagnosis, you know, still not over the the hill with it, but she's decided to live. She's decided to enjoy and and, you know, face it head on.
Speaker 1:And she's out in Ibiza with a friend enjoying. And she was glowing. She was radiant. She was positive. I was like, if someone can be like that after being told that life could be taken away from him.
Speaker 1:If someone can be like that, even now in the midst of it, like she's not over the hill with it, but her story is amazing. She's enjoying, didn't let her get to her. She's just this strong person. Right? So that or inside all of us, % believe inside all of us there's an option.
Speaker 1:You can be like her or you can crumble. Like I said about this stuff, the stress, the catastrophization, we can all crumble is the easiest option. But if we don't, we can turn out like her super strong, face it, fighting, enjoying it, smiling, understanding more about things. And I was just blown away by her. I was like, wow.
Speaker 1:You know, you look around and there's people over there worrying about if they can the perfect photo for Instagram so they can get 136 likes or whatever they're worried about. And she's, you know, battling all of that out there, enjoying, not caring about that, but caring about communication, talking to people, enjoying our stuff. And she one of the main things she said as well was that it's vital that you have someone you can rely on in your life to support system. Someone who's there will be with you through thick and thin. And that resonated as well.
Speaker 1:Obviously, that's her her partner, and he sounds like an amazing guy. And if she's listening, I said I'd give her a shout out on my, podcast. I would love her to come and talk to you guys I think your story is amazing but she didn't do it on her own she had the support okay and you're if you're all part of the turtle membership network community we're here for you. There's a support network for you here for your health and fitness journey, for your mindset, stuff like that. Like, it's important that you do have an outlet.
Speaker 1:You know, we can't be there for everything. But if you've got an outlet and you've got an outlet to have a to vent to ask for help, ask questions, just talk to someone, that's the biggest thing that we've realised that our community has given people is giving them an outlet for this stuff. And without community, without people to rely on, we are doomed in a sense as humans that we've now like, we all think was independent and stuff like that. And I think it's great that we can be independent, strong, happy within ourselves. But I think it's even more important that we do ask for help when we need it.
Speaker 1:And I think if any of you are struggling and you're listening to this, we've all been there. There's been few tough weeks and stuff for me recently as well. We all go through bad stuff, but I want you to remember her story that she was diagnosed stage four. She's gone through a treatment. She lost her hair, come back now a bit.
Speaker 1:And she's still fighting and she's still smiling. And I want you to remember that because you're potentially luckier. You know, you're in a lucky position where you don't have a diagnosis and you haven't been given that news. So enjoy your day. Have a smile.
Speaker 1:Be grateful. Don't panic. This fitness, health fitness is a game, right? It's not as serious as life and death. Course it could be if you go way overboard and you're eating more and you go obese and then you're gonna cause problems like that.
Speaker 1:But at the end of the day, macro is just a game. It's a game. This macros is a game. Play the game with a smile on your face, go for a walk, be grateful you can train, and be grateful you can make the most of your day today. And I think that's the lesson I want you all to take away this Friday.
Speaker 1:And the turtle crew in Snowdon this weekend, torrential rain and wind. But what can you do by the weather? Absolutely nothing. So you can prepare, get your stuff ready, go up Snowdon in typical Welsh weather, conquer it, go back and feel like you've done something maybe you never would have done otherwise. But enjoy your days, enjoy your weekend, and I'll be back next week, of course.
Speaker 1:Everyone. Ta da. And that is it for today's episode. So hopefully you took something away from it. If you didn't, here's what you need to take away.
Speaker 1:Stop wasting time on social media. Stop wasting time gossiping. You've only got a day to live. Today's the only day you ever So if there's anything to take away from this podcast, even if you can't understand the word I say, even if you didn't resonate with the wisdom I try to deliver, this is a reminder of you daily to live one day at a time. Give your moments meaning today and don't be fooled by thinking you've got unlimited amount of days but if you can make the most of today I'm telling you you'll have a fulfilled life so enjoy your day and hopefully I'll see you back tomorrow.
Speaker 1:Do daily to live one day at a time. Give your moments meaning today and don't be fooled by thinking you've got unlimited amount of days But if you can make the most of today, I'm telling you, you'll have a fulfilled life. So enjoy your day and hopefully I'll see you back tomorrow.
