Love, Anger, Culture Imprint
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast where we forget about yesterday. We don't worry about tomorrow. It's what are we going to do today? This all matters because you've only ever had or will ever have the fantastic twenty four hours a day you're about to embark on. So hopefully this episode is going to give you some daily dose of wisdom that you can take action on today to improve your life.
Speaker 1:And remember, all it takes is one day at a time. Hello, everyone. Good morning. Maybe some of you listened to the q and a with me and Donald and Leila Lalia, sorry, last night. Maybe some of didn't.
Speaker 1:But let me give you a glimpse into what was said, I think it was brilliant. I love doing these chats with Donald and obviously look for the people listening who are on the strike and soul, yes they are two three hours long, they can get deep, they go on a variety of things philosophy stoicism is the main thing. But these are essential things to talk about. I don't care when anyone say, if someone says it's boring, it's dry and some people like what's up with philosophy? Yes, this is what humans have spoken about and worked out for thousands of years and we are straying too far away from not even discussing these things.
Speaker 1:Us not talking about things and being superficial about everything and calling stuff cringe or being like on top of that is one of the main problems. We're not talking about key things. And some of the topics raised were important like anger, is being angry and lashing out ever the answer and the answer is no, causes more self destruction than anything. Another one is talking about you know love and they were speaking about this two three thousand years ago talking about like, is the love that you're so infatuated by someone that you can't live without them true love? They would say it's not.
Speaker 1:They would say you need to love yourself first before you can even love someone authentically because if you are relying on someone else for your happiness and to feel loved, you're giving them, you're basically gonna act in like very irrational ways when you think that that might be taken away from you. So you might assume someone is doing something bad or they don't want to be with you anymore because your entire life is them loving you, you start acting out in irrational way, anger, jealousy, then it becomes very self destructive. Then a few questions were coming up on you know should you trust someone, how would you know when to trust someone and when not to trust someone. Again very hard to do like you can't just have black and white thinking as Donald was saying. I think like you have to judge it on people and their past and you know your experience with them but ultimately you're never going to know.
Speaker 1:So you're either going to trust people give them the benefit of the doubt but still knowing you know they could still fuck me over basically. That's probably the best way to go about it because if you never trust someone you're never going to live a happy life because you can live like as if I mean everybody's against you and you're going to be very like you know very pessimistic about everything and we know that's just a downward spiral. So it's about having a dose of the reality. Yes, someone might even if I do fully trust them and they there's no reason for me not to trust them, they could still do x or they could still do something that doesn't make me trust them. So that's another important thing from the talk was that, you know, I spoke about this, like, I can't remember the the name of this this this girl now, but there was a Greek tragedy on her where, you know, her husband left her and cheated on her and, like loads stuff up and basically to get back at him, thought the only thing possible to do the hurting was to kill their own kids, own sons, to get back at her obviously sounds crazy, right?
Speaker 1:So it's obviously not a good thing to do. But some people when they've like, what it explains is these tragedies are not, farfetched. Like, this happened with if you watched our TV show on Netflix TV shows. I'm making out it's a good TV show. Basically, it was Netflix covered this investigation into this guy who did I think it's the guy next door or something in this call, he did murder his own daughters because he wanted to be with this other girl and the only way he thought he could get to this other girl was to like kill everyone in his life.
Speaker 1:Like people are crazy sometimes, they get driven to like extremes and a lot of it's driven by quote unquote love. That is not love. And the problem is romantic comedy, romantic rom coms and films and the books lately in the last hundred years have made out love to be this romance, this like intense like fairy tale story, and it's driving people insane when that doesn't happen. It's driving them to do stuff that you would say someone insane would be doing. So there is a fine line between love and insanity and you know, anger, all this stuff.
Speaker 1:So that's what we talked about. So do have a listen back to it and what's healthy for you. Think that's an important answer is like, know, if you someone coming into your life as a bonus, basically, if someone comes into your life and they're good for you and you're good for them, then you're both bonuses in their lives but you have to learn to love yourself. The person you speak most to is yourself, Think about it, you speak to yourself all day. You're telling yourself stories all day, you're telling yourself how you should be, how you perceived, you're making up all this stuff and you have to catch yourself, have to be self aware of what you're saying and it's hard because sometimes it is that like an automatic negative thoughts, like I mentioned last time, last week about the, think of a country starting with D, think of the animal starting with a second letter and think of the color of the animal, then it's like, okay, thought of Denmark, elephant and gray.
Speaker 1:It's like that's what happens with automatic negative thoughts, kind of chain, they add on chain, chain, chain. So the first step is self awareness of those things. I think that's the most important thing is the self awareness and I think it's kind of overused a lot now a lot of people are saying self awareness and it's kind of like ticking the box but an example of me trying to be more self aware is like becoming more aware of your conditioning so like why do you believe the things you do? And there's something, there's this brilliant book called The Culture Code and it talks about how this guy was hired by a Chrysler, a car company or Chevrolet and he wanted to find out what people thought of their Jeeps like what do they think of the Jeeps, what was the reason they were buying the Jeeps and back in the day this was like ages ago, he found out the American public saw them as horses or like some like old fashionable way of traveling and they saw them as like big horses which is weird right? But then he'd be able to tap it because it was imprinted on them when they were younger that they were traveling horses and it was a big kind of thing, right?
Speaker 1:Weird. Anyway, he went to Europe to find out what they thought of these jeeps. And what was imprinted in the Europeans and especially the French and the German was that these American jeeps were liberation, freedom. To the Germans it was a outlook of like positivity and something that would hide or was opposite of their bad and dark side. So in Europe, they called us Jeep the Liberator.
Speaker 1:And it was because it was imprinted in these people that that Jeep equaled liberation. So you got to think, you can start thinking like how many things in my life am I imprinted with from like my childhood that has given me these thoughts about something. I was like, there must be loads of stuff like think of anything that happened when you're younger, know going to our first football game or rugby game and you start realizing like, I start thinking is, if I forgot like a big memory that I remember, would that mean would that be a different person? Yes, I would. So that memory is attached to like my outlook and my maybe my personality and something.
Speaker 1:So could be something about Wales or upbringing about that, and that memory stays with you and it's always there. But those ones you know of, so you can be self aware and be like, you know what? The reason I am so patriotic in a way is because, saw my upbringing, my mother, and the story they told about the Tory government and how they shut all the mines down and then you tell all the stories about Aberfan disaster and how there's little content contempt for the Welsh people from Westminster government. And you get here all these stories from the ground. And then you start sympathizing, you look into it, it's all true.
Speaker 1:And it's even worse than you think. When you look at it from a a human side of thing, not just like Wales versus England, and you start realizing actually even if I wasn't Welsh, this is absolute bullshit. And there's a reason why loads of countries in the world like are not a fan of the of of England and not the people, just England in general for the colonization and stuff like that and what they did and you hear these stories. But then I used to pull away the conditioning, which is that I got brought up with those stories being told. Look at it objectively, I still come to the same conclusion.
Speaker 1:So it's still aligned to me. I'm like, that's not fair. But the stuff we don't know about, what are they? What are these imprints in us? I don't know.
Speaker 1:What are they in you? That's your task today. Like, really dig deep and try and find these imprints that have been there from culture, from your upbringing and what does that mean to your behaviors today because that's the ultimately that is the end goal. They hired this guy by the way, the guy that did this culture code, he said you find the culture code for the product. He was hired by huge companies add them on retainer, right big companies add them on retainer fortune 500 companies to figure out the culture code behind specific products so then they could tap into it.
Speaker 1:He had a task where he had to go to Japan and he loved the tea in Japan and they were trying to sell coffee and they couldn't sell coffee in Japan and he figured out after focus groups and trying to do this like hypnosis shit and then for like he found out that there was no imprint of coffee in the Japanese public, they didn't know, they had no emotion to it, so they had no inclination to buy it. So what they started doing which is insanely clever but maybe you know, fucking hell, I think they this stuff, many other stuff they've done is they started making coffee ice cream I believe or sweets, coffee flavored ice cream and sweets for the kids. So when those kids started growing up then they would be imprinted that coffee was just like delight when they were younger so then when they market them instant coffee drink when they were older they would fucking buy it because they had the imprint when they were younger the sweets and then ice cream of coffee. Honestly, that's happened and they played the long term game. I got I have no clue what other things they've done to us.
Speaker 1:Care logs with breakfast cereal. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Marketing campaign to make you buy more cereal. It bloody works because everybody thinks it is the most important meal of the day now. Could have gone on with this guys, but self awareness today pleases you one big thing.
Speaker 1:Focus on one day at a time. Just take a journal, have a journal with you all day and write down some thoughts you're interested in because you will forget them if you don't write them down and then go from there. Happy days, enjoy your day, and yeah, speak soon. And that's it. Thank you for listening to the one day at a time podcast with your host, Scott Hopefully, you understood something I said.
Speaker 1:I hope that some wisdom kind of distilled through into your mind, and I want you to now action it today. I don't want you to think about tomorrow. I don't want you to think about yesterday. I don't want you to think about leaving a review on this podcast. I don't want you to think about going to another website.
Speaker 1:What I want you to do is as soon as this podcast ends, you will take action and make the most of today. Ground yourself today. Follow the one day at a time philosophy, and your life will change.
