Memento Mori
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast where we forget about yesterday. We don't worry about tomorrow. It's what are we going to do today? This all matters because you've only ever had or will ever have the fantastic twenty four hours a day you're about to embark on. Hopefully this episode is going to give you some daily dose of wisdom that you can take action on today to improve your life.
Speaker 1:Remember, all it takes is one day at a time. Good morning, everyone. I hope you've had a good day, so far, whatever you had of it so far. Remember, if you have a bad morning, do not translate that to my day is ruined. My day is over.
Speaker 1:You only had a few hours into the day. You've got plenty of time left. So I used to do it all the time. 11 I'd be like, days ruined, but I haven't had a shit day. You had a shit five minutes, Scott.
Speaker 1:Get over it. Okay? Wise up. Anyway, today, I wanna talk I know most of you listening, goal is fat loss and stuff like that. So, like, you know, I will be posting more content on that coming up soon.
Speaker 1:But I wanna just talk about two days ago, I went to the graveyard room with my mother. Now I know you're gonna know. It's called Unreeable Graveyards, mate. Grim. It's not so much for the graveyards of Grim.
Speaker 1:I actually really enjoyed it. So we went to see my mother's husband, well, stepfather, passed away a few years ago of cancer, pancreatic. And he had a saying he used to say all the time, he used to say to everybody, He was like the heart of the village, like big drinker in the pub. And, his his nickname was Cannon. So you can imagine this bloke.
Speaker 1:Think of a Cannon. That's how I would actually explain how he looks. Just a Cannon drinking, and he had a saying, nada aura, which means do your best. Think of how good that is, how powerful that saying is. Just thinking about it now, was like, god, that's such a good sign off for people to know you of.
Speaker 1:So everybody knew him of, you know, do your best. And that's really what you're gonna do today. That's all I want you all to do today is do your best, Nadora. I was walking around the graveyard. It's not very big, but just like going over me and my mother were talking about people that passed away and just like the ages, like 62 there, 54 there, my mother's best friend passed away with her daughter and her grandchildren in house fire.
Speaker 1:We went past that one, remember when I was younger. She said a story of a girl. So my mother said, we went down to the bottom where people died fifty years ago. Well, less than her. But she said, that girl there, I said, who, four years old.
Speaker 1:I said, what about her? So I was in school with her. I remember she died and she caught fire in a house and she was a twin sister and she was shouting and the mother thought that she was just shouting because the twin brother was like, you know, playing about twin sister was playing about with her but she caught fire in the fireplace and passed away. But then we passed, you know, her other best friend and one of my friends, Phil's mother and her husband and just like so many people you know and I was thinking walking across these gravestones and stuff like that you just realise like that this does happen. Does happen, people move on, people die and I think it's important to realise that we are on this earth for a finite amount of time and if you keep running away from our fact, you're always gonna feel very uncomfortable.
Speaker 1:You might be feeling uncomfortable now me even saying this, but you have to come to accept the fact cause if you don't, you're gonna keep running away from it and you're not gonna make the most of each day and you have to be grounded in it. Like I've said before, the Romans used to say mementumori all the time, remember your death. They used to remind themselves of this all the time. And we just today, we're like, Oh no, I can't think about that, that's terrible. No, it's to be accepted as you can make the most of the people in your life and who you are now right now.
Speaker 1:I do feel pity in some people who have never experienced any loss until they're in their adult lives. I know some people have had an adult loss and they're in their 30s. It's like, they probably think in their head, death happens to other people. It doesn't happen to me. Like I don't experience someone dying.
Speaker 1:I've never experienced it I just don't get it. And then when it happens, like the world is imploded and the world comes on top of you and it's just complete chaos. Obviously like sudden deaths and stuff like that horrible, but like as you age and you get older and people are dying of older age, knowing that it's gonna happen should kick you up the ass to make the most of your time with them now. It's definitely the case for me now, back here, making sure I speak to my father and stuff, making sure I see my mother, making sure I'm going on walks, making sure these small moments I'm making the most of. Me at 21 years old, if my mother asked me to take her to the graveyard, put flowers in the graveyard, can't, do I have to take you up there?
Speaker 1:Why? Why didn't you just go up another time? But I was like, you know what, I'm gonna go up there and I'm gonna walk around with you and see who you wanna pay respects to. I'm gonna chat to you with other people that you've known who have passed away, stories, I wanna hear the stories of these people. I wanna walk around slowly, speak to you, you know, make the most of these moments and I enjoyed it as weird as it sounds.
Speaker 1:I enjoyed the fact that we walked around the graveyard. So I don't really know where I'm going with this voice note. I just thought I would share that with you and it just made me really focus on those moments and I spoke about it before and there's a book and I think Louise mentioned she's read recently as well called Man's Search for Meaning and it talks about like the meaning of your life comes from the meaning you put the moments and not trying to put a meaning to your entire lifespan because if you try and put a meaning to your entire lifespan and I'm talking years and years, it's like, why am I here? What's the point being here? What am I doing?
Speaker 1:You're missing the point, it's the moments you give meaning to and those are the moments. Those moments that I enjoy in the sun walking around the mother, that's a moment I give meaning to. And if I build, if I can make my days filled with those moments or three or four or five of those moments in between joy of working and helping people and doing what I like, That is all I need. I don't need anything more. I don't need some extravagant meaning to my life.
Speaker 1:I got Scott this year to save the people of Wales and take them on a course of Irish independence, and he's gonna take them the army of Wales against the English. You're like do you know what mean? Some people think of it so big. Like, I am destined to do this, but I'm just here to to to make moments to make moments in my days and live one day at a time. That's it.
Speaker 1:So hopefully, you live one day at a time today. Make the most of friends and family, all that stuff, message someone you have a message in a while, phone your parents if you haven't spoken in a while or your cousins, your best mate, whatever it is, just remember to do it some one of those things today amongst the chaos of work and the chaos of trying to lose weight and all of these other stresses we got, we should break the day up into those moments as well. Because it makes it more enjoyable as well, doesn't it? It makes your days more enjoyable and not just all about us all the time, but give away to other people. And that's it.
Speaker 1:Back to fat loss and stuff tomorrow. Don't you worry. If it resonates, happy days. If not, sorry for wasting seven minutes of your time. Hopefully, you're on a walk doing this.
Speaker 1:So it's all good. And the weather is coming better now. So, hey, get over it. Get over it, and I'll speak to you tomorrow. And that's it.
Speaker 1:Thank you for listening to the one day at a time podcast with your host, Golf Leer. Hopefully, you understood something I said. I hope that some wisdom kind of distilled through into your mind, and I want you to now action it today. I don't want you to think about tomorrow. I don't want you to think about yesterday.
Speaker 1:I don't want you to think about leaving a review on this podcast. I don't want you to think about going to another website. What I want you to do is as soon as this podcast ends, you will take action and make the most of today. Ground yourself today. Follow the one day at a time philosophy and your life will change.
