Self-pity or progress?
Hello. Good morning, Live from Wales. How how's your weekend gone? You can answer in your head. Good, bad, overindulged, whatever.
Speaker 1:Who cares? It's Monday now. New day. So gotta crack on. Gotta get on with it.
Speaker 1:We've got to do what we can today basically, and I just keep coming into Mondays with that mindset. No matter what, the weekend, or what happened, the thing is if you did get proper steaming and you are feeling it today, the best thing you can do when you're feeling a bit shitty on a Monday is not to just go, yeah, feel really bad, I'm not gonna do anything. Just do something tiny for yourself, like go for a walk or go into a food shop or just meal prep some meals, do something. You don't have to do massive workout or track everything 100%, but do something. So back to basics now, we're keeping the basics, it's October time.
Speaker 1:Now you might have seen our pay what you want offer for a lot of our programs on demand style. Pay what you want, 25% of the net proceeds will go to our Turtle Energy Bills Fund. We're gonna start an eight hour soon once we get enough in. Hopefully, the plan works and we get enough in to help people. But even if we help 10 people, that's enough.
Speaker 1:The initiative's worth it. But hopefully, do twenty twenty style help where we could help a lot of people. And we have to start thinking about how everything connects in our lives. You know, you can get super fit if you want. You can go to the gym, hit the iron, get lean, and you can neglect the financial side of your life.
Speaker 1:And that's gonna pull you down the other sides. Or you can smash work, and you neglect your relationships. Or you can you're chasing someone, you love someone so much, oh my god, you don't work anymore because you can't be bothered, you're in love, you're infatuated, you don't even do work, and your workers are gonna shit there. We have to think of everything in totality now because it is, all of it works together. So that's why we've a big focus this month on helping you get cheaper recipes, making you do cheaper recipes, high protein, meal prepping, you're gonna save money, you're gonna save time, you're gonna save stress.
Speaker 1:Financial well-being sessions, so this morning on the radio or wherever you listen to it, this morning on the radio, Sophie would have done a financial well-being session, which is great, so helping us become more aware of our finances just like we are about our macros. And we're really looking at the obstacle is the way type mindset this month. It's the obstacles we face. We need a different perception on them. An obstacle is an opportunity.
Speaker 1:You if you see an obstacle as an opportunity, great. Right? The thing is you can go, because you go, Scott, shut up. I got this big obstacle where I'm gonna lose my house. You know, stuff like that is harder to deal with, and it's like, obviously, this advice is more in the middle to apply.
Speaker 1:But even then, when it comes to like big, huge life changing events we can either make them worse with our own thoughts or we can see them as they are and actually be pragmatic and actually make the problem a bit easier for ourselves no matter how big the problem is. You know, we can waste time talking and being sorry for ourselves for days and weeks and actually not tackle the problem, not go towards it, not go through it, no matter how big it is. Most of our problems, day to day we're talking about, we turn them into massive problems because one day you're gonna have a really bad day. You're gonna have a really, really bad day and it's gonna be legitimately bad. Something's gonna happen in your life, family, whatever, and it's gonna go, yeah, this is a really bad day, someone's died or I've lost my job or whatever, it's a huge thing.
Speaker 1:But we make good decent days really bad just because we're it's our habit. We want to turn everything into a into a complaint. Everything into, oh, this is terrible. Oh, no way. We love doing it.
Speaker 1:We love the freak out, the emotional freak out like Ryan Ollie says in the book. We love doing it. And we need to stop that this month because we haven't got we haven't got the resources in our mind to tackle what's coming up this winter if we're gonna let little minuscule things go turn into mountains for no reason. Right? So we need to focus on the actual obstacles, the actual problems we got, head, face them on, and deal with them and not be distracted.
Speaker 1:Okay? And things are gonna get tough. And I was saying that you think, oh, Scott, easy for you. Things are tough over here. Things are tough over here.
Speaker 1:I spend all weekend working, All weekend trying to figure shit out. How are gonna do how are gonna get how are we gonna sort this out? How are gonna get out of this place? Well, how are we gonna get from this place to that place? How are we gonna do this?
Speaker 1:And I kept seeing my mind fall off. I'm sorry for myself. I stopped working. Just go and go and just go and watch TV or just go and eat and go and do something. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Feel sorry for yourself. Feel pitying yourself. I mean, thought, I could see the thoughts wanting that action to go. I refused to buckle to it. It's like, what's that going to do for me?
Speaker 1:What is feeling sorry for myself in a situation going to do for me? I have a bit of perspective, they're good problems to have, but they're also problems in my life. Do you mean problems in this type of world? Just because they're like what you think are kind of what's the word? Like Jess G said, whatever, first world problems.
Speaker 1:There's problems. Every human's got a problem. Problems. You know, first world problems can be more mentally problematic than other problems because once we're given the option of all these things we can do, that messes your head up as well. What I'm gonna say is is that feeling sorry for yourself is gonna become you're gonna feel the urge to do it.
Speaker 1:You're gonna feel the urge to feel sorry for yourself, self pity, victimized. You're gonna be you feel be a victim. And if you do want other people to know, and you feel you're going to be able to feel sorry for you, that's gonna do nothing for you, for them, nobody. But the downside of this type of mindset is the people who just, and I don't wanna say just get on with it because we're not trying to say don't share struggles and that, you know, you can have help and all that. But the people who do get on with it and don't dwell, don't make every little thing a problem, they tend to be seen to the outside world or to your family and friends as they got it together.
Speaker 1:Don't worry about them. All good. You know? And that's a problem as well. That is a problem because not it's not only the people that are loud and complainy talking about how bad their life is have got problems, every person on this planet has got problems.
Speaker 1:And that is why we're reading the Obstacle Is Away this month. How do we deal with our own obstacles? Everyone has got obstacles. How do we become more emotionally aware that other people are struggling so we've got more compassion as well as opposed to only thinking about our problems? Can I help your problem?
Speaker 1:Or does I help my problems? Doesn't me just helping unconditionally help with my situation? I think it does. I think it can. I think we can help ourselves a lot mentally by helping others unconditionally, 100%.
Speaker 1:Can we do more for others this month, but actually help ourselves this month as well? How could look at, you know, the paradox of that. People don't think about how can I help other people? How can I put support, let hand hand out there when I've got all these bills going up and all this stuff? How is that gonna help me?
Speaker 1:Well, you'd be shocked actually how much how much better, how much more alive you feel when you help other people and nothing in return. I remember the first pay where you want deal we did in 2020. Right? We had that news. It was shocking.
Speaker 1:We're going into lockdown. Businesses were like, well, what are gonna do? I set up a small business support group. I was like, you know what? I've done a lot of online marketing over the years.
Speaker 1:I can try and help them pivot their marketing to try and get customer emails, I get in touch with their email customers to maybe have a digital product out if they're physical, all this stuff. And eventually, he's like, you know what? Like, why a lot of people are wanting home workouts right now, but we don't wanna break the bank. We don't know what's coming up. Right?
Speaker 1:So, like, well, why don't we just offer a bunch of our workouts and give them access to our live workout group for the and pay what you want to offer. Right? Sounds ridiculous. And they're Scott, they're gonna pay £3 for all our value. Yeah.
Speaker 1:They are. That's what we're doing. But why? There's no no. There's no way.
Speaker 1:So why don't we just try and have as many people as we can? We're in the digital world. This video can be broadcast to thousands of people. Why you do it? We're not limited to a person per class.
Speaker 1:I get the class dynamic. You gotta pay $10.20 quid a class because there's only 20 people to fit there. No. No. Let's go full play out and actually make it even better.
Speaker 1:Why don't we use some of the money we make from that into our fund and just give people £50 to help with their small business costs? When we do that, wow sounds nuts. Well, all good ideas sound nuts. So let's go ahead and we did that and woah, it flew. And I've never felt more alive in those moments.
Speaker 1:I used to wake up full of adrenaline, go on the computer, check how much money we made from pay what you want to offer through ads and stuff like that and go, right. No. And I didn't think how much money we've made because we didn't personally make loads of profit from it. But I remember thinking, yes, we've made enough money to donate 10 more businesses today. I had to go in the Facebook group, and I find the comments.
Speaker 1:I'm really struggling with this. I got you know, I got you. Wait there. Boom. £50.
Speaker 1:Here you go. Banging. Expect anything back from me. But what we did get back from me, let me tell you a few things we got back from me. Some of our gold members right now came from those pay where you want offers, and it wasn't done to get gold members.
Speaker 1:It was purely done to help as much as possible, to do something in these times. You know, obviously, the money come in would cover some of our software costs, business costs, all our stuff, and kept us going and kept other people going. That's what it was before. Then we had Jackie Gilbert, for example. She's she came through a pay what you want, a small business group.
Speaker 1:We helped her with some strategy stuff. She joined the small business group. Yeah, she came and saw we were doing a challenge and it fit like four or five weeks later. I joined the Octagon Challenge, lost 70 pounds Now she's one of those members that people look up to. You know?
Speaker 1:This the the look at what happened there. Well, the people they people call her serendipity, didn't he? And that's when you just stop thinking yourself so much for the ones. And actually do something for the greater good. And you don't feel them there's there's something inside this human element to us because we've always been that social primate helping other each other out in small tribes.
Speaker 1:Someone activating you and it feels amazing. And you can say, oh, you're doing yourself. You really feel good. But it's not. It's it's connection to the human race.
Speaker 1:It's a connection to the world, basically. So, yeah, we're going into this October period, and you can go into this Monday feeling sorry for yourself that you've eaten five pies and 10 drinks, you feel, oh, I've eaten too much. But let's think about all the other people suffering, all the other people going through shit in October, all of the friends and family we know now are thinking about bills struggling. When you start reaching out, have you seen this offer, pay with you when you get some workouts in, get you get you fit and healthier. When you see this person, like, there online jobs going or is there, you know, if you find if you have good information from Sophie in the financial well-being, do wanna message your friends and say, we filed with this, guys?
Speaker 1:Have you lost your bills? You are you okay? Like, what are your mortgages going up? Do we need to have a chat and see how we can support each other? No.
Speaker 1:There's there's stuff we can do. There's a lot of stuff we can do. It's way more. But as long as we think of me, me, me, me, me, and I didn't lose weight this weekend, we can't get out of this funk we're in. We can't be thriving.
Speaker 1:If if we can thrive through these terrible times, I genuinely feel like we can all come out of this three to four months. It's gonna be tough, but we can all come through it going, you know, those months, not only did I look after my health, not only did I save money from my food spend because I'm now cooking better, doing low cost meals and I'm enjoying it and I'm saving time, not only did I put my time and help other people, I'm gonna initially give them advice, WhatsApp groups, take them time, we're now actually going into a good phase in the world. Oh, the pounds back up, The Tories are gone. Like, I don't know. Whatever.
Speaker 1:Like, things are gonna get better one day. They have to this always happens. There's a peaks and troughs. This happens all the time. All the time.
Speaker 1:And do we wanna be at the end of that place when it's going into a boom, only then coming alive and going, oh, yeah. It's it's getting better now. Now I'll know. And I'll do stuff. Or do we wanna be at that time going, do you know what?
Speaker 1:I'm leaner, I'm stronger, I'm more resilient, I've helped people, I've got more friends now, I've got more community, And I feel great about myself. And, yeah, it's been tough forever, but I'm glad how I I'm I'm really I'm really, really, really happy how I dealt with that. And now I'm gonna go into this next phase, and this phase is a boom phase. And this I'm gonna be into this boom phase even better. I got a bit of a spring to my step now.
Speaker 1:And I swear I swear to God, once this boom comes and we're in this position, we're gonna feel awesome. We're gonna feel we've we've done our part. And that's all we can do really, isn't it? Do our part. That's what I'm doing.
Speaker 1:I'm doing my part. I'm trying to help you guys and motivate you in a way, give you information at the right time. So, you know, today, let's have a think. What can you do today just for yourself? What can you do today that's gonna help someone you know, you know, put your information there, put them in the right direction, put say this and that.
Speaker 1:And how can we think of the bigger picture that we know that after this tough winter, we don't wanna throw this winter all away to being sorry for ourselves, eating other shit foods, not bothering with the health and fitness, and going into a kind of, cocoon of me me me me ness. Yeah? How can we start thinking about that? And what does that look like over the next few months? I started thinking about this, and have a good day, basically.
Speaker 1:So have a good day. Remember, folks, today only, obviously. The only time you can make it to take actual action. You can dream about action. You can think about action.
Speaker 1:We can only take action now. So take action now, and you'll have a good day. And I will see you all on the radio and on Zooms.
