Speaker 1: 00:02

Welcome to the one day at a time podcast where we forget about yesterday. We don't worry about tomorrow. It's what are we going to do today? This all matters because you've only ever had or will ever have the fantastic twenty four hours a day you're about to embark on. Hopefully this episode is going to give you some daily dose of wisdom that you can take action on today to improve your life.

Speaker 1: 00:25

And remember, all it takes is one day at a time. Oh, good morning everyone. I hope you all had a good bank holiday weekend because the sun finally came out and it actually felt good. Could actually just walk about in the sun, take it in and felt like we're gonna have a summer for the first time. I feel like we've hope has arrived for, summer twenty twenty one to be the summer twenty twenty was meant to be.

Speaker 1: 00:52

But there we are. I know a lot of you would have gone out, had a lot of fun, drank a lot, ate a lot. You know, don't expect people to, like, whip out My Fitness Pal, every bar they go into or even track your macros at all. So don't worry if, like, you've kind of spent your bank holiday weekend, you know, enjoying with your friends like that's what life is all about. The thing is what I want to remind you of is a lot of you've been with us for a while, lot of you started recently, lot of you on the Zara plan right.

Speaker 1: 01:24

And the thing is, if you motivation is not enough, right, and there's a quote by Jim Rohn, this, like Tony Robbins, his mentor, he says that motivation is not enough. If you have an idiot and you motivate him, now you have a motivated idiot. Now this works as well, so like don't panic that you've gone off kind of off plan or whatever, you're actually on a plan that has been tested and it's a sustainable way to go about things and you get educated along the way, some people would have gone off plan now alright, or like I don't even want to say off plan because you're not off plan, they would have had a bad quality weekend but before this they would have been on a strict strict diet and they would have been losing loads of weight and they would be putting it all on this bank holiday weekend and now it's gone and now they're going to go back to the all or nothing approach and their all or nothing means they're going to go flat out like well it's over now I've tried and everything's out the window, they haven't really learned anything they just went on a crash diet because they've basically been sick of the motivated idiot thing.

Speaker 1: 02:30

So you know that having a weekend where you've indulged a bit and added drinks is not really hampering your long term plan, it's not hampering your long term ability to live a healthier lifestyle because everything we do we learn from. So these weekends and stuff we learn from them, right, what did I, like you can do a little recap, like what did I like about the weekend that I did, what did I maybe should have improved on, did I need to have those extra kebab late tonight, did I need to do that, Did I need to go have those extra three or four drinks? Did he benefit me or was there social pressure? Did I need to do this and that? And actually what we want to do is we want to like just eliminate one of those each time.

Speaker 1: 03:15

And eventually you get to the point where you found your perfect balance where you're like my balance is these, I'm gonna drinks, I'm gonna do this at the end of the night, I'm gonna do this the next day blah blah blah, and eventually you'll find something that works for you. You know the reason where we're so worried about nights out and stuff when it comes to staying on track and stuff is we've never seen them as a way to stay on track. We've seen them as always something bad or something we can't really improve. It's kind of like all or nothing with those, it's kind of like we see them as like mountains that are just impossible to climb and impossible to be moderate about. And I think that's the mindset we need to change.

Speaker 1: 03:53

So we change our mindset, it's like how can we just make it slightly more towards the person we want to be each time and eventually you'll get there. So that's it really, don't panic, back on it, let's get back macros. Our macros app is finally right in testing on my phone. So I'm testing it out for a few days to make sure the bugs are gone, the turtle members will have will have access to it and hopefully down in a few weeks we'll be launching it fully, but I can't wait to launch it's gonna make life a lot easier for all of us. And all I want to talk about now and touch upon is like on my bank holiday weekend I'm starting a hosting and I've created a business course, like influencer marketing is part of it, it's a marketing course starting today, it's only like five weeks long, I've always wanted to teach this and it's a big opportunity for me to do it even though I've got like no time anyway, just need to do it.

Speaker 1: 04:54

And this weekend I obviously couldn't go nuts and get wrecked, like obviously couldn't because it would make me slow today and tomorrow and it would have been a nightmare, so I've had to restrain, right? And I know my friends are drinking all that stuff. And you could say why wouldn't you go drinking?' I was like 'yeah but I needed to do the work as well' at the last minute things. But look anyway, it got to the point where I felt more, like the devil that four more is. It was an insanely strong pull.

Speaker 1: 05:24

And I was thinking like God this is, this feeling is just, is horrible, is this ever gonna go, like time feels like a standstill, you feel like a loser, you feel like you're a massive loser in the world. You're like, oh my days, everyone's out drinking and enjoying and I'm just wasting my life. And you say some stupid things, you think some stupid things. You wake up the next day and feel amazing that I didn't, you know, put it, you know potentially ruin the start of the course or how I felt. And, it's just a lesson really that for more one of the most powerful forces and it's important that I think that we manage to win a few formal battles to understand it can be won.

Speaker 1: 06:10

Because I speak to a lot of people, they can't win the battle. It's like, you know what, I can't go out this weekend, I've gone on Monday anyway, I've got a big thing on Monday la la la la. La la. And then it gets to 7PM and they're like, oh, and they think time will stand still. They think time will never pass by and they won't.

Speaker 1: 06:25

And tomorrow morning they wake up feeling grateful they didn't go and ruin things. And they just do it. So do bear in mind like a formal hits all of us even when we got like big things coming up and it's like, yeah, it's a bet definitely the right decision. I don't think formal ever is gonna go for us, but that's when you risk, you know, you weigh like my future self, like what's that gonna bring me and what's missing one day drinking and stuff gonna be, you know, when you like map it out like missing a day drinking and stuff like that isn't really gonna, you're not gonna go to 65 years old and go do you know I wish I had that extra day drinking in my twenties, but you will say like well that project was a big thing or that thing I wanted to do, that business I wanted to start, that whatever it is that I wanted to do needed me to be 100% that time and I went into it not 100% because I couldn't beat formal for that one day. And that will be nagging your mind for the rest of your life, do know I mean?

Speaker 1: 07:25

So when it comes to formal guys I think it's important to learn how to be alone. That doesn't mean being lonely, it means being alone in your own mind. It's something everybody should practice I think. And, I'll probably do more about this because I think I've, wouldn't say I've mastered it, but I've done a good job because I've been alone working by myself since like 2016. I remember when I went out to San Francisco Twenty Sixteen, when I was working on my brand Rugby Warfare, I lived in a flat with random Americans, but day to day I was walking around on my own on my laptop working from different HQs, Airbnb HQ, just walking around taking all the taxiing in, and I'd spend a lot of time on your own.

Speaker 1: 08:07

And then, you know, there's a lot of things that come into your mind that don't when you're always surrounded by people. When you're always surrounded by noise you don't get a chance to think certain things. And it kind of numbs you in a way and then you get to the weekend and it's like you know you go out and you go erect and then you wake up on a Monday, you don't have that self reflection time. I think that's probably it, the self reflection, whatever you can fit that in, have a quiet fifteen minutes in the morning to yourself, a quiet fifteen and a half an hour in the evening to be with yourself, to journal or to think on your own and yourself I think is a massively beneficial exercise to do, one that definitely formed a lot of my ideas and thinking to this day. I'll leave you on that, good luck today remember, focus on today only, let's get back, let's build back momentum, we don't need to go from zero to 100 miles per hour right, we just need to pick up the momentum again, pick up the speed, start pushing again today, and kind of like the James Clear in Atomic Harbors thing, know, ice melts at zero degrees, right?

Speaker 1: 09:11

But taking it from minus 10 to minus one isn't a waste of time, but it does melt from minus one to zero. Maybe we're starting from, you know, minus four today. Let's get to minus three. That's all we gotta do today. Let's get to minus three, and let's start building up again and melt that ice.

Speaker 1: 09:30

And that's it. Thank you for listening to the one day at a time podcast with your host, Golf Leer. Hopefully, you understood something I said. I hope that some wisdom kind of distilled through into your mind, and I want you to now action it today. I don't want you to think about tomorrow.

Speaker 1: 09:46

I don't want you to think about yesterday. I don't want you to think about leaving a review on this podcast. I don't want you to think about going to another website. What I want you to do is as soon as this podcast ends, you will take action and make the most of today. Ground yourself today.

Speaker 1: 10:00

Follow the one day at a time philosophy and your life will change.