Stories & Meaning
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast where we forget about yesterday. We don't worry about tomorrow. It's what are we going to do today? This all matters because you've only ever had or will ever have the fantastic twenty four hours a day you're about to embark on. Hopefully this episode is going to give you some daily dose of wisdom that you can take action on today to improve your life.
Speaker 1:Remember, all it takes is one day at a time. Hello everyone, how are you doing? So first things first, are you reading Man's Search for Meaning of a book club because if you're not please read it, it's one of the most powerful books you'll ever read. So the reason is very powerful for me and I think like the main lesson from a book is you need to give meaning to your moments. You can't give meaning to an extended period of your life like if you try and give a meaning to your entire life it's gonna blow your head off but if you give meaning to the moment of every day that those add up, right?
Speaker 1:And one of the best ways to do this is to basically I got this idea from a book called Storyworthy by Matthew Dix. And basically every day you write a few sentences of a story that's happened to you that day in an Excel sheet. So I look back at my one, I haven't done it religiously right but it just does give you more meaning to your days. Every day's got little story, it could be something tiny, it could be something big and you start finding more meaning to these moments and you've just feel more fulfilled right. Hopefully that makes sense.
Speaker 1:Let me just let me go over a few mine off the cuff okay. December 2, hired a cleaner she's from Brazil. She's a mother in her late 60s got a daughter at 27 she has to go back to the Brazil and she lives in Amazon Rainforest. Her mother's in hospital with COVID I gave her extra cash plus a one day at a time medallion. She reminded me of my mother in a way.
Speaker 1:That was a story second December I remember now, Reading now now I remember vividly that day. And I like speaking to people from different cultures, one of my favorite things. Okay, December 3, went to Brixton with two friends for drinks and food. I only had one pint, couldn't drink more. Good chat.
Speaker 1:World is very different but more chilled. Went December, went for food in Brook House with Johan, friend from Wales, was shocked because he was so posh and he was in gym kit. He spoke about how every girl in London is tall but he's quite short. We booked Vegas, invited Gio, then had a mastermind event in the evening. Cool.
Speaker 1:December 7, went for a very nice meal at Aragon House bumped into my new neighbor at a coffee shop on the way home. She realized she can't be full Irish in London because Londoners are too rude and I agree. December 11, Housemarth came back to move out she said her piece about not wanting to pay bills because she hadn't been there. She said she's doing me a favor paying rent there to stay there all year. And I go on to say people will justify anything for their own personal gain.
Speaker 1:Integrity goes out the window over a few quid even with people who claim they aren't stingy. December 13, quiz five for the live like Louise challenge. Nobody guesses higher or lower in probed incorrectly. Twenty third December, saw an ad for skills and realized this sucked versus their competitor master class signed up with master class instead. Thank you skills.
Speaker 1:Twenty fourth of December, talking with my mother, her friend's daughter has never had a job. She walks around the streets in pajamas, catches a bus up the road road, believes in conspiracy theories, houses plastered in them. Twenty fifth of Feb interview with Klaviyo about business, interesting chat, book club tonight. Just like, look, these are like all just like things answered out to the day, right? And I think you should all start doing this because it's powerful because now I'm reading them, I remember the days.
Speaker 1:Like if I didn't note all those down I would have forgotten about them and there's so many like small things we do in our day to day lives that they just do add up like it's massive, it's mental and how good it is like when you read Man's Search for Meaning you realize that's the important thing about your life. It's not about like all this materialism stuff and everything like that. Is about being able to give meaning to moments. Let just share a few things from the book that are just unbelievably good. Okay.
Speaker 1:He talks about individual responsibility is core. The Statue Of Liberty should be supplemented with a statue of responsibility in the West Coast. We want freedom, but we don't want responsibility. We have to take responsibility for our lives. Okay?
Speaker 1:We got with the things we can we can control anyway. Everything can be taken from a man or woman but one thing, the last of human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. Right? A lot of things can happen to us, but we can always decide what attitude we wanna go forward with. That's true.
Speaker 1:Right? To live is to suffer. To survive is to find meaning in the suffering. Similar to what the Buddha says actually. This is a great one.
Speaker 1:We'll finish on this. Don't aim at success, the more you aim at it and make it a target the more you are going to miss it for success like happiness cannot be pursued it must ensue and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the byproduct of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen and the same holds for success. You must you have to let it happen by not caring about it. Very important.
Speaker 1:Similar to macros and losing weight right. We don't want to aim for like losing 10 pounds we want to become, we want that to be the side effect of our lifestyle and what we dedicate ourselves to. We dedicate ourselves to a healthier lifestyle, not just for us, but for a greater cause, for great for society, for our family, for our friends, for our grandchildren in the future. We want to be healthy for people, we want to be role models for people. And we do everybody here, no matter if you believe it or not, every kind of interaction you have with people, you leave like you you kind of change everyone by like not what point one degrees, whatever it is.
Speaker 1:And you want to be a positive person in people's lives. Every time you bump into someone and talk to someone, you want them to become better people after it as cheesy as it is. But that's true. It's so true. And that's when you think about who you are to be healthy.
Speaker 1:You wanna be confident, wanna be healthy, you wanna be true to yourself, you wanna be you, like Bruce Lee says, you wanna become your own individual person. And when we do that, and we we know we're looking after ourselves, of course, the byproduct is happiness. And of course, it is fat loss and a stronger body and a happier life. Of course, that's gonna happen. But we can't focus on the end goal because it's not just gonna happen that way.
Speaker 1:When you stare at a clock, how slow does it go? How slow does the clock go when you stare at it? Literally, I think time stops. But when you don't focus on the time, you let you go on other things, the time just goes by fast. There's a famous physics experiment as well when they look at electrons, I think it is, or they look at particles from wave particles.
Speaker 1:And when they look at the particles, they act in a specific way, right? They just go through the gaps and hit the wall in straight lines. When they don't look at the particles, they act in different ways. They just like it's completely changes. So it's like when you look at when we're always staring at something you know it might just not go like it with time over the particles it like if we keep staring at something it might not get the result we want, it might not happen because we just it's too focused but once we look away things change, things change.
Speaker 1:But again, let's zoom it back in to the one day at a time philosophy. Let's have a look at what today, what story you're gonna write about today, Whatever happens to you, write out a story, a few lines. Like, this will happen today. No matter how boring it is or whatever, you have to write something out, and you do this every day. You're giving meaning to your moment.
Speaker 1:You're focusing on the on the process, you're focusing on who you need to be, who you are versus end result and look it all fall into place over time, patience is something hardly anybody has. We must have patience but we must live day to day fully, we must appreciate that today is the only day we'll ever have or will ever have. It's the only thing that's present, the past is gone, future doesn't exist yet. So the only thing we've got is right now. Right this second.
Speaker 1:So make the most of it and enjoy more importantly. But, what's your one big thing? Let me know. And that's it. Thank you for listening to the one day at a time podcast with your host, Golf Leer.
Speaker 1:Hopefully you understood something I said. I hope that some wisdom kind of distilled through into your mind, and I want you to now action it today. I don't want you to think about tomorrow. I don't want you to think about yesterday. I don't want you to think about leaving a review on this podcast.
Speaker 1:I don't want you to think about going to another website. What I want you to do is as soon as this podcast ends, you will take action and make the most of today. Ground yourself today. Follow the one day at a time philosophy, and your life will change.
