The Closest to Us Can Drag Us Down
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast where we forget about yesterday. We don't worry about tomorrow. It's what are we going to do today? This all matters because you've only ever had or will ever have the fantastic twenty four hours a day you're about to embark on. Hopefully this episode is going to give you some daily dose of wisdom that you can take action on today to improve your life.
Speaker 1:And remember, all it takes is one day at a time. Good morning everyone it is Friday so that means it's end of the week but it doesn't mean we're not gonna enjoy and make the most of today and just go mental for the weekend yet, Let's keep it together. Yeah? You with me? So you better be on your morning walk or you better be on your way for your morning walk or you better be up at least enjoying these mornings.
Speaker 1:That like when I speak to people about Book Club and Atomic Harbets and stuff, the biggest change people make is their morning routine. So you need to get an assaulted. So hopefully you're on a walk listening to this. And what I want to talk about today, this ignited from a chat I had yesterday, right, about like you dare to leave the group you're in, so back home say when you're with your friends and family, small town or whatever, and you dare to leave and you go to the city or you go to university and you get a new job, whatever it is, right? Inevitably, the people that you've left behind who will, some of them will be your best mates growing up, will automatically kind of resent you and they'll have a negative opinion of what you're doing.
Speaker 1:And most often, well, I don't know how It'd be interesting to see how many people actually don't go and do what they want to do or become the person they want to be because they don't want to like hurt the people back home or they're worried about what people are thinking but I'm back home when they don't even see these people for years but they still think about them as if like, oh, I worry what people are going to say about me, like I can't do this and that. The thing is, if you are always changing right and you're always evolving as a person, if you're not surrounded by people who are also evolving and changing they're going to try and bring you back down because they don't like change, don't want people to be going and succeeding and doing things and stuff when they're not doing it. So their chimp mind, that your brain, you've got the human side which is like the rational logical side we've all got that but that hasn't evolved for fifty thousand years right so you know long time. Then you've got the limbic system, so the chimp brain, the emotional side of the brain.
Speaker 1:This was worried about dangerous, very black and white thinking, it's always like looking out for danger, always getting stressed and anxious about things and it's kind of we need it to survive especially back in the day, in the jungle days or back in the hunter gatherer days, but it doesn't do much for us in today's world. Well it does but it's not always handy. So when it comes to people around us changing, the chimps inside us go crazy and it's not that these people are lashing out because they're like nasty people or whatever, it's just that it's like an automatic knee jerk reaction where they do not want to feel bad, like being left behind, so they wanna bring you back in. And sometimes they'll say vicious things, sometimes they'll say nasty things, sometimes it's those comments that always come at you and you don't like it but it's bringing you down And eventually, they might win and they do win a lot of times. They do.
Speaker 1:So your goal now, well, with your new awareness of what's happening is when you see these people give out comments or whatever about what you're doing just remember it's probably the chimp right of their brain saying it not them and it doesn't mean anything. It's not an actual evaluation of what you're doing for one And it's not something that you should take seriously. And I know it's hard because you're like, oh, a, you know, like a lot of us like, what a bitch. You'd be like, oh, he's a prick for saying that. But you just got to let it go.
Speaker 1:And I thought it was important to say that because when you start in your health and fitness journey, it's often our friends and family that are the ones that bring us down because they're like oh you don't want make sure you lose too much weight, oh you shouldn't be doing that, everybody turns into a fucking fitness expert somehow and they tell you that you know they know everything right and that can derail us and I've seen it in the group, in the Facebook group my genetics turtles like there's a lot of possible this where like they're like oh well I've been told that this is not good for me I've been told I should be eating this amount of macros. Like we had one member who joined and then we give the macros to her and then she replied being like I want a refund because the macros are wrong. I was like, how do you know the macros are wrong out of curiosity? Or like, why do you think that? Was like, well, my friend told me they're wrong.
Speaker 1:And I said, well, with all due respect, we do weekly check ins to tweak your macros if we do get it wrong. But this system we've helped tens of thousands of people and it's pretty accurate unless the goal you put in is wrong. Check the goal is fine. I was like, and then she came back saying like, you know, like the comment or something like, should always the customer's always right kind of mindset. Like you should always you should never you shouldn't say that because I said something like, you know, well, we've got all this we've got all this knowledge and all this experience.
Speaker 1:I was like, look, we'll give you a refund, but our team is run by Paul Rimmer, PhD, you know, top end person and she was like, well, the friend that told me the wrong has got a PhD, is also a doctor in the NHS and has also got a nutrition qualification. I was like, wow, that's a coincidence that your friend's got every qualification that I just said Doctor. P's kind of at, at right apart from Doctor. P's not an actual GP. And it just makes me think like who are these people speaking to?
Speaker 1:Where are getting advice from that they know all of a sudden why buy a plan right? Why buy a plan if you're not gonna follow through the advice that the experts of the plan give you, right? And I'm starting to think like how could this person get this position? So obviously it's an irrational take. So this person's very irrational take being like that my macro is wrong, panicked and was like it's too high and then it's trying to kind of logically trying to put like some logic to it being like you know my friend told me this and maybe the friend was the friend's advice right.
Speaker 1:How do we know like this is the thing I think about sometimes like our friends and family when we start fitness journeys have fitness they're not in our best interest what they say. So this person could have this is what I imagine could have happened I've actually seen this happen and had it happen to me in real life where you say you're doing a plan, your best friend tells you it's wrong, you ask them why and they say well my friend has this qualification and it kind of keeps going like my friend's this, my friend's this, my friend did that. Eventually that advice breaks in and then you panic and then you think what you're doing is wrong and you take that advice because it's the easiest thing to do and then you don't move forward with the correct advice or with the correct you know where you need to go. How many people have actually not achieved or gone to the next level because they've been pulled back down by literally bullshit? Because it literally is bullshit.
Speaker 1:People will say anything to stop people from moving ahead or you know excelling. Who you want to find in your life? You need to find a group of people that celebrate your wins, that celebrate your successes, that celebrate you wanting to go on and improve and do the things in your life. You do not want those people that are always negative by those things. They will bring you down to their level and win.
Speaker 1:That's what happens. That's why most of the population are pulled down. I 100% believe it, like ridicule you for going and reading books and stuff, ridiculing you for trying to do something new and that so many people kind of stagnant because of that. The reason I say this now on a Friday, not to be grim basically, but like we're going into weekends now we're seeing our friends and stuff, some of us go back home we see friends. Just don't take what their advice is on nutrition and stuff or what your plan you're doing seriously because one, they do not know the entire plan, right?
Speaker 1:They do not know the data, they do not know the direction you're going in, right? So for them to tell you something with little information and they will tell you with such like conviction that they're right, you cannot let that come through and deter you from the plan, right. It's important that you stick to the plan, right. Your results will come and what happens is when the results do come down the line, guess who comes knocking asking how you did? Those friends who would have pulled you down.
Speaker 1:Hopefully, all of you have got really good friends that only do, but there's a lot of people out there that that chimps take control. But I thought I would raise it before the weekend and if you're gonna go out drinking have a good time just don't get wrecked because when you get wrecked you're gonna be eating loads of stuff, you're gonna be literally overloading on poison because that's what alcohol is right And you can have a terrible hangover the next day. You might even get a two day hangover if you're starting to go over 30 years old and it's not good guys, it's not worth it. I'm telling you it's not worth it. We've had those days, we don't need to get wrecked.
Speaker 1:You can enjoy having a few drinks, nice food, good chat. There's no need to go more than that. There just isn't. There is literally no benefit to it, none. So I leave you with that and I hope you have a good weekend and I'll see you next week.
Speaker 1:If you need any help, you know what I am, but enjoy the weather and the bank holiday and the good weather's coming our way. Thank God at the May, but enjoy yourself. Don't be too harsh on yourself. Take things one day at a time. It's all you can do.
Speaker 1:Do a bit of do something good for your health every day no matter what. Go for a walk, run, workout, eat fruits and veggies, do something good and healthy for yourself every day even when it comes to weekends and bank holidays, and you'll start building those habits day to day. But there we are. Have a good day. Bye bye.
Speaker 1:And that's it. You for listening to the one day at a time podcast with your host, Golf Leer. Hopefully, you understood something I said. I hope that some wisdom kind of distilled through into your mind, and I want you to now action it today. I don't want you to think about tomorrow.
Speaker 1:I don't want you to think about yesterday. I don't want you to think about leaving a review on this podcast. I don't want you to think about going to another website. What I want you to do is as soon as this podcast ends, you will take action and make the most of today. Ground yourself today.
Speaker 1:Follow the one day at a time philosophy, and your life will change.
