The Only Form of Help
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Speaker 1:Remember, all it takes is one day at a time. Good morning. We're back in action with another voice note. Alright, guys. I wanna know how many of you listen to these every day?
Speaker 1:Like, how many actually listen on a consistent basis? Because, I'd be interested in actually. And hopefully you get something from each voice note. But today let me just move to my, playlist that's called Steve Jobs songs movie playlist. All the songs from the Steve Jobs movie, classic.
Speaker 1:So today I wanna talk about so like in the last I say well, I say, I know, in the last four weeks, I've been going to so I've been going on the website school of life looking into all the books reading all the books and they had like a like a therapy section on there. Was like, is interesting and it's like, on there was like, therapy isn't just for people who are completely broken and just gone away or therapy should be something you do. Like you go to the gym, like a mind gym. I was like, yes, right. And I think I've got some niggles, got some things I want to talk about, and see what's going on.
Speaker 1:So, about four sessions now. And this is my realisation. I've spoken to the therapist, she's lovely about it. There is only self therapy. There is only self help in a sense because I don't like she could say anything to me and if I'm not willing to open up and like understand what she's saying, and like an moments, it's not working is it, it's pointless, like I'm not gonna get anything from it.
Speaker 1:So you have to be open to understanding what they're trying to say and they can help you come to realizations which then you have to go and work on right. And I was speaking to her about this and she said, know, you got a fitness community, I said, and she said, why do think this is a success and stuff like that? I was like, well, the community is a huge factor. Like all the members actually have been willing to open up, listen to the advice from the coaches, and they've actually been able to be vulnerable to each other and gel, going to WhatsApp groups, become genuinely good mates and be there for each other through life in general. And I think like having our support and empathy from the coaches and stuff and spokes on the mindset.
Speaker 1:But I also said like, you know, when I think of like the success of the Octagon and when we started with Book Club and Atomic Harbets and stuff, I was like, well, that's one big success because well, you know what I could have done. I said, look, this is what I could have done. I could have just said through posts and voice notes and videos exactly what I said in books like Atomic Harbets, The Obstacle is the Way, Chimpanadox, I could have rehashed it and I could have delivered it to people and they were like, wow this is awesome, but it wouldn't have worked. It wouldn't have worked as effectively because the reason why we do book club and the reason we have I would suggest everybody read is because you need to have your own moments whilst reading. Okay?
Speaker 1:That's the breakthroughs. They've even seen this in even in why zebras don't get elses it talks about when you have an moment in your brain, create new neural pathways in the brain and it ignites, more like an intense and it like a memory and you can you remember these moments. And it's actually it creates new neural pathways connections when you have these moments. And that's why they're so powerful. And I could have just easily you know, I could well, we could have easily gone, oh, well, don't need to bring in, Lyle MacDonald, for example.
Speaker 1:We just read his book and share what it says. But still not as effective as bringing in the author himself to talk about it on a weekly basis. And I know there's a lot of fitness people out there. I'm not gonna name names. Some of you will know who I'm on about, who have gone in the fitness industry and have basically rehashed what people have said, store a sense stolen because they haven't credited them, you know, at all.
Speaker 1:Passing off as if this is their work they've done, but it doesn't hit. It doesn't hit the same. It just doesn't hit the same. I was explaining this to her and she's like 100% like this she's saying this is 100% true. There is therapy only works when there's those self realizations and it's the same with health and fitness, health and fitness only works if you're willing to help yourself and like take on what teaching you and come to these moment yourself and then act on them.
Speaker 1:So that's how things work. And it boils down to that because I just don't think taking on information and not thing is is is working. It would work for people. And this is why if you are trying to if you are trying to help other people, and I know it's hard to get somebody to read a book because if they're not readers it's tough. But when we do read books like Atomic Harbets and we have our own realizations ourselves and then we come into a group setting and then we share our realizations together, that's super powerful.
Speaker 1:Very, very powerful. And if you think about it, we didn't public school, free schooling didn't exist until the late eighteen hundreds for the working class. The elites have had it for thousands of years, right? But the majority of people didn't have the ability to read and write until the late eighteen hundreds when school was free. So only about a hundred and what, a hundred and forty years ago, say.
Speaker 1:Right? Books were considered before then super, super powerful because it was ideas. Right? And people would be sharing ideas. People get jailed.
Speaker 1:They were jailing the book the bookstores that were selling books to the working class. Not because of some of them could read. Not because of the selling the books because of the sharing ideas. They were debating in parliament. They were debating in parliament whether they should let the working class learn to read and write because they would get ideas.
Speaker 1:Right? And the the most powerful people in the world, they were they've been able to share these ideas that have been noted down in books. And that's how knowledge has been spread over times and eons. We are we we've we wouldn't have the Greek classical works if they didn't survive. And people have been able to talk with the ideas of stoicism, Epicureus, you know, Aristotle, all these people.
Speaker 1:Now, where am going with this? It's the sharing of ideas that is the magic. Today's world, if before the Internet, you could have been reading the book on your own and you would have nobody to speak to about it, You'd have no one to have these moments back and forth you get them. With our book club, there's 20 to 30 people reading the same book and we're coming we're talking to each other about it and we're having even more deeper connections with the book. And that is literally not to use the word because it's been obvious but unprecedented in human history because it's never been available to people in a sense because it's just not been the Internet has helped it.
Speaker 1:But even before then, people have had barely been reading and writing and and sharing ideas for only for like a hundred years of working class. So I'm trying to say is the most powerful tool that humans have ever had, I think in in learning and sharing knowledge is the creation of books, reading and sharing ideas of the books and taking them on and have an moment to move from there. And that's why I'll refuse to ever not share the books that have influenced us as coaches in in in Turtle and what we what we where we learn from all the time. I'll always share in what I learn because all of us will have our own unique moments from books. Just because you read the same book as someone doesn't mean you know exactly what that book means to someone else.
Speaker 1:There's so many different moments people get from reading books or whatever that you can't just, like, say, I'm gonna say what the book says because that doesn't work like that. Okay? It doesn't work like that. So to round this up, when it comes to the mind and we the the therapy, there is only self therapy. You can only help yourself even if you have the best psychologist in the world.
Speaker 1:They can they weave you through the journey, and they weave you into ahas. And once you get the ahas, happy days. Health and fitness, we can give you all the information you want, but we still again need to weave you through to get the ahas. Oh, macros really, can I eat what I want? I'm eating what I want and I'm losing weight.
Speaker 1:Wow, Oh, holy shit. This actually works. Oh, training doesn't have to be boring. Oh, I'm seeing changes. Oh community.
Speaker 1:Then we got the books part, oh I don't read books. Oh wow that is like I got pumped reading that. Like I literally sometimes I read something in a book and I literally get pumped. I'm like excited like something happens, I just feel exhilarated. I don't know if anyone else gets this but I'm reading like, oh my god, that's so good.
Speaker 1:Like that is brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. That is just phenomenal. And I just love coming to those things and then you start connecting dots over time and people have said in book clubs like we're reading reading Jay Shetty like well a lot of this cross over the chin paradox. It crosses over with man's search for meaning.
Speaker 1:You start connecting the big world of ideas out there and then you get even more ahas. How many times am I gonna see in his voice note? Can someone add it up? So the lesson really is, that self help is the only help in a sense. And once we understand that once we understand that, I think we can move forward and make big progress.
Speaker 1:Okay? No matter what people tell you, is you're not gonna do the work, and you're not gonna get anywhere unless you do it yourself. And collect those ahas. Go and collect them and put them to work and get as many as you can because the more ahas you get, the better you're gonna be basically. The more intelligent you're gonna be, the more aware you're gonna be of your own of your own mind.
Speaker 1:And I think that is a beautiful, beautiful thing. And that is my long answer to here. I basically, you know, probably took all the time up and therapy telling her how how we do turtle. But, yeah, I hope it resonates. I don't know.
Speaker 1:I think it it resonated to me because I was like, I could literally just waste my time here listening to to you tell me stuff. And if I'm not gonna actively try and understand what you're trying to help to to take me down and realize because what she does is she never told me the answers. She'd ask more questions like Socrates did. She'd ask another follow-up question. And I'd be like, yeah, actually.
Speaker 1:Right. Yeah. I get what you yeah. Yeah. I see it now.
Speaker 1:I see it. I'm trying to think of an example. I think maybe it was maybe maybe something my mother as well was talking about like, we're talking about each other's mothers and she's like, yeah, my mother, you know, I phone her up and stuff, she, you know, she doesn't tell me she loves me and stuff and I was like, yeah, yeah, my mother tell me I love loves, she doesn't say she loves me, like I don't have the the words being said by the family. But then we were like, we went along, we went on this journey, we're like, do we need these people to say the words because we know they do, right? I was like, mom was like, you know, people, some people just don't hug, just saying the words isn't them, right?
Speaker 1:If any very difficult but they show it in different My heart moment is not to look at people like that as if they don't love you or they they don't mean nice it's just they they do it in different ways especially the older generation they got different ways of expressing stuff and that for me was that is like you can't expect everybody to be the same. Some people easily say that words love you and they're openly like affectionate and all that stuff and it's easy for them to be brought up with it. Some people are the opposite but they try and show in different ways. And the in the sense was like you can easily run with anger, someone hasn't told me to love me, and you can use it as a kind of a victim thing, or you can see it for what it is and it's actually just they do, they just don't verbalize it because a lot of communication isn't through words, is it? I think most of the status in something like 70% of communication is through body language or something like that.
Speaker 1:But that was one moment, like, just to it's so simple but it doesn't have to be complicated. It's like simple little things. So yeah, love you guys. Did I have to say that? Did you know I loved you before saying that?
Speaker 1:Maybe. Who knows?
Speaker 2:But I'll leave you on a I'll leave you on that
Speaker 1:little, teaser. Just wanna finish this voicing up by saying the new dance challenge starts August. '7 live classes a week. There's a few sessions through the five weeks on stress with Hugh Gilmore and how to live through this post, well, I say post maybe not pandemic life. There's a training and nutrition q and a combined Ryan and Doctor.
Speaker 1:P. There is a mindset q and a well, mindset session every week as well with Dean Leek, and they're gonna be themed based on, you know, current events and all that. And there's a mental health slash weekly planning session with Ryan Williams on the Sunday as well. So we're going to be popping moves, we're going to be learning how to there's so many themes we're to learn how to dance guys end of okay we're going learn to dance and if you're not into dance okay this isn't the dance classes you remember from your local leisure center right it's not that like these are you know these are trainers who have done there've been one rebel trainers who have been in big dance studios who have done dance class of hundreds of people that people like very experienced to know that whilst learning to dance, whilst dancing is moving and you get good workout, we still it's still a skill to develop and that's why we want people to leave with this challenge it's like you might not like dancing, you might not, right, you might not like it but that's because there's a confidence thing.
Speaker 1:If you were able to bop some moves I guarantee you'll feel much better in the dancing scenario and the confidence. Most people in The UK don't dance because the confidence thing, they would think they look silly. Right? That's why people don't do it. And I think being able to help people get over that, that'd be amazing.
Speaker 1:And then we just see people doing that we do a flash mob end at the end of it in London see what happens. But I do encourage people open mind empty the cup right. Lots of different dance moves it's going to be a mix of flexibility balance dance right there's been research into Tansen looked at it, was meta analysis right looked at 18 studies on Tansen and in 80% of the studies balance significantly improved. In 89% of the studies cognitive function significantly improved. In all of this to cut it short balance cognitive function muscular endurance and strength flexibility and what else was there, and something else.
Speaker 1:All of them improved by significant amount when they looked at studies on dancing people and the only thing they didn't improve was body composition so body fat percent. That is not surprising because your body fat percentage is only going to drop. If your nutrition is on point, you can't out train a bad diet. However, all those amazing benefits dance are going to give us like in terms of the workouts, plus a solid nutrition plan through the macros app, you're off to the races guys. That's an amazing five weeks and it's summer as well.
Speaker 1:So happy days. Now this voice note's gone on for over fifteen minutes. I try and keep them below that. But just to let you know, we've planned this out because we think it's gonna be very beneficial for all of you. Dancing can help you move better flexibility and it will aid you in your strength training in the future and training and will aid you in many other forms especially cognitive function if we can improve our cognition and our ability to focus and whatever that's a huge plus especially when we're on computers these days.
Speaker 1:So I'll leave you in that. Enjoy your day. Remember, one day at Maybe a new intro and outro tomorrow to some summary tunes. And that's it. Thank you for listening to the one day at a time podcast with your host, Golf Leer.
Speaker 1:Hopefully, you understood something I said. I hope that some wisdom kind of distilled through into your mind, and I want you to now action it today. I don't want you to think about tomorrow. I don't want you to think about yesterday. I don't want you to think about leaving a review on this podcast.
Speaker 1:I don't want you to think about going to another website. What I want you to do is as soon as this podcast ends, you will take action and make the most of today. Ground yourself today. Follow the one day at a time philosophy, and your life will change.
