This Thing Has Ended More Lives Than Anything Else
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast with your host and the future leader of The Republic Of Wales, Sveldfjer. Now this might be the only podcast in the world where you actually have to reduce the speed instead of increasing it. However, what I wanna get over to you is that the past is gone. The future doesn't exist. So if you wanna make the most of your life, you've gotta make the most of these moments every single day.
Speaker 1:And this podcast is gonna help you live a healthier, more fulfilled life, hopefully, giving you some wisdom to take away every single day. So I'm gonna shut up now so you can get on with listening to the next episode. Hello hello hello good morning everybody hope you're off your ass and on your morning walk if not get up because apparently it's 29 degrees today in London anyway So we've got a summer for a few days, so you better make most of it. So I spoke yesterday, you know, but getting back on it. Okay?
Speaker 1:And this is a common theme. We're always getting on, getting off, getting on, getting off. But as long as we keep getting on, we should be fine. Right? But I spoke about something and I've spoke about it before a while ago called Resistance by an author called Steven Pressfield.
Speaker 1:He tried to write a novel for about twenty years and he he was always looking at other reasons why he wasn't being able to write there. But it was all him all along inside him, and he called it this resistance, his inner resistance that stopped him. And I think a lot of us need to look into the inner resistance as well. But before I get into that, what I want to mention is I had a chat with one of the members, and I've come to this realization as well. When you get to your goal, right, so you reach your goal you've always wanted.
Speaker 1:The reality is when it's reached, it is very anticlimactic. You think it's gonna be this wonderful huge change but it's not okay. And it's not about the end goal that launch that 20 pounds lost, that new job, it's the person you need to become to go and get near that goal. Right? That's the that is the gold.
Speaker 1:Right? So just to tell you all, I know it's a bit of a shit message, but when you do reach your goal, it is be short lived, you get over it, and you have to have something more. If you rely on that goal being this massive celebration, it's going to propel you to other things. You're going to be very you're going be very sad when it happens because you realize, nothing's changed. You just need to become the person that loves the process the day to day.
Speaker 1:If you're the person you wanna become, goals will come, you'll pass them, you'll surpass them. You won't even be set in concrete goals. You'll be set in directions in the person you wanna be, and it'll work out. And that comes to my bit about resistance. Okay.
Speaker 1:So it's always up to us. We're the only people that can change anything for us. We did an amazing communication session with Hugh last night, talking about, you know, motivational interview and essentially close and open questions. If you really want someone if you really wanna help someone change, or you wanna help yourself change is to write down the kind of open ended questions. And then kind of recap it and then go through go through those questions and really just kind of listen to so if you were in a conversation, somebody would ask an open question, and then they would kind of reflect on it back to that person, not ask another question, just simply reflect, which then makes the other person reflect again and write more.
Speaker 1:And if you think about this in journaling sense, you could have a set of open ended questions you could write out. You could then reflect on that. And then from your reflection, there'll be another flow of thoughts. And that's something that all of us should do. But if you if you wanna rewatch it, definitely do it.
Speaker 1:It's it was really good, and I suggest everybody does it. Do do try and improve your communication because it's a huge thing. You know? We talk every day. So if your communication sucks, you're gonna have a terrible life.
Speaker 1:If your communication's awesome, you're probably gonna have a much better life. If there was a graph to show quality of life with quality of communication, I'm sure they would be very close. And I think communication is one of the qualities I seek in people as well. So, yeah, everybody should work in it. Everyone, even if you think you're good.
Speaker 1:But anyway, let's get to this message. The book, The War of Art. So it does talk about his battle to get a novel signed. Okay? Novel written.
Speaker 1:That was his main thing. That was his goal. Don't worry. Don't I'm not saying you have to write a novel. What I'm saying is that novel for him, you know, for you, could be the weight loss, could be the new job, it could be the healthy version of yourself, whatever it may be.
Speaker 1:So I'm gonna read a few quotes that I highlighted from the book that I that I that I really liked. Some of them will hit, some of them won't. But do listen to them, and, I hope they make you start thinking about your own journey and stuff like that. So let's go. We're not alone if we've been mowed down by resistance.
Speaker 1:Millions of good men and women have bitten the dust before us. I looked everywhere for the enemy and failed to see it right in front of my face. Look in your own heart. Unless I'm crazy, right now, it's still a small voice is piping up telling you, as it has 10,000 times before the calling that is yours and yours alone. You know it.
Speaker 1:No one has to tell you. And unless I'm crazy, you're no closer to taking action on it than you were yesterday or will be tomorrow. In other words, any act that rejects immediate gratification in favor of long term growth, health or integrity is kind of what we want to be doing right. So resistance cannot be seen, touched, heard or smelled, but it can be felt. We experience it as an energy field radiating from a work in potential.
Speaker 1:It's a repelling force, it's negative, its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work. Resistance arises from within. It is self generated and self perpetuated. Resistance is the enemy within. Right?
Speaker 1:And resistance will tell you anything to keep you from doing your work. It will, fight you, it'll fabricate, it'll falsify, seduce, bully, and cajole. Resistance is always lying and always full of shit. Resistance is a force of nature. It acts objectively.
Speaker 1:Okay? But we can use resistance, we can use it as a compass, we can navigate by resistance letting it guide us and that call into action then we must follow before all others. Rule of thumb, the more important the call or action is to our soul's evolution, the more resistance we will feel towards pursuing it. Okay? Fear doesn't go away.
Speaker 1:Resistance goal is not to wound or disable. Resistance's aim is to kill, kill your future, whether it's your future goals, work, the person you want to be, will kill it. Resistance has no strength of its own every ounce of juice it possesses comes from us. We feed it with power by our fear of it, master that fear and we conquer resistance. The danger is greatest when the finish line is in sight.
Speaker 1:Like I said yesterday, your goal, this new job, this relationship, whatever it is, the the danger is when it's right inside. At this point, resistance knows we're about to beat it. It hits the panic button. It marshals one last assault and slams us with everything it's got. We must be alert for this counter attack, be weary at the end, don't open that bag of wind.
Speaker 1:The reason is that they are struggling consciously or unconsciously against their own resistance, the awakening of someone's success becomes a rapport to them. If she can beat these demons why can't they? Okay. The awakening person must be ruthless not only with herself but with others. Procrastination is the most common manifestation of resistance because it's the easiest to rationalize.
Speaker 1:We don't tell ourselves I'm never gonna write that song instead we say I'm gonna write that song but I'm gonna start tomorrow. Okay? That's important. How many of you are like do you know what I'll start my macros tomorrow and you keep doing this every day because you're saying it's tomorrow so easy to be you know I'll do it tomorrow fine happy days. It's kind of reverse it's kind of the reverse worry time thing.
Speaker 1:So if you wanna worry if you're worrying about someone if you're worrying about something right now, an easy way to get it off your mind is say to write, I'm gonna worry about this tomorrow at 1PM. And by doing that, you're like, right, you offload it. You're gonna do tomorrow, and you're get on with your day. It's the reverse of that. It's using it in the in the bad way where you say, I'll track my macros.
Speaker 1:I'll start this plan tomorrow. Like, I'll do it tomorrow morning, and then you're gonna get rid of it out of your mind. Right? He goes on to say people aren't sick they're self dramatizing. Casting yourself as a victim is the antithesis of doing your work.
Speaker 1:Don't do it, you're doing it, stop. Remember our rule of thumb, the more scared we are of working of a work you're calling, the more sure we can be that's what we have to do, the obstacle is the way. Remember that, here's a trick whenever alone as soon as we step outside the campfire glow, our muse lights on our shoulder like a butterfly. The act of courage calls forth infallibly at the deeper part of ourselves to support support and sustain us. Most of us have two lives, the life we live and the unlived life within us.
Speaker 1:Between the two stands resistance. We're not alone if we've been mowed mowed down by resistance. Millions of good men and women have bitten the dust before us. Here's the biggest bitch. We don't even know what hit us.
Speaker 1:I never did. From age 24 to 32, resistance kicked my ass from East Coast to West and back again 13 times, and I never even knew it existed. Okay. So let's think of this now and now let's that's it for the book now. Let's think of it from our perspective now.
Speaker 1:How many of you have been saying you're gonna do it tomorrow or this and now you're procrastinating, but you've always you've always said, I wanna improve my health. I maybe wanna lose a few dress sizes so I can wear the clothes I really wanna wanna wear. That was one of the members yesterday. I wanna wear clothes that I you know, I love fashion, but I just wanna stop wearing black and wear the colored clothing. Right?
Speaker 1:There's loads of these things. Think about it. I've always wanted to do this job, but I'm not good enough. I'll I'll send my CV in tomorrow. I'll I'll write my CV again tomorrow to send it away.
Speaker 1:I'll send my message tomorrow. Everything's always tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow. And we know tomorrow never comes because it doesn't. And this is entire book on us from an artist's perspective, but we can learn from it. And I want you all today to realize that today.
Speaker 1:So today's the day we actually take action. We're not gonna say whatever you usually pass off to tomorrow, you're gonna do it today. You know, there's a lot of things we can do in one day. We can do a lot of planning. We can put a lot of ball balls in motion.
Speaker 1:So Napoleon was a master of this. Right? He would, in one day, write, you know, 70 odd letters and send them out to different generals, commanders. He put a plan together, send out all the calls of actions in one day, boom, boom, boom, get it all done and put so many balls in motion in one day that it would just be like an avalanche later down the line. I think we can all start doing stuff stuff like that.
Speaker 1:We can look at what type of person we want to be, what's our health and fitness goals today, what's our goals in work and our professional life, what's our goals of our family, friends, relationships, write them down. And what's three things you can do today to gather those in motion? Maybe with health and fitness actually just to download the macros app and get moving on and get macros tracked or maybe just redo your weight measurements and take your starting measurements again and plan a workout. In terms of your job and stuff like that, you're happy with your job great and you've got a project coming up, what can you put in motion now today that's gonna help you down the line with that? Can you make a few calls?
Speaker 1:Can you send a few emails you've always needed to send? Can you send a few cold emails even? You know, maybe you're looking for a new job. Can you look go and do your CV and Prowl and Indeed or whatever? Just get it done or ask someone else to have a look at it, see if they can improve it for you and send it about to five or 10 people you trust.
Speaker 1:You can do that and it's gonna pay dividends. And then in terms of relationships, friends, this is someone you haven't spoke to in a while that you miss, you can reach out to four or five people with a nice sincere message, you know, hey, how are doing? Really miss you. La la la. Let's do something this date.
Speaker 1:If you can let me know, if not, fine. You know, and then in terms of your relationships, have you had open questions back and forth for a while? Have you all have you given each other time to talk? Have you let each other, you know, not it's not like a monologue back and forth, but it's actually a discussion. Are you doing that kind of, like, reflection on what they've said so you understood what they said and say it back to them so they can say, okay.
Speaker 1:They've understood what I said. And actually give yourself that fifteen minutes of actual conversation today. So you can do all of these or you can plan to meet a lot of your friends in one day. You can send messages out in bulk. We do a lot of bulk stuff in other parts of our life.
Speaker 1:We can do it can do it for our own, you know, personal, you know, personal reasons as well. So that would be my task for you all to do it today. Gonna do it myself, and I'll check-in tomorrow how it goes. But resistance is a bitch, guys. We know it.
Speaker 1:It attacks at the last moment, the big last onslaught as well. So for some of you are listening to this and you're feeling top of the world, things are going well, trust me, resistance is gonna come and trip you up if you don't watch out. So you need to be the you need to be there. You need to watch out for it. But enjoy your day, Remember, do not pass anything off to tomorrow.
Speaker 1:You can do today. Just do it today. It's a lovely day as well. Imagine getting all the stuff done in the morning. Get your walk, work, whatever.
Speaker 1:Enjoy the sun. Just bask in the sun, listen to another podcast, audiobook, just music, phone a friend, whatever. What a day. It's all we need, man. It's all we need in the day, sitting in the sun.
Speaker 1:Honestly, I rated one of the top experiences in the world, sitting in the sun, nothing beats it. So enjoy today guys, thanks for listening and speak to you tomorrow obviously. And that is it for today's episode so hopefully you took something away from it if you didn't here's we need to take away stop wasting time on social media, Stop wasting time gossiping. You've only got a day to live. Today's the only day you ever have.
Speaker 1:So if there's anything to take away from this podcast, even if you can't understand the word I say, even if you didn't resonate with the wisdom I try to deliver, this is a reminder of you daily to live one day at a time. Give your moments meaning today and don't be fooled by thinking you've got unlimited amount of days. But if you can make the most of today, I'm telling you, you love a fulfilled life so enjoy your day and hopefully I'll see you back tomorrow. Do daily to live one day at a time. Give your moments meaning today and don't be fooled by thinking you've got unlimited amount of days But if you can make the most of today, I'm telling you, you'll have a fulfilled life.
Speaker 1:So enjoy your day and hopefully, I'll see you back tomorrow.
