What is your fault?
Hello, everyone. Good morning to you. Thanks to Amy and Emma for the podcast this week, so I'm sure you enjoyed them and get a glimpse into some different members' journeys. We'll be doing more than this podcast, so it's all about your journeys and bringing them to life so other people can take inspiration from them, That's the main thing. I wanna bring up the topic of generational health and how if your why to get healthier isn't strong enough just for your sake, it needs to be for the sake of your family, your friends, your kids.
Speaker 1:And some of you don't have kids, but you need to get into the mind process of, well people are gonna the ones that look up to me or the people in my circle of influence are gonna mimic some of the stuff I do. Right, so if you've got kids you must put health as a priority because if a if a child grows up by the age of eight and yet the mother or the father Tom would diet in, that kid by the age of eight is gonna wanna lose weight. Research on this, they're thinking about losing weight by the age of eight. And that's because you're losing your head in the kitchen going, I need to lose weight. I'm on this diet, diet this, diet that.
Speaker 1:I'm slimming world slimming. Know, you're saying these words out loud and you're listening in. Going, lose weight. Mommy not happy with how she looks. I must mean that's so important.
Speaker 1:That must like you're shouting in the kitchen or whatever. You're stressed out at home. They pick up on this energy, and they think that's the most important thing in life. Must be. Look how look how sad mom is.
Speaker 1:She was sad about this. And it will trickle down. Same with finances and stuff like that. If you're always stressed out about money and money's the devil and this and that, then the child will grow up and thinking that this money thing is bad and everything's against him, there's no point trying to go into it, there's no point learning about it, it's the devil. And there's even phrases in Welsh where you're not allowed to talk about money on the dinner table type of thing, it's like forbidden talking about money.
Speaker 1:So there's a lot of stuff we're doing and we need to think about this how it filters down. So if your why is not strong enough on its own for yourself to get healthier, do it for the sake of your family and friends and kids if you have them. That's the first thing to bring up. Second thing is to bring up what is it your fault you're overweight? Listening and you are overweight, is it your fault you're overweight?
Speaker 1:So sit on that question for a second. Is it your fault you're not where you want to be with your body? Right? I'm not making this to for shame purposes asking the question. Now you answer then you go, I think it's not my fault.
Speaker 1:No. Well, it could my fault. Here's what is not your fault. Diet culture is not your fault. You know, that's the last study about the girl at eight years old thinking about losing weight.
Speaker 1:She didn't want to think those things. Basically mechanical processes kind of words and stuff and we filter through conditioned her mind absorbed her all in. Now she's thinking about it. That was part of a thought process. So diet culture and all the crazy diets from the seventies eighties nineties, low fat, low carb, this is good, this is bad, all of that stuff filtered into your brain from a young age is not your fault.
Speaker 1:You could not have done anything about it. So you can't change that. That is not your fault. What else isn't your fault is your hormones. As a woman, as you know now if you've been listening to Turtle Method talks with certain experts, your menstrual cycle, oestrogen goes up, comes back down, progesterone goes up, you have different cravings, different times of the cycle, your PMS symptoms, want to eat, know, all these things impact your eating or your appetite.
Speaker 1:That's not your fault, know, it's just how it is. You store fat in hips and thighs as women. You know, it's not your fault. It's just how it is. You know, those things aren't your fault.
Speaker 1:The hormones and the fat partitioning are not your fault. And neither is diet culture. Right? So those are the three things really, the main things are not your fault. Now what is your fault is doing another yo yo diet.
Speaker 1:What is your fault is your voluntary action you take next because that is up to you. What you say, well, Scott, this is how I've always been. I I feel guilty after eating food. I emotionally eat. Like, well, you're now aware of why you would emotionally eat.
Speaker 1:You're now aware of why you wanna go on diet all the time because it's the conditioning of the past. So you now know, you can look back at all this conditioning that's on your brain and you can go, right, I see the conditioning. My next step is my choice. It has to be. And if your next choice is to go back into the conditioning, that is your fault.
Speaker 1:But you can go the other way. So this the radical responsibility has to happen here. We can be as empathetic as we want. Right? There's a lot of empathy out there for people who've gone and been born into this diet culture condition and born into these mindsets and poisoned brains.
Speaker 1:There's a lot of empathy we get it, right? Like, it sucks. It really does suck. But now it's time for responsibility. And responsibility, the good news is it comes down to the only thing is in your control, which is your voluntary actions.
Speaker 1:And the only thing you can only take one action at a time. You can have multiple thoughts. You can think about doing x y zed right now. You can think about this and that and that. But the magic is you can only do one thing at a time.
Speaker 1:So if you focus on one thing at a time, right, and those voluntary actions are responses not reactions, you're not always reacting, reacting, reacting to the diet culture conditioning of the brain when you're responding because you see the conditioning. I see that, I get why I'm thinking that thought. I understand it, but it's not real, it's not true, it's bullshit, it's mechanical, it's automatic, bam, pops in my head. But I I get it. That's I am looking at because I said, oh, I've grown up.
Speaker 1:I see it. Now I see it. Can I go the other way? Does seeing it dissolve it? Or, you know, does seeing it help me move away from it?
Speaker 1:Or am I always gonna react to it and then keep blaming it? You can't keep blaming diet culture once you become aware of it because it's now a choice for you to go back into it. You know? Once you you know, the the phrase is once you see, you can't unsee. Once it clicks, it just clicks.
Speaker 1:Can't go back when you see it. Those phrases those phrases are real. It happens. Once you see, you can't unsee. So once you see the diet culture condition, and can you unsee it?
Speaker 1:You can unsee it. You see it. Done. It's over. Now it's your responsibility.
Speaker 1:The next action is the one that's gonna benefit you. You know, and there's only one action you can take at a time. That's why we simplify things with the one big thing, the OBT per day, get one big thing done, because that's more than anyone most people do, because they think they can do 10 things a day and they do zero. Or they are reactive all day. They wake up and they react into an email they're reading at 6AM.
Speaker 1:They're reacting to gossip in the WhatsApp group. They're reacting to everything. They're reacting to this, that. You're not carving out any time in your mornings for anything. I was having food last night and I was speaking to these kind of a business mastermind group and one guy was there and he's you know shared his story over the last three, four, five years.
Speaker 1:You know ten years ago actually he mentioned he was a landscaper and one of the customers gave him a book, The E Myth and he goes I don't know if I'll read it and he asked him, Okay when I come back next Friday when I give you money we'll talk about the book. So he did read it and it changed things. He said, oh, where did you get this? He goes, oh, my mentor gave me this book to read. So, alright, can I have a chat with that mentor?
Speaker 1:So he chatted with that mentor and the mentor was putting him on these books, reading the books, similar mindset stuff we're talking about. I was like, you know, the mornings are key, gotta do this and that. And, you know, within the last four years, he's taken a business from a one man kind of job landscape and small business to now a multi avenue business turning over $67,000,000 a year, you know. And you know the main thing he said, the main thing that helped him is this routine he's got. He is putting stuff into his brain that benefits him.
Speaker 1:His voluntary action is I'm gonna put the wisdom from the people that have achieved what I wanna achieve into my years in the morning. I'm gonna carve out an hour in the morning when I wake up to go for and get 10,000 steps in. He gets 10,000 steps in every morning before he goes and starts his day. Right? He to he hits the gym three times a week.
Speaker 1:And he has them he doesn't have any meetings before ten or 11AM. And he doesn't get any anyone in touch with him. So he's built this and he's like, that is the key. Not like all the tactics and stuff, even though they are they are important. But it's being able to understand where the power lies.
Speaker 1:The power lies is when you wake up, you give the first part of your day to you, whether that's a workout, whether it's a walk, whether it's meditating, or it's reading, or it's listening to a podcast or something that's new. You put something to the brain and you are essentially trying to condition in another way, right? But you're putting good stuff in and that's the actions you take. So when it comes to your body, right, you need to know that every day is a new day to start and give yourself you know, good nutritious foods or understanding you can have the Mars bar chocolate bar wherever it's not the end of the world. You're playing Tetris every day with your macros and that's all you got to do.
Speaker 1:But you got to give yourself some time to do this. That's the thing. You haven't got time. You have got time. You're wasting most of it.
Speaker 1:That's the problem. Yeah. I'm so busy. But, yeah, everyone's busy. A lot of people are busy.
Speaker 1:We can't keep saying I'm too busy. I'm too busy. Because everyone's busy. A lot of people are busy. I can't I can't empathize with all of your situations in terms of time because I'm not you.
Speaker 1:I can understand from my point of view. I know for a fact even to this day, there's time I waste in my days. Right? I go on my phone and I get sucked in too often to things I don't want to watch. I want Twitter, don't want do it, but I do it.
Speaker 1:And I'm, you know, when you work on it. I don't go to bed early enough for my liking. Sometimes I go to bed and most time without my phone. Sometimes I don't. There's always things for me, and I I'm the only person that knows is me.
Speaker 1:You can tell me all you want. Like, yeah, you can carve out time. I get it. But I need to look at myself. Same as you.
Speaker 1:You need to look at yourself. Can you wake up half an hour earlier? You know? Can you give yourself another half an hour at the end of the day? Can you take a full lunch break and actually give that time for yourself to go and track your food, make sure you would read and listen to something, go for a walk?
Speaker 1:You know, we gotta take responsibility now. We see what we see what the world's done to people's brains about dieting. We understand it. We need to take responsibility. So your responsibility lies in your next voluntary action.
Speaker 1:So whether it's gonna be a good one or a bad one, it's up to you. And that's all you can do next. There's literally two options. Good option, an option is not gonna serve you. You can go out and listen to that.
Speaker 1:You can you can shut this podcast off after I finish in thirty seconds and go on your phone and scroll Instagram, Or you can get off of your chair and start going for a walk and ready for it, or you can go and do that workout you've been waiting to do. Or you can go and track the breakfast you've just had or you're going to have. You can make it an action as positive and that will feed back into more positive action. And that's how you build momentum every single day, but it starts with the start of the day. And then the day will go on your way.
Speaker 1:Starting to build momentum later on in the is difficult. That's why a lot of people quit. But start with positive action that reinforces the person you really, really wanna be. And that is up to you. That is your fault if you don't do it.
Speaker 1:So that's my spiel for today, guys. Have a good day. Get you one big thing done. I'll speak to you all soon.
