What You're Capable Of (The Reality)
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast where we forget about yesterday. We don't worry about tomorrow. It's what are we going to do today? This all matters because you've only ever had or will ever have the fantastic twenty four hours a day you're about to embark on. Hopefully this episode is going to give you some daily dose of wisdom that you can take action on today to improve your life.
Speaker 1:Remember, all it takes is one day at a time. Good morning. Good morning. First of all, we'll beat Turkey Two nil, which means we're pretty much through to the next round of the Euros. So let's get to it.
Speaker 1:Lovely. Michael McIntyre. I was in Cardiff I think, singing Bread of Heaven. Wales Three Million population by the way, Turkey Eighty Five Million. Just to put it out there, if people think Wales is too small, we're not.
Speaker 1:Okay? Never too small. Never ever too small to punch above your weight. It's not about size, it's about passion. And yeah, job Wales, thought I'd give you a shout out.
Speaker 1:So hopefully we see England in the final that will get brutal, absolutely brutal. Imagine that England versus Wales in the final. I don't think I could watch it, it would stress me out too much. It would be, too painful. So voice note today, guys.
Speaker 1:It's Thursday. It's raining now, so the the weather's gone. You might be thinking, shit, the weather's gone, not on track, what am I gonna be doing? Don't feel like I'm getting anywhere, whatever it is. What I'd say to that is first of all, if you did listen to the voice note yesterday, it wasn't me, it's sensitive Gorgonz one.
Speaker 1:There is a level of human existence, right? That's like beyond what you're even thinking is capable, like what you think you're capable of, you probably got two times the amount in you, right? You've got that inside you to go. It's just that it's hard to get there, but it's not something sustainable. So like what I find is like, there's bursts of time in our lives where we can go hard on something like we will wanna do something, we wanna go for that promotion, we want really focusing on fitness or running or strength, whatever it is.
Speaker 1:And we can do things in bursts and we can gain a lot from them. And we can go back into like a mild of his. I think that's how a lot of people work and it's fine to work like that. But I think no one went to go and went not to go is important. So like if some of you were thinking like, yeah, but those people are just like born with it.
Speaker 1:Like this guy David Gorgens, he was like three hundred pounds. Right? He was obese. He had a job he hated and he turned around to be one of the baddest men in the world basically. Like he's done ultras.
Speaker 1:He's like lean. He's done Navy Seals training. He's turned his mind. And he's like mind, he says it, your mind's like a car less in your hands. Like it hardens with work, it hardens with time and work.
Speaker 1:It doesn't just, you know, people are born kind of like in a way malleable and weak and whatever. You must go through training of the mind of the body to call as your mind, he says. And I % believe in it. Like, it's not it's not like this nonsense chart like, ah, yeah, but they can. All of you can harden your resolve.
Speaker 1:All of you can be stronger minded. All of you can have more or better willpower. It's it's all possible for you. So it's not as if it's not possible. It's as if if you just want it enough.
Speaker 1:And the thing is, like I spoke about in the voice on Tuesday, the vanity metrics usually take us away from these goals because we think, do know what? If I just do a bit of lip service, people think I'm doing the gym, people think this of me, that's all that really matters to me is that people think I'm training, that people think I'm doing a good job, and that that's all that matters. And then that comes down to your values. If your values are just appearances, well, you know, first of all, change your values for one. And if you're not willing to change them, there's not much you can do because if you're not willing to change your values, you're not willing to change you're not willing to accept that, you know, if your values are like integrity, for example, then you won't be, like, just doing things for your image.
Speaker 1:Right? And that's what a lot people do. They try and take these shortcuts. And the the problem with this type of chat and this type of mindset, like talk, is that it's uncomfortable and it's the the stuff we don't wanna hear because it's the stuff that means we gotta do some work. That is the problem with it.
Speaker 1:We don't wanna hear that, actually, you can call us your mind. Actually, you can become who you wanna be. Actually, you can do a 10 k, a marathon. You can do all of this. Like, we don't wanna hear that because we want someone to tell us, do you know what?
Speaker 1:Some people can do it and some people don't. And, you know, you're one of those people that just can't do it, so don't worry about it. And then we go, yeah. You know what? You're right.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Yeah. That is the truth of it. So the uncomfortable truth to accept right now is all of you are capable of running a marathon. All of you are capable of doing a 10 k or whatever.
Speaker 1:All of you are capable of losing fat. All of you are capable of gaining muscle. All of you are capable for improving your performance in work, whatever it is. All of you are capable of living being in a healthy relationship that you deserve. All of you are capable of those things.
Speaker 1:So you can't deny it. You can't. You know? Like, obviously, there's some extremes. Say I say, all of you are capable of doing math, and you go, well, I'm in a wheelchair.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, of course. Like, in terms of disability stuff. If you can walk and you can you're able to move your feet and your arms and your body, you can do a marathon if you put your mind to it. Why does that make you feel uncomfortable? Why?
Speaker 1:Even Seneca says this in in the stoics two thousand years ago. He says, when it's not like we got a short life. Right? It's not a short it's not that life is short. It's that we waste so much of our time.
Speaker 1:So true. Life is the longest thing you'll ever you'll ever ever ever experience. Think about it. It is. There's nothing longer than your entire life.
Speaker 1:Right? There's nothing. Even though we take things one day at a time, there's nothing gonna be longer than your entire life. But how much time do we waste today? How much time is you catching yourself on TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, Apple News, Facebook?
Speaker 1:Like, how many times are you scrolling there waiting for something to pop out to give you some inspiration or whatever? It's not it doesn't work like that. It doesn't. You have to get out there. You've got to do the action to get the motivation.
Speaker 1:Do the action to get the motivation. Doing the action is like going fishing, and you put your bait in, and then the fish come. That's what motivation is like. You've got to put the bait in, you've got to do the initial work of putting a bit of bait on a thing, throwing it in, you've done that two minutes of work, oh the fish have come, okay cool let's get to where this is awesome. That's exactly how we get motivated.
Speaker 1:It doesn't just come. You might be lucky one day and a fish just flaps out lands on your feet. Who knows? I don't know, maybe happens. But the chances are you need to go and do the initial work.
Speaker 1:And then motivation will creep up. And then you use that motivation to do more work. And then progress happens, then more progress equals more work. And once you build momentum, it's hard to stop it. But once it stops, you gotta rebuild it.
Speaker 1:But it's hard to rebuild momentum, so we have to keep the momentum going. So the when you think of things, right, if you did something for two weeks every day for two weeks, you stop for a week. If you just maintained for that week you stopped or did something small to keep the ball rolling, you will find that the momentum would have kept its pace or would have been still there. You could have picked up better than if you come to a complete halt. A lot of you will be like, oh, well, the weekend, they're going out, so I'll start Monday.
Speaker 1:No. You're literally cutting off the momentum you've built. Stop stopping. Keep going even if it's slow and you slow. God.
Speaker 1:It's not the best. Even if it's slow, it's better than not moving at all. You gotta do it. You have to. What options do you have?
Speaker 1:Like, why are you listening to these voice notes? If you're not listening to these voice notes to do something, to take action, it's pointless, if you're just gonna listen to them go yeah yeah it makes sense yeah all sound cool and just do nothing every day what's the point? Don't listen to these if you're not going to do action, you have to take action today you have to do something. Even if it's small it's not about big action like it's not, it's literally about doing something small every day that's gonna improve you. Like reading, I've always wanted to get into reading since I first read books, know, 16, I think one of the first books, was like Harry Potter, then I read Alan Sugar's biography and I was like, I really want to read more and I couldn't couldn't really get into the groove.
Speaker 1:Was like why can't I read all these books? It's like you don't just magically read every day, you got to make it a priority to do it like anything else. You gotta work on it. You gotta do it. And then eventually, it becomes second nature, becomes a habit.
Speaker 1:Now I read every morning, read every night. But it's habit now. Like, it doesn't just happen. Like, you know, and you you think of the superpower reading gives you. Reading, you know, there's books.
Speaker 1:All answers, all thoughts we've ever had as human beings are in books probably. Right? So the more we read, the better as long as we action it. Don't read and action it. Make sure you do read and action it.
Speaker 1:That's more important. But the the habit of reading will change your life. The habit of daily walks will change your life. The habit of tracking will change your life. Right?
Speaker 1:In Silicon Valley, when they talk about apps, and you know, what metric are you measuring because the metric you measure is the one that improves. Okay, guys, you got a company, you got an app, what metric are you measuring? Oh, we're not measuring anything, we're just building. Well, you're not going to get good at anything in the EU, you're not measuring anything. What metric you measuring?
Speaker 1:Oh, we're measuring user retention on the app. Okay, good. That means user retention on the app is gonna improve. Oh, when where our metric is revenue. Okay, that means revenue is gonna improve.
Speaker 1:It's the same in your life and your fitness. What are you measuring? Are you measuring your weight? Are you measuring your performance and your steps? When you start measuring them, you can see where's going right and wrong, and you'll improve them.
Speaker 1:But if you're blind as a bat to these measures, and you don't want to listen, you don't want look at the measures, because you're like, well, I don't want to weigh myself because it feels bad doing so. And I don't want to don't wanna track what I meet them because I think, like, that's bad for you and all. Well, you know, the the chances are you're gonna be in the wrong side of the equation, meaning you're gonna gain weight over time. And, you know, that is the consequence of gaining weight, being overweight, potentially obese, which, know, you look at the stats in America, something like two out of three people are now obese or something like that. It's like these are things we have to these are things we have to come face to face with and be like, the world, the majority of the world is heading towards an obesity, essentially pandemic.
Speaker 1:That's what's happening in the first world. Right? That's where we're sleepwalking into it. And by trying to be too PC and nice about these things, what we do is we end up tricking ourselves just to feel better by ourselves in a day, and we don't take the action required. And what happens is when we do become overweight or obese over time, and we don't do exercise and stuff then we're gonna have bad health right.
Speaker 1:Of course it's true that you can be you know overweight quote unquote overweight and healthy by having activity but the thing is once we go the other way the momentum is building when we're gaining weight and we're not exercising that compounds into no exercise, weight gain, that's going to turn into a shit show. But if you're overweight but you're exercising you're working towards it your health will improve drastically very fast and it improves very fast as weight comes off, less pressure on the body, less stress, you're being active, your heart is improving. All these amazing things that happen when we bring our weight down to our like, you know, more like natural range. And we do exercise. Don't be scared of taking action in this regard.
Speaker 1:Because you think the other people will think it's badly tracking or people who think it's dangerous to track. Well, it's probably more dangerous not to track and have no clue what direction we're going in. And then in a few short years, we'll be thinking how the f did I get to here. Oh, I could have tracked and probably been tracking that measure and I wouldn't be here and it would have been that simple. Yes.
Speaker 1:Why didn't I do it? Well society was supposed to PC be great on social media told you that it's bad for you, and you just went on with it. And that's kind of the lot that's what's happening now. So do make sure you understand that what you measure is what you improve, and you become your own scientist. Becoming your own scientist, you can take many measures, and we can look at how we're going to improve them.
Speaker 1:And that's gonna put you on top. It's gonna make you feel in control of your life. And if you're in control of your health, you're in control of your happiness. It's as simple as that. If you're healthy, you can move, you can run, you can play with your kids, you can go to the gym, you can jump, you can do all these basic things that most people just can't do, you're gonna feel like a proper human being, you're gonna feel happy.
Speaker 1:And if you do the gratitude and you know what, I'm so fortunate, like, I've got this fitness and health, you're gonna feel on top of the world. And that's where true happiness comes when we feel we're on top of things, think. When we know we're healthy, we know we're doing the best we can for ourselves, kids, our family, blah, blah, blah. So I'll leave you with that. You can't do it.
Speaker 1:So I'll leave you this. You can do it. Right? The uncomfortable truth is you can do it. It does require measuring a few things.
Speaker 1:Right? It does. The outcome is you can improve those measures, and you just have to have the guts to push past. You have to have the guts to do the uncomfortable stuff. And you have to have the guts to do stuff when people aren't looking.
Speaker 1:And you'll get to ultimately where you want to be, or you'll either revert to just being in groupthink mode like a layman. And then you'll hate yourself in five years time by just following what other people did just to feel better or secure in that moment when actually that wasn't what you wanted to do. And I'll leave you that guys. And to live your life one day at a time, that's it. And support Wales.
Speaker 1:We're playing Italy on Sunday. England playing Scotland Friday, forget about it. In Wales versus Italy on Sunday. We could go through as group champs. We could not.
Speaker 1:Let me know, please. And that's it. Thank you for listening to the one day at a time podcast with your host, Scott Fleer. Hopefully, you understood something I said. I hope that some wisdom kind of distilled through into your mind, and I want you to now action it today.
Speaker 1:I don't want you to think about tomorrow. I don't want you to think about yesterday. I don't want you to think about leaving a review on this podcast. I don't want you to think about going to another website. What I want you to do is as soon as this podcast ends, you will take action and make the most of today.
Speaker 1:Ground yourself today. Follow the one day at a time philosophy, and your life will change.
