Why Are You Getting In Your Own Way?
Welcome to the one day at a time podcast with your host and the future leader of The Republic Of Wales, Svalfuyler. Now this might be the only podcast in the world where you actually have to reduce the speed instead of increasing it. However, what I wanna get over to you is that the past is gone. The future doesn't exist. So if you wanna make the most of your life, you've gotta make the most of these moments every single day.
Speaker 1:And this podcast is gonna help you live a healthier, more fulfilled life, hopefully, giving you some wisdom to take away every single day. So I'm gonna shut up now so you can get on with listening to the next episode. Good morning everyone. Okay. Let's get straight to it because I wanted to bring back some of the old wisdom.
Speaker 1:So when we first did book club with Turtle, we did Atomic Harbits followed by Obstacle is the Way. Now this is an underrated book. Well, I wouldn't say underrated, but just not on everyone's radar. It's a very short and easy read by Ryan Holiday. It is based in stoic philosophy, but with many other stories to back her up.
Speaker 1:So the obstacle is always an awesome book. I'm just gonna give you some quotes from the book, and help you through because I know a lot of people. This is the tough time of the year because we're in the middle of summer. You know, some of us feel, I should have been x by the I should have looked like this by this time. You know, maybe holidays have been canceled.
Speaker 1:Motivation's dwindling. Training's a bit boring. Oh, do I stick to my macros? You know, we kind of going into another valley of despair type thing and I know a lot of people feel it. So let's just go into this book, explains how those feelings and stuff and actually going towards those obstacles is probably the best route for us.
Speaker 1:Okay. Put this crisis in front of you, you're wasting it feeling sorry for yourself. Life speeds on the bold and favors the brave. Okay. Yeah, it sucks, but life does favor the bold.
Speaker 1:The path of least resistance is a terrible teacher. Terrible, you learn nothing from it. So you know the hard stuff we learn most from, we know that it's deep down but we refuse to accept it in the moment, we have to get used to that. Most of us sit frozen before the many obstacles lie ahead of us. Yep, wake up, maybe you go on your phone, you scroll in Instagram.
Speaker 1:And you know, you got loads of work to do. And you're like, oh, I got loads of work to do, you know exactly what to do yet you're not doing anything. Right? We need to get out of that, click out of it. We need to take bold action all the time.
Speaker 1:We need to move forward. We need to remember we've got today to live. It's the only time we are guaranteed and sense this moment on. So what we're gonna do, just scroll and numb in our brains or we're gonna get on with things. Right, let's do it.
Speaker 1:Okay. Andy Grove, CEO of Intel, bad companies are destroyed by crisis, good companies survive them, great companies are improved by them. And I hope we are as total are in the great companies we know before we started, before the pandemic, we never did live workouts. We didn't have a membership, we did do challenges, but we decided, when the pandemic hit and we were in the first lockdown, I was like, we have to do live workouts. And also like, we set up a little small business group and we were like, right, let's get people onto these live workouts for as cheap as possible.
Speaker 1:And that's when we did like pay what you want. And we got thousands and thousands of people on these live workouts because everyone was in a state of shock and panic. Since then, it grew. We're like, what can we do for like a challenge that is completely, completely revolutionary in terms of like the last challenge is cool, but let's go next level. And that's when the Octagon came and that was a big challenge.
Speaker 1:And since Octagon has kind of gone from strength to strength. So, you know, when we do go through these times, and I know a lot of people like don't be pressured on people to improve through pandemics and stuff like that. I get the sentiment of that because you shouldn't people are going through stuff is hard to take things on and it's, you know, it's just some people lost their jobs and it's easy to say when you haven't lost your job and stuff like that. But there's definitely opportunity in in these moments, and we have to have the coverage to take them and all our people pull us down into kind of mediocrity because, you know, we do only have a finite amount of time and we should try and make the most of it. And we can't do anything about something like COVID.
Speaker 1:We just can't do anything about it. So we have to accept that and see what we can do. Turn every obstacle into an advantage, similar concept. The things which hurt instruct Benjamin Franklin. Correct.
Speaker 1:Rockefeller like all great investors could resist impulse in favor of cold hard common sense. Well, that is an important skill to have, isn't it? Because if you can have a cool head and not be pulled by impulse or emotion immediately, you will to me, you'll have way more you'll like you basically make better decisions all around. Something we all gotta work on. Unhelpful perceptions can invade our minds, it can throw our compass.
Speaker 1:Yes, indeed, Ryan Holiday. We can be blind led by these primal feelings or we can understand them and learn things. Okay, like kind of chimp management, like we can think that we're all with just one thing, but our emotions are us, our thoughts are us and we blend everything into us, but actually when we zoom out and we can tell like, okay, that's the chimp mind, see emotions, this is me. That's because of bad habits in the past. It's kind of automating my behavior, all this stuff.
Speaker 1:You can kind of segment it out. We will not be so blind by our primal feelings. Nothing is either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. That's true. You know, this is classic daily weigh ins.
Speaker 1:Daily weigh ins aren't good or bad. I mean, in the sense, you get them out. You're just stepping on a on a scale and a few numbers pop up. Whatever you think about it is missing good or bad. You think about it, piece of data, put it in the app, let the app do the work.
Speaker 1:You look at the you look at the number and go, that is my self worth all in that number. And if that's gone up, I am a disaster of a human being. So you can have two different people with two completely different viewpoints on it, and that's why it's neither good nor bad. And there's there's so many things in life like that. So many things in life like that.
Speaker 1:There is the event itself and the story we tell ourselves about what it means, And that story is the important part. If your story about something is always negative, pity victim stories all the time. And look, not to dismiss true horror stories and stuff that's happened to people that with them for life and have to live with it. Tonga in general, the people who haven't dealt with those extremes. We need to make sure the stories we tell ourselves aren't the pity party stories because it can really get to us and it can pull us all down and pull everyone around us down as well and you see what happens then.
Speaker 1:People don't spend time with you. Tranquil courage in the midst of a tumult and serenity of soul and danger which the English call a cool head. Yeah. Don't know if that's spelled wrong but yeah, cool head is essential. The English call it a cool head.
Speaker 1:Well done English people. Nerve is a master of defiance and control. I guess it's on me then. I don't have the luxury of being shaken up about this or replaying close calls in my head. I'm too busy and many people are counting on me.
Speaker 1:It's a quote. And we get a plan and then throw away for a good old emotional freak out. Some of us almost crave sounding the alarm. It's easier. What I just said, the pity party.
Speaker 1:Ping, ping, oh my god, this sucks. Oh my god. Here's the plan. Use the plan. Right?
Speaker 1:Stick to the plan and it's gonna work over time. Just proven. Stick to your macros, do the steps, drink your water, do the work as when you can. The plan is clear, right, but you can make it as hard as you want. So sorry, you can you can you can always do it.
Speaker 1:But in the end of the day, we all know we sit, we go to bed in the night, we sit down, we all understand at the deepest level it is up to us and we can decide to ignore that stuff and just get on with things. We can do it. We all know deep down there's a choice. We do. I understand believe it.
Speaker 1:Alain de Botton says in one of his things, know, insomnia is thoughts that you kind of don't deal with in a day. And you kind of emotional freak out. And it gets to the night and you're like, you know, I could have really just like not done with freaking out to my mates every second, like telling them gossip and then someone else, someone else, someone else. And everyone's like, my god, freaking out about something that really doesn't need much more attention than a few seconds. Okay.
Speaker 1:So let's get on with things. Okay. So we need to make sure we stop doing that. As Donald says catastrophizing. Stop doing it.
Speaker 1:Okay. Few more guys. Real strength lies in control, domestication of one's emotions not in pretending they don't exist. That's true as well and this is like the Stoics didn't think that the emotions didn't exist but the domestication of one's emotions, that's a great phrase isn't it? Like we're not our thoughts, but they can be wild dogs.
Speaker 1:Can we tame them down? Speak to us. Rationality, do it. Maca ceruleus looked at roasted meat as a dead animal, vintage wine, old fermented grapes. See things how they are.
Speaker 1:Don't be fooled by the end result, the the glossy emoji, Instagram picture. See things as they are. Celebrity, human being. Yeah. We look at loads of things.
Speaker 1:We just see without a car, piece of metal, some rubber, tires, class. I pay $50 for our police. No. No chance, mate. No chance.
Speaker 1:If you, you know, if you are cynical way of looking at world, well, it's a way to not get it's a way to not be a slave to these things because these shiny objects can can enslave us. We need the new thing all the time. Hey, Apple got me. Apple got me in this I'm a slave to Apple. No doubt.
Speaker 1:As you know, iMac, I need it. IPhone, I need it. There's benefit to work for me and I'll, you know, I love working on these tools. But beyond that, I'll try and limit it. And I think all of us need to work on it, %.
Speaker 1:Shiny objects. They can take you guys, they can take you for all your worth. Okay. Objectivity means removing you. What happens when you give others advice?
Speaker 1:Their problems are crystal clear to us. The solution is obvious. With other people, we can be objective. And this is it. If you can take if you can give advice to your best mates and then flip it and then give advice to you, the same advice to you and take it, boom, you're sorted.
Speaker 1:Okay. So take your situation and pretend it is not happening to you. So if any of you struggling with health and fitness now, you've got a plan, you've got the support. Someone comes to you, I'm honest plan, turtle membership, you know, they're giving me my macros, got weekly check-in, plenty of workouts, runs in the app, got live workouts and I just, I'm just not getting anywhere. Now what's the advice you give to your mate there?
Speaker 1:You go, all of you, you got weekly check ins. Have you got like any Q and As? They got Q and As on? When you go on a Q and A and explain your thing and see if you get any advice. When you message one of the coaches on the app and ask for some advice.
Speaker 1:When I reach out to some of the members and ask if anyone's been through the same thing, when I just put a message in the group and ask for some piece of advice. Do the weekly check-in maybe, just make sure you do a week and send it in, see what the data says, you might need some changes. There's many ways that you can go ahead and start building small bits of momentum, but some people refuse and they go, it's not working, what do I do? And there's many ways forward, but the way forward is always ask for help. What's that Dumbledore phrase when he says to Harry Potter?
Speaker 1:He says something like, he said, my greatest skill is No, my greatest creation is the help will always be given to those who ask for it. I talk about same as turtle, help will always be given to those who ask for it. But if any of you are struggling, get in touch, please come on. We've a new challenge coming soon as well. So that's gonna pump you all up to do some of the new for a bit.
Speaker 1:New macros app, if the ones when it'll be new update today, I think. And, more support, we're gonna try and do more support with you guys. So we're not like leaving the the weekly email check-in. You can use the weekly email check-in for more just chat conversational advice versus like checking data. Let the app do that.
Speaker 1:But if any of you ask for bit, please reach out. We're here for you. This is a community built for you guys. So please make the most of it. And that's the lesson from today.
Speaker 1:The obstacle is the way. What's the obstacle in your way today? That's the way. End of. So go towards that obstacle, punch it, maybe pick axe.
Speaker 1:It's not smash it. Think of Ryan Libby's face on it and right hook, boom. Straight in, you go straight through it. Yeah, that's what I'm gonna be doing. Really bam.
Speaker 1:It'll be Dean Leak, Dean Leak mindset. But enjoy your day guys and right action follows the right perspective. Enjoy yourself one day at a time. And that is it for today's episode. So hopefully you took something away from it.
Speaker 1:If you didn't, here's what you need to take away. Stop wasting time on social media. Stop wasting time gossiping. You've only got a day to live. Today's the only day you ever have.
Speaker 1:So if there's anything to take away from this podcast, even if you can't understand the word I say, even if you didn't resonate with the wisdom I try to deliver, this is a reminder of you daily to live one day at a time. Give your moments meaning today and don't be fooled by thinking you've got unlimited amount of days But if you can make the most of today, I'm telling you, you'll have a fulfilled life. So enjoy your day and hopefully I'll see you back tomorrow.
