You have permission to eat whatever you want
Good morning everybody, it's day two week two. So some of you might still not have started properly, some of you are full steam ahead, some of you are just picking yourselves up from a weekend but again let's just smash today that's all we can do. Now we did a nutrition seminar last night with Doctor. P, please do listen to it the last fifteen to twenty minutes is Doctor. P busting myths and obviously nothing is black and white, really there's always nuance to stuff so Doctor.
Speaker 1:P's tried to squirm in saying yes and no and I get it because he doesn't want to be with those people that just says black and white yes and no's but that's a good segment for you to listen back to and any questions that come from that you of course have access to our email with a nutritionist, one to one email address you can do in nutritionturtle dot com if you wanted to clarify anything as well or wait till next seminar. But a few things I want to raise that came up and what Doctor. B spoke about is the philosophy of turtle is You have permission to eat every single food, any food you want. That permission, the permission to eat anything the keys to freedom. So when you don't give yourself permission and you say one food is off limits and one food isn't off limits, that breeds fear basically.
Speaker 1:It breeds anxiety. It breeds fear and worry, and it breeds essentially psychological conflict in the mind about whether or not you should be eating this and that. And when you think you and we know this. It's a classic human thing. Like, we want what we can't have.
Speaker 1:Like, why is that such a thing? Right? Why is that a thing? But it's just true. Like, it's just for some reason we do want what we can't have.
Speaker 1:And therefore, that's why kids when you say you can't do this they more likely do it. It's something weird and I don't know the exact psychological reason behind it but it seems to be true for most people. So if we can get rid of this like you know, the forbidden foods, right, and we let them all open, what happens is our craving for all these, you know, quote unquote forbidden foods or problem foods actually melts away. And you see this on an extreme scale like if you look at Portugal who had a big drug problem, all they did was they made all drugs legal or I believe like they made it you know everything decriminalized drugs completely. And, you their their drug use and crime use has, like, gone way down.
Speaker 1:Right? When you grow up, when things are forbidden, smoking or you people start, like, oh, taking weed and this and this, underage drinking and there's more of an excitement to do it. A fight, there's conflict. We tend to gravitate towards things that in the end that we can't have and then we want them because we can't have them. So remember the big psychological win from and they mentioned I think it was Jessica, one of the groups she was in saying that the ability to eat whatever foods you want going into the weekend is freeing and as long as you understand that it's just about moderation and portion sizes that's essentially where we've got to be on point with happy days.
Speaker 1:No longer does food rule your life, no longer do the forbidden foods squeak in the corner going yeah you want me but you can't have me. No, I can have you, mate, shut up. You sit over there. I can have you any time but just don't want you. How's it about that?
Speaker 1:How's it about Doritos? Yeah, you think that I can't have you but I can, but I don't want you. Power goes away from my food. Do know what I'm saying? Then we moved on to another important topic which was, you know, should we eat all the food on our plate?
Speaker 1:Right? Now the studies show over time plate sizes have gone bigger. And as plate sizes have gone bigger, we've eaten more food because we've eaten to finish the plate. And there was another study done then on giving people the same amount of foods in different plate sizes and actually you know, it clearly showed that the smaller the plate, the smaller their food intake and also just the still in tune with kind of the satisfaction. So once we've cleared the plate satisfied, right.
Speaker 1:Obviously if you go to one of those Michelin star French restaurants and they give you a blob, they give you a little blob of soup and you go, yeah, mate, you've taken a piss. That's like £150. Or like two foods and it's literally licked off a plate's gone. And those are extreme things. But in general, we tend to, want to complete things, don't we?
Speaker 1:But when it comes to someone offering us food and the family saying you know, eat, finish your food, it's bad to waste. We really have to question that because when you're kids it makes sense. Know, eat your food, get your calories and energy and get your veggies in. It makes sense to kind of ingrain it. But as adults, I look at it like this, I look, this food is going to waste, Okay, so I really don't eat them full and if I do eat I'm gonna feel terrible and I'm valuable to this world and my friends and I'm not feeling terrible.
Speaker 1:So why should I force this food in me and if I did this all the time I'd feel worse and worse. So how can I limit the wastage of his food? Well one I can put it in a container and put in the fridge and have another time because I'll have macros again tomorrow. I do I when I eat out a lot especially Lebanese foods and I always tend to order a bit too much, they tend to just pack it up and then I take it home. If you've got a dog, can the dog have the food that's not going to waste then?
Speaker 1:Else is it? I didn't even know if can you put food in like compost or something? No. Let let me know if that's another thing. Like there's ways it doesn't have to just fly in the bin.
Speaker 1:For some most of you there's probably, you know, you can save it for another time or there's you got, you know, a dog or whatever to have it. So that's another way. You feed it to the birds. I don't know, to give it to nature, give it out. My mother throws bread to the birds all the time.
Speaker 1:And I'm like, mommy, when I go home I'm like, why is there 50 birds that's in my bedroom? So you're oh yeah, you're throwing flipping bread up there to give it to him like we're doing. But yeah, so there's ways to reduce the waste. There's no such black and white like if I don't finish it, it's gone to waste. That's just again one of those first impressions that we need to question whether it's true or false and if we should take it on and be like yeah I am wasting actually no.
Speaker 1:It's better for me not to waste. It's better for me to eat till I'm full and then if it is a bit too much then over time I will adjust my portion sizes, will order less food when I'm out, I will tell people to give me less upfront and stuff like that until I kind of get it bang on most of the time while I'm eating to fullness and not overeating, not ordering too much food, with that. So then you know, I think was it Emma Radhikanu put a photo up in like when she was in Singapore and there's a poster on the wall being like, remember not to overeat, don't overindulge, you'll feel worse about it and all that stuff kind of reminding people about it which is a good reminder people should have in restaurants over here. We tend to over we overeat and waste but yeah, we can need to be more intense, that's all. The next point is I did a poll in the nutrition seminar asking you know, have you ever changed your friend's mind on a fact they believe about health and fitness and in general anything that they believe in.
Speaker 1:So someone might say, oh you shouldn't eat chocolate bars bad for you, Slimming World says no. Seventy percent of people said they have not been able to change someone's mind. And this is an important point because as you progress in this fitness journey you tell people, yeah I'm doing this thing to it and they go, it sounds stupid, doesn't sound right. Oh it's always an automatic negative reaction. And it's something it's weird that that we have there.
Speaker 1:Like, I remember growing up and, you know, playing Xbox and stuff like that and, like, me and my friends are playing and we'd always argue about stuff and we never agree. So like someone would say something about some fact like, oh he lives in America, that gamer tag Angel of Evil, like oh no he lives there. And then it's kind of like we're just fighting over Punker Singh like no one wants to be wrong. And actually it's just really stupid why it's an automatic conflict. Like I remember those moments all the time, those gaming moments, everybody would just always be arguing, no one will ever agree on anything.
Speaker 1:That's a natural state. So when you do tell your friends about stuff you need to think about when you tell them, you need to ex ex expect, kind of a what's the word? Negativity back. Right? So that's fine.
Speaker 1:You need to accept they're gonna give you what they think is right. And, obviously, most people are not clued up on what's right and wrong when it comes to nutrition. And then you're gonna be then you're gonna have to understand you're never gonna change your mind. So if you do, like doctor p had some good advice is is to first of all say to people, is there any evidence I could supply to you that would change your mind on why you believe about that fact? And they will say no.
Speaker 1:And then you go, okay, there's no point. Right? It's pointless. I remember I speak to my cousin a few weeks ago. He's like talking to stoicism.
Speaker 1:I was like, mate, like, you he was saying that stoicism is about not having emotions. Was like wait a second, like that's not even, we can't even have more discussion about this unless we start from facts. Stoicism is not about having no emotions, it's about understanding our emotions and responding. Can we agree on that? And it's like, then you go, okay.
Speaker 1:Okay. Yeah. It's okay. We can agree on that. Let's move next step.
Speaker 1:And you can see his hesitancy there. It's like, oh, he doesn't believe it. So we're better off not even telling people about what we're doing health and fitness wise. We will show them through our actions and actually when we start losing weight or getting fitter and stronger, we're eating all the foods we want to do, we're still mental health improving, we're happier, we're more joyful, we've got a little boost in our step. Then people start asking actually what are you doing?
Speaker 1:And that's how you actually bring people in and you kind of become a leader essentially within your groups is actually if you just like Epictetus says, the stoic philosopher two thousand years ago says about, a sheep doesn't tell the farmer I'm eating this grass, look at all this amazing grass I'm eating, look at looking farmers like, the sheep will just show through its wool the results of its eating and what it's doing. It doesn't need to say, we'll just show it. And that's what we're gonna do, we're gonna embody the turtle method, turtle philosophy and it's gonna show and it's gonna radiate from us. We don't need to say about waste our energy on people that we're doing this and fighting this and intermittent fasting and keto. Let them believe what they want.
Speaker 1:Only when they decide they're open to change they will change. You can't force someone to change their mind or change something, that's something I've had to learn. It's about when you talk about helping your friends and stuff, some people just you you can give them all the best advice in the world, you can literally hand them an opportunity, a path to take that would lead them to a better healthier life. And they refuse, they don't do it. And it's just a sad reality.
Speaker 1:So we're better off leading by example and if people want to come and ask questions and with helping away happy days, we're not going to force, don't waste your energy except you're gonna wake up and your friends and family tend to be the ones that actually are the most negative towards any health and fitness change you do. That's just the sad part about it but actually then like just not letting it impact your relationships, just leave it there because it can turn into a messy messy thing. Does that make sense? Now to finish off a voice note, day two of week two, you know, realistically now some of you have been listening to the seminars, voice notes, some stuff and your mindset's on the change and all that. Now remember like change isn't gonna happen straight away.
Speaker 1:Right? You might feel tomorrow you might wake up today feeling wow and pumped and you've got the support of the WhatsApp group. Some of you might be like I still don't care it. There's a huge kind of scope of how people are feeling right now. And going into the next week there's something called the valley of despair to be aware of.
Speaker 1:And the valley of despair is something that happens a lot on any new journey you take. So it's kind of when you start something new, you're full of motivation, you're pumped up, then like a few days later you're like yeah keep going and then you kind of go, oh actually it's too much information I can't take it all in and then you go into the valley of despair and you end up going back to step one again on another diet a few weeks down the road. But actually understanding when we do have information overwhelm sometimes, we tend to always blame the information. Ah, the information is too much information. Well, if that's the way we try navigate the world and there is too much information everywhere, how do we navigate the world?
Speaker 1:Because it is full of information, news and this and that. We obviously focus our attention and we try and break things into bite size. So if you're still feeling overwhelmed, you need to break it down. There is that planning session to watch. There is the wiki guide to go through.
Speaker 1:There is nutritionturtle dot com email to start emailing and getting some advice, that is just tracking what you eat in the macros app. That is just getting your steps in or doing a workout, there's these singular building blocks we can start doing. And if you feel on the back foot don't worry it's very normal you can still get a hell of a lot from this challenge, trust me. Our challenges before have been, we used to do a five week challenge and then we did the octagon, we did twelve week challenge and we did ten week challenge and then we've done five week challenges and six week challenges. And even in the five to six week challenges, we've seen amazing unbelievable results.
Speaker 1:Obviously with the longer challenges, see bigger results. But it's always about week six to seven that is gonna be a dip as well and that's perfectly normal. So this challenge is still a lot of timing. We've still got a lot of game time. We've got plenty of game time.
Speaker 1:We're never out for the count. Even if you want to the last few weeks you could still, you still got this for life. So I want you all to start remembering you don't have to do everything, you still don't have to do everything, you never have to do everything. And you will be amazed that by taking it step by step, how much progress you're going to make over time. Someone said on Turtle Radio yesterday, stopping the visualization of oh my God, it's not eight, nine weeks and all this.
Speaker 1:And stopping and actually focusing one day at a time is magic and it is. Worry of oh my god, gotta do some nine weeks melts away when actually if you can just do what's ahead of you today. We can get through anything one day at a time. It's one of our total coins. It's absolutely true.
Speaker 1:If we can do something for today, can do it for tomorrow, we can do for two days. If we can do for two days, can do for three days. But the magic is we have to think of the day itself. Right? We have to think of the day in a silo.
Speaker 1:Remember playing rugby and we used to when we used to go ahead and win, you know, score three or four tries and we'd like 28 points up. The coach would always be, it's nil nil. It's nil nil. Don't start thinking of, well, the game that I got sixty minutes left was smashing. Always nil nil.
Speaker 1:It's always the next play the matters. Kept our focus on the play ahead as opposed to, oh, we're cruising it. We're winning. We're easy. And then you know what happens when you think like, you get the counter attack comes, and before you know it, you've lost a few tries and you they're back in the game and you let you've let them back in the game.
Speaker 1:And it kinda there's the same thing with this journey. You can let these, negative things come back in. Let's take it play by play. Even if you're winning, even if you're losing, it's always the next play that is the only move. So for example, you lose in now.
Speaker 1:Say if you look at you think you're losing, quote unquote losing. The next step, there's only there's a positive action we can do as a continuous negative action. Right? There's only two real pathways you can go down next. And it's the same when win in.
Speaker 1:There is two, do you go positive again, we think silo positive or do we go negative and we just let it run away from us. So there's always a decision, the next one. And if we can just keep playing that, we might lose some but we'll keep gaining, Does that make sense? And today, let's build a positive block. Today's a positive block day.
Speaker 1:Get your steps in, track your macros, do your workout, listen to a salmon on a walk, turtle radio, whatever. Don't have to do everything, but again, try and get involved in something. And, yeah, make sure you're in the WhatsApp group. If you're not in the WhatsApp group, please message me, I'll try and help you get in one. And, happy days.
Speaker 1:So let's narrow it down now. It's Tuesday, week two. What is your one big thing today? So one big thing if you just did it, your day would be a success. K.
Speaker 1:Like mine last Friday, doing the VAT return. Oh my god. Just then doing us. Oh, done. I felt so much better for it.
Speaker 1:Even if it didn't do anything else, I felt great. You know, it might be meal prepping. Oh, meal prep done and done. Oh, cool. Right?
Speaker 1:Think about what it is and get it done. And listen back to doctor p seminar if possible. Could fit that in. But guys, enjoy your day. I'll speak to you all soon.
