You need to save yourself + connecting the dots
Good morning, it is week two, day three. So this is Humpty as they call it, this is a time that we can be kind of like the weekends loom in, we've few days in, but it doesn't matter. What are you gonna do today? Again, question I ask you, what are you doing today? That's all I care about.
Speaker 1:And, we build on that. But a message I wanna get across today is that nobody's coming to save you. Right? This is an important thing to realize. I'm not coming to save you.
Speaker 1:And I'm not gonna show up. I was like, Come on wake up. Other people are not going to save you, your friends and family are not going to save you, you ultimately have to help yourself. Only when you decide and you want to help yourself can you then receive help that helps you on this new path. I'm convinced like you can give people the best treatment, can give them the best coaching, the best wisdom and still it does absolutely nothing.
Speaker 1:Right? So you right now in this position no matter how good we are a turtle to give you all this stuff, if you're not acting on this stuff it is worthless. It is worthless. You have to help yourself. The same with therapy, like therapy only works if you actually essentially therapy is guided self therapy.
Speaker 1:They basically guide you to the answers yourself and then you have the moment. That is literally what I think kind of in the experience I've had in other people speaking to them is it's a self therapy thing is they make you realize the answers yourself. They guide you through it And you have to be open to that because if you're not open to anything they're just going to tell you the answers. I got a bad news, it doesn't work like that. Therapy has never worked like that.
Speaker 1:Same with health and fitness, can't be told to do something, you can't be told to eat the meal plan, you can't be told to do this and that. You've got to want to change first of all. And you have to want to understand why these things are happening, the curiosity behind the flexible eating approach. Why flexible eating? Why I allowed to eat everything?
Speaker 1:Well, we do know that if you are just confined to certain food groups, you will retaliate against it and you'll want to eat the things that are off the limits. And why don't we do meal plans? Actually it's up to you to take charge of your own nutrition. It's up to you meal prep, it's up to you to want to eat better. And the same with training, it's up to you to want to understand why strength training has unbelievable benefits for people of any age especially women and especially older women.
Speaker 1:The mental health stuff, oh yeah whatever, it's just a chat. Well no, the more you point to it the more you get back. So this is just your reminder of week two midway that it doesn't matter how many times you listen to these voice notes or listen you join a turtle radio. You have to act right now today. And if you haven't done an act yet, you haven't acted on it and you are you feel like you haven't done your best, today's the day to change your about.
Speaker 1:So today, want you all to, guys, put a smile on your face right now, Get some oomph behind you. You know? There's a theory really that, you know, a lot of people if we ask if I ask you this question, think of the think of your most favorite thing ever to do. So that's something you'd love to do right now. Right?
Speaker 1:Think of that favorite thing. It could be something like going to watch Wales play rugby saying, oh, how can I go? Or you know, that creative pursuit you love doing but you never get time to do like painting or like whatever or it could be to you know, watch our favourite film or TV show, right? Or going to see your favourite person. Think of that thing now.
Speaker 1:Then think of the energy levels you have just before. You haven't heard the news you're going to do this favorite thing. You're just getting through your day, you're tired, you're lethargic, you're just like limping through the day. Right? You say you have got no energy, but then I tell you that your favorite thing is now possible to do right now and you can go right now to do it.
Speaker 1:What happens is like a flip switches and all of a sudden you're booming with energy. Right? All of a sudden you are now energized, are alert, you're happy, you're living presently. Same as like kids when you get to school. When I was in school I was sleeping and sleeping as soon as the bell was finished I was all awake.
Speaker 1:I was awake all of a sudden. So there's a theory that actually we don't lack the energy, it's just we have it blocked up. So we block up a lot of this energy because we're not really doing the things we really want to do. And I feel like a lot of us now we're kind of, we could be sleepwalking through this challenge, know, pulling our toe, pulling our feet, la la la la la, thinking we don't have the energy. We do have it, we have to find those blocks, right?
Speaker 1:And that's what the morning is about, these tiny habits is about. What helps me in the morning to unblock, to make me unleash these energies, I love to wake up and read. I've tried waking up and running. I've tried waking up and doing a workout straightaway. I've tried waking up and going for a walk straightaway.
Speaker 1:I just love the fact I could wake up, have a coffee and read. Because that's what I really want to do and I find a thrill in it. So I wake up and the taps are out, the taps are on, energy is flowing, coffee, read, boom, moments. Then it's a walk or a workout. And I do that then in a better mood and I'm energized and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:And then you get energized from that or a walker workout. And that's what my taps are on. And I find that when my energies do go down, it's kind of when I'm not doing the things that really energize me. And this challenge is about you know, pulling our sleeves up a bit going, know what, I'm not going to know what energizes me unless I put my best into each day and try this strength workouts with an empty mind, like, you know, the Bruce Lee's philosophy of empty the mind, be formless, be lick the cup. Know, for you to really try something new and understand it, you've got to empty your mind of all past beliefs about it.
Speaker 1:So some of you might be like, oh, I'm not gonna do strength workouts because it's just boring or whatever. I'm not gonna try macros out because I believe I can't do it. I'm not gonna try running because I don't think I can do it. I'm not gonna try the mental health stuff because I am fine. I'm not gonna try the mindset stuff.
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna try book club reading. Reading is not for me. It's kind of like we've turned the taps off without even trying. Right? And sometimes you just need to test them out, put them on.
Speaker 1:You will be surprised, guys. You'll be surprised. So if some of you are feeling the funk, it's time to it's time to shape it up. And we gotta we gotta empty the mind. And to be honest, a lot of you do come to the sessions with an empty mind and you learn and you mention how much you learn and you you know, you say all the things about, you know, when we we were doing myth busting the other night the other day with doctor p.
Speaker 1:All this stuff like we you guys do come with an empty mind and some of you have admit you come from a Slimming World background and you know, weight watchers and the sins and all this stuff and this conditioning that we've gone through as people, Slimming World working with the NHS for example, you know, it really is against us, isn't it? It really is against us and it's really hard to empty the contents of our mind or the past conditioning and belief. But only when you it's only when you do that and understand you have to help yourself. That's the magic. That is the magic.
Speaker 1:Empty your mind today, be open to learning. Ask questions, don't think that don't try and interject something, that's not true or whatever. It's because a lot of times we do do this and it's difficult as well to not do it because we do have our beliefs, don't we? And Doctor. P had that great one you know asking people would you change your belief if civilized is enough evidence?
Speaker 1:He's like no I wouldn't. That's kind of where most people are at. But that's what I'm telling you we can't be in that position. We can't be in that position. So today is hump day.
Speaker 1:Today is book club day. If you join the book club, hopefully, some of you are reading it regardless of joining a book club. If you do join it, I'll be happy to see you on that. And I just want today for you to try and think about turn the taps on energy wise. The energy is there guys.
Speaker 1:It's inside you. I know you can get energy from calves and some of you may deficit and you feel a bit low. But for some reason, when things make us feel alive, you know what I'm saying, we we when we know that's coming up, we can go from being very lethargic to actually full on present booming. We can do it. So that means it's possible.
Speaker 1:And if you're and I think something that does help with this is the mindset of saying I can, I get to do this, not that I have to do this? I get to improve myself. I get to do these things. You're very lucky. You're very, very lucky.
Speaker 1:Even if all struggles we go through, people are going through worse ones and stuff, we're very lucky to be born where we are to be able to join, go on a website and pay and join the challenge like this. We're extremely fortunate to have so many different coaches helping us and giving their time to improve us. Like I was speaking the other day, someone about when people are in poverty and stuff like that and there is no thinking about self actualization or self improvement. It's all about survival. There's not even a thought process beyond, yeah I want to try and lose weight or and read books, wanna try and improve myself.
Speaker 1:It's just about thinking of the next penny, there's no money. You know, is this like a single parent or a family where they have to have two jobs to look after the kids and that that job still isn't enough. And it's the kids and then you can't put them into nannies and you can't the luxury that the rich people And it's always juggling and there's no time to even think about yourself, you just dedicate, just get that penny to get your kids through life. And I know so many people have gone through that because I've come from an area where that is the norm, Right? And these people don't think about self actualization, what Maslow calls it, self improvement or whatever we're going to call it.
Speaker 1:So I want you to understand you're fortunate to be able to even think about this today, the self improvement stuff. And some of you have come from, you know, real like bad spots and you've had, illnesses and some people like cancer and overfought that. Unbelievable to to overcome that and still wanna improve yourself. And I I just I find that just so, what's the word? I don't know.
Speaker 1:I find it so impressive that our mindset's possible and it makes me it puts a smile on my face knowing that it is possible, therefore I can do it. I can get through tough times, we can do tough things, we can do hard things like we say. That is that is the gist of it really. We can do hard things, We can get through hard times, and we're very fortunate right now to live in a time where we can look at to improve ourselves today. So please do make the most of it.
Speaker 1:Turn the energy taps on, stop, stop dragging your feet through the day. So we don't want to drag through our feet through life. Let's make the most of each moment we have. Enjoy that workout today, turtle radio, get full in, smile, engage. Because when you're older and you're gone and you're at 75, 80 and stuff like this, you think back with all the things I should engage more, should have done more, should have risked myself more, should have put my, should have, you know, one, think about this, one chat on a Zoom call, you could meet someone else and they could change your life.
Speaker 1:Look how many friendships that I had in Turtle. And that comes from speaking up in a WhatsApp group, chatting on a Zoom, putting yourself out there and some are going, oh, you from there? Okay, yeah, let's have a chat. Then next thing you know, you're like best mates like a year later, and then the entire trajectory of your life is different. But it takes courage and you've got to be a risk taker and essentially you've got to be willing to risk.
Speaker 1:You you think you're going to look foolish for talking out or coming on Zoom or chatting, but you won't look foolish at all. And it is brave because it is, you know, nerve wracking sometimes. And I always talk like I do these like business seminars for like Welsh entrepreneur hubs. And I talk about the Steve Jobs quote that says you can only join the dots looking back, not forward, but you have to trust that they will connect when you look forward. And I say that quote and I go through my business journey, my essentially life journey since I was 16, explaining to them like, it all connects now looking back.
Speaker 1:But at that time that risk that was all, it was a big risk or at the time I was so unsure of myself but I tried anyway. And you start connecting these things and you're like wow, that is phenomenal. Like for example, setting a website up when I was 16, a health and fitness website up at 16. I was like I just want to learn how to get my website ranked in Google, learn how to build websites, I'm really into fitness right now so I'm just writing articles on health and fitness. My English was terrible because we're in an all well school so my English grammar was really bad.
Speaker 1:Putting his post up and trying to rank in Google, eventually started ranking in Google because I was learning how to use SEO which is search engine optimization. And then on my way to university, I get a phone call, like an email and a phone call from the guy who runs, Cardiff's And he's like, yeah, I want you to do SEO for my website because I can see your ranking in Google for some health and fitness terms that I like. And he was like, where do you live? And can you work from Cardiff? And I was like, I'm actually on my way to Cardiff now to university, like I'm staying in the Valiant Court.
Speaker 1:He's like, well, my shop is there. And it was literally 200 meters down the road. You can't make it up like. But that's hard to me put my head out there putting really shit websites online and just be posting stuff and the English is terrible, the content backed by research and you look back them now, it's terrible. Then you know that turned into me having a job at a nutrition shop whilst I was in university from day one and learning more about how he coaches people and how he was coaching physique athletes and bodybuilders and athletes and rugby players and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:You know, and then learn more skills by helping his store, is making, you know, way more money than I was ever making on the website. You know, then you net then I could go on for ages, the next thought was I was sitting in Nando's on New Year's Eve on my into second year of university and someone messaged me saying they wanna buy my website, One Stop Muscle. I was like, I don't know how old I was, maybe 19. And I was like, yeah, I'm desperate for cash. I'm in debt.
Speaker 1:I got no money. And I was like, yeah, I'll sell it. Sell it for a few grand over, you know, those quick transaction done, PayPal, job job done. And I remember that. And I was like, that wouldn't have happened.
Speaker 1:I didn't risk it. And then, you know, that money then went into me creating rugby warfare, is the equivalent of the health and fitness one, but for rugby. So instead of health and fitness articles, it was more about how can we help rug young rugby players improve their performance and on pitch, you know, skills, basically. And that's where that idea came from because I was like, what can I do now? I've done that.
Speaker 1:What can I do now? And I saw a gap for that. And I did that my second and third year, you know. And then I risked I did a business competition with an idea to turn it into an app about a magazine, rugby magazine. And then one guy in the panel was like, yeah, really like what you're doing but that little segment on your website there doing like rugby, clothing, that's cool.
Speaker 1:I think you should double down on that. I was like, that's interesting. And then I didn't go with the app and then I went to another business competition next week with that idea to do clothing and then I won it. And I had some funding, I got some t shirts in. Just like the And that's just from a like a personal point of view, like a business y point of view.
Speaker 1:But you know, you can you can you can see that equivalent in total because I wanted to build a business and I was putting myself in these communities of these like competitions and chatting to people and mentoring a business thing and chatting to other entrepreneurs online and learning from man. And can just change on turtle just about we want to be better human beings like health mindset wise. And actually, if you want to make the most of that, you have to engage in the community. And I engaged and turning up to the end of turtle event, in the challenge event and chatting to people and like learning about what they're doing and then brainstorming and this and that. It's exactly the same thing.
Speaker 1:Right? You look at and then you this that type of challenge or time breeds kind of like success stories like you pass on to other people and the other people pass on others and some people will start new businesses, some people will jump to quit their jobs, some people will, you know, end bad relationships because they've improved the health from Turtle and you know, when I look up the bodybuild.com for forums, which there was a business section back in the day where we all spoke about websites. You know, the owners of Gymshark were in that same forum chatting about this. The owners of Aesthetic Revolution, ASRV with millions. You know, the owner of Hera London, which made millions.
Speaker 1:Like, there was a small community online in the corner of the internet that are all chatting and helping each other and then end up creating these huge brands. Same with the PayPal mafia. PayPal was the combination of Elon Musk's company and Peter Thiel and they came together to create PayPal and when they sold PayPal, a lot of the founders, a lot of the people who worked in PayPal went up to create YouTube, Yelp, Tesla, SpaceX, what else? Just loads of huge companies and that again formed from that little hub, that community. It's where the action is.
Speaker 1:It's where it all happens. Humans chatting to other humans, sharing ideas, getting to know each other, common goal. Over time, stuff just clicks, things just happen, life tends to work that way. So that's my little spiel for you guys about engagement in the community and chatting. Please do so if you want to do some book club happy days.
Speaker 1:But I can't promise anything because we can't connect the dots looking forward only backwards, but do trust they will connect. So have a good day everyone. Get your one big thing done. Have a smile on your face. Get some oomph in your day.
Speaker 1:Put those taps on and enjoy yourself. And I'll speak to you tomorrow.
